What do u think about my situation?

[MyGreenShaker]

Do u think I'm stuck and have a routine?

So I'm a 31 year old turning 32 in December and I never had a bf still living with parents and I've been working at McDonalds for 11 years I don't have any friends I just work and come home. but i sometimes go shopping by myself after work or with a coworker. on Sundays when i get out of work i go out with my parents. But Monday and Tuesday I go out with my mom & go shopping.

I wouldn’t have said anything. She however did not say that so…

Id be bored out of my skull but then we all have different needs and likes and dislikes.

Being stuck is just a frame of mind. You don’t have to be stuck - you could apply for new jobs or to go to university or start going out on the local karaoke circuit or join a running club or a craft circle. You’re only stuck if you feel stuck.

I think working at Maccies is a red herring - my DS works there, can pay his rent and bills, enjoys the work and gets on well with his colleagues.

Only having your parents for company isn't that healthy in my opinion. What happens when they get older and eventually pass away? Who would be your support, what would you do in your spare time?

Having a varied life is good for all sorts of reasons. Have you got any hobbies, do you read/study? Do you live this way because one/both of your parents find it hard to let you go? Do you have siblings? What are their lives like?

Only you know whether this life suits you and you're happy but since you asked what people thought, if I was your relative I'd be worried about you.

I would question -

• if you are living with parents by choice?
• if you've had career progression working for McDonalds? i.e., are you staff/team lead/manager in those 11 years.
• if you want a partner? And if so, have you tried looking for one?
• why don't you have friends?
• and as others asked, are you happy in general? If not, what are you doing to change the "situation"?

So, when your parents are no longer around, and you have no friends or social network what are your plans then? Do you travel? Do you see places? Experience things?

Honestly the fact that you refuse to elaborate on why you want other people's opinions, and indeed why you care what other people's opinions are, says a lot more about you than your living situation. It suggests that either you aren't bright enough or articulate enough to express your thoughts, or that you are so self-centred you don't regard the rest of the people on mumsnet, who you are asking to do emotional work for you with this thread, are quite "real" or worthy of respect so don't deserve an explanation.

Most 31 year olds are mature enough to know what they want from life and work out what steps they need to take to get there, or get as close as they realistically can. Either you are happy with your life as it is, or you want things to change. Nobody else's opinions should matter in most circumstances unless you are holding back some vital piece of information which would explain why you are doing this thread instead of just getting on with it.

@MyGreenShakerdo you a learning difficulty or additional needs?

The real question is whether this is the life you want, or capable of giving you the life you want. You need to ask yourself:

• Do you want a partner and if so how might you meet someone?
• Do you want friends (rather than just co-workers you sometimes go shopping with)? If so, how do you plan to make friends
• Are there other things you would like to do that your current situation prevents you from doing (eg. things you can't afford, activities you're interested in but don't do, holidays you'd like to go on but wouldn't work solo or with your parents etc)?
• Are your parents happy with the situation?
• Presumably living with your parents and not going out much means you don't have high living costs- are you saving for a time when you might want/need to be more independent?
• If you plan to stay with your parents indefinitely what would happen if they became unwell in older age and needed to sell the house to pay for care? (or if they rent, if they are no longer able to pay the rent)
• What do you expect to happen when your parents pass away? Do they own the house and if so do you expect to inherit? What would you do if you can't inherit it (eg due to care debts/expenses)?

intheshadyborder

Do you realise that many people exist who can't "progress" to higher positions or independence? For lots of people, eg. with learning difficulties, just having a job is a huge achievement, especially one they've held for 11 years. Life doesn't have to be exciting; it can just be.

I agree with most of what you said except the above. Why do people equate learning difficulties with retail/ hospitality? Maybe people don’t want to do the commute or they want their job to finish when they get home.