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Do you remember hurtful comments from your past?

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thedogmother · 03/03/2005 21:20

I remember when I was about 14, a boy told me I "had no neck". Well, I don't have a swan-like neck, granted, but this comment has never left me.

I also remember being v. proud of a new perm that I'd had (about 15/16) and was going out to a local disco with my cousin. There was a boy who lived near her who I quite liked, he was really nice and friendly, and I remember asking him if he liked my hair, and he said "yeh, it's alright at the front but the back is a right mess". Never forgotten that either.

Or the time that a girl I worked with said "xxx's eyebrows are like coat-hangers". Never forgotten that bitch either.

I'm sure there are more hurtful comments from years past that I will never forget. How about any of you?

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sykes · 05/03/2005 01:58

Sorry, don't mean to disrupt the thread but wanted to say hello to jasper.

Pinotmum · 05/03/2005 08:13

MummytoJames, I don't know what to say hugs

Cam · 05/03/2005 09:21

mummytojames, I am and very on your behalf.

marthamoo · 05/03/2005 09:46

Some truly awful memories on this thread

I was a very late developer - didn't start my periods 'til I was 16, was stick thin, no boobs, no curves. And I went to an all girls' school...bitching heaven. I remember getting changed for PE one day (I was about 15) in the communal changing room (what mind from hell dreamt those up?) and holding my shirt under my chin while I changed, for modesty. Another girl in the class said "Why are you doing that? You've got nothing to hide." and the whole room laughed as I went bright red.

Even my best friend once brought in an article from The Sun for me - about a girl who hadn't started her periods and it turned out she was really a "boy" (ie., no womb or ovaries) Gee, thanks pal.

My Dad has also made some hurtful comments over the years - I had spots because I didn't wash enough apparently, my nose would be like Grandad's when I grew up (Grandad had the biggest, most hook nose ever - I spent years looking at it in profile in the mirror waiting to see the first sign of hookiness appearing) and when I told him my (4!) A level grades..."is that all?"

Well I have boobs now, and my nose is a nice nose so Yah Boo Sucks to you all!

suzywong · 05/03/2005 10:14

Trefusis - fantastic revenge scenario you have their

My secondary school days and insults washed over me as I had to toughed up pretty quickly at primary school; was one of the only non-council estate kids and on top of that had a southern jessy accent in Cheshire. Really found out about inverted snobbery there.

My nother has a tongue like a rapier and she doesn't realise when she is being a cow. When I was excited about being pg first time and making a bit of a big deal about frequent burping saying "that's the baby making me do that" she said "that's right, give the baby a guilt complex already" Oh and through my teenage years she would often say "you're mad, I'm going to refer you to the educational psychologist"

She is a headmistress and likes to hand down incredulous sneers when I don't know something and if I have got defensive or the wrong end of the stick she likes to say "oh you big clown or a gobbin"

When I called her to let her know my first pg had ended in a missed abortion mc she said "well I had a feeling about it as last night I dreamed I went to an art gallery and there was a tiny baby hanging on to a picture frame and has I walked past it just let go and slithered down the wall, so I was right". She genuinely didn't know why I was upset about this.

Sadly, I have learned to dish out hurtful comments very rapidly as a defense mechanism and have recently considered myself to be free from this pattern of behaviour.

My mum's coming in four weeks, shoud be good.

jasper · 05/03/2005 11:09

Hello sykes how are you?

jasper · 05/03/2005 11:11

and why up so late last night?

regards insults my exh once told me he did not fancy me any more as I was too fat. I was 9 stone 4!! ( I am 5'4'')
I joined a gym made lots of friends got in the best shape of my life and got divorced.

KoalaBear · 05/03/2005 11:23

my DS was constantly vomiting from 2 weeks old (at the time, undiagnosed reflux) and my MIL said to me it was "clearly my breast milk that was making him sick" and that I should think of my son and put him on formula!

i breast fed him for six months

lou33 · 05/03/2005 11:29

jasper, had the same comment here

motherinferior · 05/03/2005 11:38

Oh yes, I've had the too fat one from the ex. Also the 'I do want children, but not children with you in fact I don't think you should have children at all' one. I am also STILL paranoid about my ankles, after someone told me I didn't have any, once, and my legs went straight down from my (really rather chunky) calves...

....this was, I think, when I was 16. I'm 41 now, FFS.

geekgrrl · 05/03/2005 11:40

when I was about 12 my parents started telling me every night that I was too fat (I was about a stone overweight). At 14 and stil a stone overweight I was put on a diet by our GP, and haven't really stopped worrying about my weight since, apart from a brief period when I was at uni and put on a bit of weight again (still well within normal - we're talking size 14 at 5ft 10in). My father quickly crushed that when he saw me looking at myself wearing a new swimming costume in a mirror and felt the need to comment on my chubbiness.
A year later I was so underweight that I dropped out of my MSc course, my liver enzymes were all over the place and I was waiting for an inpatient bed in an eating disorders unit.
Arses.
I come down like a ton of bricks on anyone who has the cheek to tell dd that eating a biscuit will make her fat.

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thedogmother · 05/03/2005 12:25

OMG I feel so bad for starting this thread! Was feeling a bit down and realised that I do remember when people have been nasty to me, although mostly it's from when I was a kid/teenager.

I also have a bit of a moustache that has been commented on.

I also used to get called Iris Ironing Board (cos I'm flat chested) or Aspirin.

BUT SOD THE LOT OF EM. We know how lovely we really are.

I feel I have some good friends at MN!

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KBear · 03/05/2005 21:30

We are bea-u-tiful, no matter what they say
Words can't bring us down

For once, Christina got it right!

I've just read all these and a multitude of horrors came back to haunt me. Although I am still a woman of little self-confidence, I do have a husband that loves me and two wonderful kids and fantastic parents so anyone that has ever upset me can eat shit and you know what....

expatinscotland · 03/05/2005 21:32

Nope. I've got a memory like a sieve, thankfully. But I'm very, very careful about what I say to all children. They're so young and so easily hurt.

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