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Do you remember hurtful comments from your past?

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thedogmother · 03/03/2005 21:20

I remember when I was about 14, a boy told me I "had no neck". Well, I don't have a swan-like neck, granted, but this comment has never left me.

I also remember being v. proud of a new perm that I'd had (about 15/16) and was going out to a local disco with my cousin. There was a boy who lived near her who I quite liked, he was really nice and friendly, and I remember asking him if he liked my hair, and he said "yeh, it's alright at the front but the back is a right mess". Never forgotten that either.

Or the time that a girl I worked with said "xxx's eyebrows are like coat-hangers". Never forgotten that bitch either.

I'm sure there are more hurtful comments from years past that I will never forget. How about any of you?

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Evesmama · 04/03/2005 10:08

well your most definatly not mummytosteven, plus your one of the nicest most helpful and compasionate people on here and i think your great

mummytosteven · 04/03/2005 10:11
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dinosaur · 04/03/2005 10:12

Other kids at school used to go on and on about my funny walk! I never quite figured out what precisely was so funny about it but I was really paranoid about it for years!

Toothache · 04/03/2005 10:12

Demented - Are you my sister??

SleepyJess · 04/03/2005 10:14

Oh God mummytosteven how horrible! Well you are clearly not ugly.. Steven's Daddy obviously doesn't think so does he! And also, beauty is only in the eye of the beholder anyway.. and is usually only skin deep! Besides I bet you're lovely!

One horrid cow who I had the misfortune to have to spend most of primary school and some of secondary school in the same class as, once called me a real scruff and said all my school uniform looked second hand! (It was! ) I always felt inferior around her after that.. until she left to go to grammar school in third year secondary (good riddance.) Another cow a bit later on than that called me 'seriously unfashionable!' It was non-uniform day and I had thought I looked quite good!

Dh was called 'dumbo' re his ears and 'speccie-four eyes' re his glasses.. all through school. Fact is, the man is gorgeous.. (glasses and ears nothwithstanding ) and a fair few women have obviously agreed with me.. prior to me arriving in his life obviously!!

SJ x

expatinscotland · 04/03/2005 10:15

Just remembering reading interviews of Uma Thurman in which she recounted being told she was the ugliest girl in school by bullies. Wonder who's laughing now!

Toothache · 04/03/2005 10:16

I notice a pattern here... how many of us had our weight criticised by our Mum? Why?? It still sticks in our minds all these years later.

I hope I'm never so insensitive and shallow as to make my dd feel overweight (unless dangerous to her health) or unattractive.

alicatsg · 04/03/2005 10:16

my mother telling me that I was no daughter of hers because I didn't like the scottish music she was playing at full volume. I had german measles at the time and she was drunk but I remember it vividly.

Evesmama · 04/03/2005 10:16

i aws a prime target in my first year of seniors..overweight, wore glasses, was quiet..then by third year..i found my voice!scrapped the glaases and started to take shape(big boobs), so all those who took p**s out of me were either envious of my ample bussom or asking me out!, sod em! an elephant never forgets!
especially loved it when left school, lost masses of weight and went back for vist to school and p.e teacher(bitch) didnt regognise me!

northstar · 04/03/2005 10:18

After a sex-ed discussion at school asking my dad "was I wanted?"............
"Weeeeeeellllllllll, your mum wanted you"

emmatmg · 04/03/2005 10:33

Yep.....ALL from MIL.

Here's a few of her little gems......

Said to DH when Ds1 ws 5 weeks old "xxxxx is not my grandson and good luck to you if yo uthink he's your son"

Said to me " your Dad is dead so why hasn't your mother got any money?" (She'd lent us the deposit for our first flat together...we didn't ask for it)

That I had forced Dh to stay in the relationship and have a baby, get married.

Not a comment but last year she walked past me and the Ds's in the street, it would have only been the 2nd time she'd seen ds3 but she walked straight past. She also ignored all the Ds's birthdays, including Ds3's first.

Believe me there are so many I could tell you all but Thankfully after the birthday thing I realised that it was getting unhealthy for me to have so much hate and loathing for her and I'm surprised to say I forgotten alot of the things she screamed, shouted and bitched at me.
The stuff I've listed above will stay with me forever though and just typing out makes my blood boil. I depise the woman and hope to god that I never have the misfortune to see her again.

Demented · 04/03/2005 11:06

Toothache, it's the mediteranian roots and the Scottish skin tone that's to blame IMO.

Toothache · 04/03/2005 11:08

Definitely Demented.... are you SURE we aren't related???

Demented · 04/03/2005 11:21

Spooky!

Toothache · 04/03/2005 11:48

'tis rather. I've got Italian in me from my Dads side of the family. Very dark/black hair, dark brown eyes.....and healthy Scottish blue skin!

colditzmum · 04/03/2005 12:12

My father once shouted at me all day because he was in a foul mood. When I asked him what I had done wrong, he told me it was my mothers fault for having me, and the sound of my breathing drove him insane. I was seven.

colditzmum · 04/03/2005 12:14

And when I was 17, someone walked past my boyfriend and I and yelled "I don't like your's much" to him. I was mortified and spent the rest of the evening in tears, that I was so ugly that a complete stranger had felt moved to comment on it!

Janos · 04/03/2005 12:17

From my step-mum -

'You shouldn't have a bottom that big at your age', when I was 14 years old and not all overweight . One of many such thoughtless comments, sad to say.

Mind you, now I really do have a huge bum maybe it's OK, now I'm 30?

Blimey, now it's all coming back.

joash · 04/03/2005 12:20

My MIL, who is normally great said to her Dh in front of my DD1 (recovering bulimic) - if she was my daughter I'd have her on a diet!!!! DD is not even overweight and MIL is bigger than her anyway.

Janos · 04/03/2005 12:20

Was it a man, colditzmum?

I always remember, after splitting up with my boyfriend walking round to my friends house, in tears. I don't think it needs saying that I was not in a good frame of mind.

As I crossed that road, some bloke leant out of a van window and yelled 'God, you're f*ing ugly'.

Nice man. GRRRR.

Miaou · 04/03/2005 12:23

Sad though it is to read all these hurtful comments, I am in some way comforted by the fact that I am not the only person who remembers what was said to them many years ago. I suppose it comes of being so sensitive really. And yes, a lot of cutting remarks I remember are courtesy of my mum, the queen of tactless comments!

Janos · 04/03/2005 12:34

Mym mum had some corkers. A particular favourite 'You looked so awful when you were covered in spots, ha ha ha!'

Gee, thanks mum.

Iit awful that these nasty comments stick in our minds so much. Why do people feel the need to be so unplesant?

Miaou · 04/03/2005 12:38

Janos, I had bad acne as a teenager and most of my mum's hurtful comments were about my spots - she acted as if it was my own fault for having them and even suggested that I didn't wash enough! Plus I was always hearing "well I had perfect skin as a teenager" - well, lucky you

Janos · 04/03/2005 13:01

Miaou, snap!! My mum never had spots either. Iremeber her forcing me to go to the doctors because it wasn't normal.

To be entirely fair, I think with my mum it was just a complete lack of tact rather than an active desire to be unpleasant.

dawnybabs26 · 04/03/2005 13:18

At school I had a lot of really hurtful comments about my red hair, some of them a bit graphic!

But being stubborn, I simply refused to dye my hair and just let it grow as long as I could possibly get it.

What's most annoying is that some of the girls, since leaving school now have dyed red hair!