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Is depression taken seriously enough?

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Peaches · 14/04/2001 00:03

I've had depression for three years and to me it seems like the modern society still has not moved forward in this area.I feel that it is not being taken seriously.My G.P handed out prozac and for a while I believed I would get better taking this drug everyday.I haven't taken this drug for four months now and I don't miss it.In fact I can't work out what it actually did for me.What I needed was to be able to talk.I had therapy sessions (only temporary mind you then she left and never was replaced),they were the best thing for me. I could vent my anger out about how I felt and she would never judge me just ask me to think about why I was actually feeling the way I did. I not saying the drugs should not be used, but the doctors should not hand them out so easily.The older generation were always told to get on with their lives,feeling depressed and low was not a complaint you went to the doctors with twenty years ago.Does anyone else feel they haven't been treated the way they should have been. We need greater support barriers, we do not need to be waiting months on the NHS waiting list to see shrinks.

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Peaches · 20/05/2001 19:55

Star,I have visited the home-start site and registered my interests with them.Hopefully they will contact me in the next few days.Hopefully they are available in my area.Hope you are all ok.

Thinking of you,
Peaches

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Jodee · 20/05/2001 21:04

Hi Peaches, I've not been on this thread for a while and was sorry to hear about your daughter, hope she's OK. I hope you are managing to get some rest, I know it's easier said than done with 2 little ones to look after, but please try and put your feet up whenever you can; doesn't matter if you don't get a nap in, just resting your body will help. I think someone's mentioned iron tablets, but they worked for me too. I wondered if you had a helpful Health Visitor that you could chat to about things?
We are all thinking of you,
Take care

Winnie · 22/05/2001 09:02

Hi Peaches, how are you?

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Peaches · 23/05/2001 20:40

Hi Winnie,

Thanks for asking how I am,how are you?Are you ok?I'm feeling really shattered,I haven't been posting because I've been asleep by about 8.30pm recently.I am feeling abit sick right now too.You forget quite quickly what to expect when you're pregnant.I still haven't heard from homestart.I contacted them Sunday.Maybe I will hear soon,they are probably really busy.Please keep in touch Winnie,I look forward to seeing your messages.

Take Care,
Peaches

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Winnie · 24/05/2001 08:36

Peaches, Poor you... as you say it is a good thing that we soon forget the horrid symptoms of early pregnancy, we would be a world of single child families... I found ginger good for the sickness (I use it now on car journeys, as since my second pregnancy I get travel sick although I never ever did in the past, which is weird). The exhaustion though, you are doing the right thing not fighting it and going to bed and sleeping.

In answer to your question; I am fine. I am looking for a job and I am trying not to let going through the rejection process have too much of a negative effect on my psyche, although it can be soul destroying. I know there is a job out there for me, I just haven't found it yet!

Good luck with the homstart scheme, I hope they contact you soon. How are things with your children?

I do hope that your day has been okay. Thinking of you. Best wishes Winnie

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Peaches · 24/05/2001 19:25

Hi,

Things are too good today.I am having problems with my eldest daughter.I am very stressed and wishing that something has to give soon or I am going to crack.My husband is feeling the pressure too.We feel like we are giving her all we can and she still is pushing us even more.

Take Care,
Peaches

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Winnie · 27/05/2001 20:15

Hi Peaches, How are things going?

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Peaches · 27/05/2001 22:28

Hi Winnie,
Things aren't great but they aren't too bad either.I'm just coasting along.I am really tired but that's nothing new.Thanks for asking anyway.Any news on the job front yet?What is it you want to do?I hope you are doing ok.

Speak to you soon,
Peaches

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Winnie · 31/05/2001 19:07

Peaches, where are you? How are things going?

Hedgehog · 01/06/2001 12:01

Dear Peaches,

I've joined this discussion late because I don't often have time to look into Mumsnet. I hope you are feeling better today. I know how drained and tired you feel but don't give up hope. Try to hold onto happy thoughts and the idea that things will get better, there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Have you tried meditation? it can be very relaxing and can help reduce stress. Homeopathy can help but it takes a relatively long time for the remedies to show any results. A good cry on an understanding shoulder is very therapeutic! I know it is difficult but try to find some time to pamper youself a little, or just relax.

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Peaches · 01/06/2001 19:36

Hi all,

I was in hospital Wednesday night with bleeding and pain.Thankfully though Baby Bean is alive and well.I am 8 weeks gone and the baby's due on 18th Jan 2002.They can't explain the bleed but I've been told I've got to calm down.I told them that's a bit difficult,my daughter is not getting any better.Anyway that's why I haven't left a message but thanks for asking if I am alright.I'm annoyed with Homestart,I've emailed them twice and still no one has got back to me.If they can't help me I wish they'd just let me know.Anyway I will message over the weekend.
Take Care,
Peaches
P.s Hope you are ok Winnie,I have been thinking about you.

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Jodee · 01/06/2001 21:56

Peaches, that's so awful for you, you must have been frantic. Hope you are feeling loads better today.

