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Do you remember hurtful comments from your past?

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thedogmother · 03/03/2005 21:20

I remember when I was about 14, a boy told me I "had no neck". Well, I don't have a swan-like neck, granted, but this comment has never left me.

I also remember being v. proud of a new perm that I'd had (about 15/16) and was going out to a local disco with my cousin. There was a boy who lived near her who I quite liked, he was really nice and friendly, and I remember asking him if he liked my hair, and he said "yeh, it's alright at the front but the back is a right mess". Never forgotten that either.

Or the time that a girl I worked with said "xxx's eyebrows are like coat-hangers". Never forgotten that bitch either.

I'm sure there are more hurtful comments from years past that I will never forget. How about any of you?

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Branster · 03/03/2005 23:17

oh joash

joash · 03/03/2005 23:18

She was like that and meant everyword. Don't have anything to do with her or most of my family - Her loss

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Bearess · 03/03/2005 23:23

Too right Joash, it's her loss.

bobbybob · 03/03/2005 23:29

"you are really strong and organised" from a now ex boyfriend. Technically a compliment, but not really.

"nobody likes you and nobody wants to work with you" from a now (thankfully) ex boss. I was 17 weeks pregnant at the time, so it all seemed about a million times worse.

Anybody who has ever said anything about my bouncy walk, my tendency to talk a little loudly when excited, my long neck, my height...

joash · 03/03/2005 23:35

What about "Well you have a pretty face" from people wanting to pay a compliment, but can't get passed my size aaaarrrgghhh!!!

nightowl · 03/03/2005 23:51

some bloke once told me as i went past that i had a saggy arse. i was paranoid for years after that until i got so many compliments about it that i now consider it to be my best feature. never mind showing my face or boobs...so long as they only look at my bum im ok! (tis the only part that isnt saggy)

Smurfgirl · 03/03/2005 23:54

Yes. In my first yr at uni this girl was a right meanie to me, and her and her boyfriend concocted this mean texting campaign against me. I remember all the texts, especially the one that said I was ugly and fat and worthless

jabberwocky · 04/03/2005 04:19

Kind of makes you want to buy that t-shirt that says "Mean people suck" doesn't it? I mean why are some people like that? I just don't get it. Never have. But, I'm glad that I don't, otherwise I would be like them.

lou33 · 04/03/2005 08:53

i can't even bring myself to think back to my school days, the shit i was given by one particular group of girls. Have had a few devastating comments as an adult as well, and i remember them very well too, especially ones from my h

HappyDaddy · 04/03/2005 09:08

I went all through my schooldays being called Frog's Legs or Froggin, play on my last name and being head and shoulders taller than most of the kids and teachers. I get called it to this day.
I did get my revenge by catching and kicking the sh*t out of them, though!

Gumdrop · 04/03/2005 09:09

Oh yes, I remember all of them and the people who said them, and the time of day and how cr*p I felt.

But, perhaps the questions should be should you remember hurtful comments? Most of the comments on this thread patently don't apply to us now, and didn't actually apply to us then.

Sometimes people are insensitive (being generous) or just plain old horrible, and I don't think that will ever change. I am trying very hard not to carry round with me the bad feelings that those comments, some of them decades ago, resulted in, because the only person who will suffer if I don't is me.

That's not to say that I don't hope that the relevant people will get their come-uppance one day. I am human after all .

Look- mild psychobabble, and no mention of "self actualizing"!

Gumdrop · 04/03/2005 09:21

Oops - killed it!

Toothache · 04/03/2005 09:24

I remember loads of hurtful comments.... wish I didn't. Some of them were from my Mum and Dad about my weight. And I wasn't even over weight!!
Comments about how I raise my children.

At school I remember someone saying I had moustache! I didn't leave the house for days after that. Wish i didn't let things people say get to me, but I do, and I dwell on them.

cornfield · 04/03/2005 09:33

yeh loads one can remember well was when I was looking through the wedding dress brochure that had a really figure hugging Alfredo Angelo dress which was the one I had ordered (and paid for myself) was only 24 and my mother said "Oh, I like that one pointing to some lacey 1900's style very not me one, satin makes you look fat" (was about 9 stone in those days so not fat at all)...

expatinscotland · 04/03/2005 09:34

Nope. Thankfully, I've got a memory like a sieve.

Gumdrop · 04/03/2005 09:44

Oh what the hell..........

Teacher to 9 year old me, pony mad child of poor family in very well to do small village.

"You can't come on the schoolpony trekking trip because no one wants to share a tent with you."

Oh Mrs Farrant, if I could get my hands on you now!

lou33 · 04/03/2005 09:46
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TinyGang · 04/03/2005 09:51

I do have quite a long memory when it comes to insults.

This thread is so sad though because so many of you have had such nasty things said to you by your own parents I can't belive some of these!

northstar · 04/03/2005 09:52

My dad used to introduce me as "this is my daughter, she was nice when she was little"

northstar · 04/03/2005 09:56

and when i was 7 he made an appointment with my school teacher to specifically request that I be excluded from all singing and musical activities because i was tone deaf I was so upset.
I was there when he asked her and she more or less told him to get lost (in her lovely teachery way god bless her) but i never did sing again until ds was born - he doesnt care how bad my notes are!!!!

Demented · 04/03/2005 10:02

Toothache, you and me both with the moustache! I am now a slave to Jolen.

I was unfortunate enough to live in the next street from most of the bullies so have many not so fond memories of bumping into them on the way to the shop or School.

One thing I do remember is that if you caught one of them on their own they weren't so big and so smart. On two occasions I have had one of them start on me when they were on their own and have had the satisfaction of getting my own back, on girl I pushed because she was being really nasty and she fell back into a big puddle and one boy I took by the neck of his jumper and told him what I thought of him. With the result that I was only bullied by groups rather than individuals, hmmm!

The comments that stick out most in my mind and hurt most are comments about my weight, unfortunately from my Mum.

mummytosteven · 04/03/2005 10:06

oh god yes. I try my best to forget them, and am genuinely of the posters who just can blank them out.

comment at 9 years old from pretty, popular, bitchy girl in my class "you're the ugliest girl in the world".

also got called ugly by my mum.