Please take good care,

Best Wishes, Jodee

Winnie · 02/06/2001 09:23

Hi Peaches, thanks for thinking of me. I am fine. But poor you! How awful. But don't worry yourself too much (easier said than done, I know). At seven weeks pregnant with my baby boy (who we were already referring to as 'the alien bean')I had horrendous pain and had to see a consultant etc, etc, We were convinced that I would miscarry, especially when I began to bleed... however, amazingly that little bean is now an extremely healthy and bouncy 7.5 month old!
The miracle of life; I am constantly in awe!

As for the Homestart thing... how frustrating (to say the least)...but you really must not take it personally. Also, you really MUST try to relax and let things wash over you a little. You MUST look after yourself.

Best wishes

Janh · 02/06/2001 14:58

peaches, have you asked your HV about home-start in your area? might be a quicker route...fingers crossed for you for the baby!

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Peaches · 02/06/2001 22:13

Hi all,

I've got a crap Health visitor,all I hear when I have seen her in the last year(once or twice)is that she has 700 hundred mums to cope with in her area so basically that's why she never returns my phone calls.She also has study days on Baby clinic day so I haven't bothered going cause I know my little en is putting on weight plus the fact she's never there.I live in a crap area with crappy resources.God I wish I didn't,I could really do with some help.Anyway sorry about the language,I'm feeling stroppy tonight.Bloody hormones!

Love to you all,
Peaches

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Winnie · 03/06/2001 08:35

Peaches, feeling stroppy is better than feeling down! thinking of you , Winnie

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Peaches · 03/06/2001 22:57

Thanks Winnie,

As long as I don't feel stroppy all the time though(ha,ha!)Hope your day went ok.Today was ok,had probs with the stroppy daughter but that's nothing new.

Take Care,
Peaches
P.s How's the Job Hunting going?

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Winnie · 04/06/2001 07:56

Peaches, Hi. The job search is not going well. I feel over qualified yet lacking in experience. Plus I am having second thoughts about work involving commuting and thus leaving the children for 12 hours a day! It is such a balancing act. I am not sure where I am going with the job search at the moment. I have clear goals but at the moment it is proving rather unachievable partly because of finances (and the expense of childcare) and secondly because I am attempting to get into a job I've not done before but am qualified to do (although related to my previous job). My partner is starting a new job in five weeks time (it is the job of his dreams, right now)and he will be working longer hours and all these things have to be taken into account. We have agreed that it may take some time but I must persevere to follow my dream but frankly I do feel like the clock is ticking. Ho hum,

How are you doing? I hope that you are feeling better following your hospitalisation(?) How are you feeling about being pregnant again? (If that question is too personal please don't feel you must answer.) Any luck with Home start? What have you been doing today?

Best wishes Winnie

Janh · 04/06/2001 08:41

peaches, was your daughter born between jan/feb 97 and jan/feb 98 by any chance? if so she is a buffalo/ox in the chinese horoscopes and they are ALL stroppy. (m thatcher is one for a start.) my second daughter was born in 1985 so she is one too and she has always been harder work than my other 3 put together...
don't know if this information will help at all!

Debsb · 04/06/2001 15:10

Janh, my youngest was born in July 97 & we used to say she had '666' tatooed on her forehead! What are those born in 95?
Peaches, hope you're feeling better soon. I had bleeds woth both my children, the only pregnancy I didn't bleed on was the one I lost. Apparently it is very common, although very worrying. Most usual about the time you would normally have had a period.

Janh · 04/06/2001 19:40

debsb, i don't know where my book is but i think 1995 is a pig, which is a very sociable and hospitable sign (despite the name!!)

buffalo-ox kids seem to be the most difficult to live with but it is worth being very firm with them - my daughter (who is still VERY VERY stroppy VERY VERY often) says she thinks it was good for her that i was so strict with her because - she thinks - she is less unpleasant sometimes than many of her friends...
(still pretty unpleasant though - flies off the handle at the littlest thing - thinks house rules don't apply to her but applies her own rules vigorously to everybody else - any of this ring any bells out there???)
as well as being stroppy they are "interesting" - people like rory bremner, boy george and charlie chaplin are buffalos too...

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Peaches · 04/06/2001 20:42

Janh & Winnie & all,

My eldest was born May 1998,what sign is that then?.I Know she's a Taurus,the sign of the bull.That suits her down to the ground.I finally heard from Homestart today and they do not have a service up and running in my area.So that idea is out of the window.I don't know what other options are available.About being pregnant,it bothers me that we are finding hard to cope now let alone when baby bean pops into the world.But we will cope somehow,we will just have to.The tiredness isn't getting better.I can be sitting there and suddenly wake up and my hubby says I've been asleep for half an hour.Winnie,sorry that the job prospects aren't great but keep wanting your dream job and I know it will come along.Hopefully sooner than later.Anyway hope you are all ok.

Take Care,
Peaches

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