Hi ,
My stepmum readily will tell us to get out for the smallest of mistakes a 23 yo would make , yell, complain loudly enough for us to hear outside our bedroom door. Have a tantrum if there is inconvenience due to you ie left me at a service station because I was late . Lock the garden doors after I use it . X4 Passive aggressive notes everywhere. Control over curfew whilst I am a young adult. Ruin memories I made as I would recieve threatening texts telling me to get out when she never told me not to go out late or even cares about my wellbeing. Assumed I was having hookups when I wasn't.
Cuts off WiFi for everyone at night when angry her daughter didnt sleep, when she can just take her phone instead.
When we dont do anything to warrant it , we avoid her and listen to her many instructions thats ridiculous.
Everything always is catered to her.
She Would always go from 0 to 110.
Wrong tone ? She'll tell you to get out.
You agree to open door for plumber and tell her I am downstairs, when she asks you for the 4th time and your annoyed , and she starts yelling if your not going to open the door for the plumber get out.
And you respond, I am downstairs what is the problem ? Calmly and confused.
Everything is always if you dont listen to me get out. When I was listening in the first place or apologise if i broke her rules by accident ie she didnt tell me she had a hidden rule but then threatens me to get out.
Its as if she thinks women need to be trapped . She recently came here from a third world country and brought her restrictive views but that doesn't explain the random rages at the most non threatening situations and making me feel unwanted. And throwing around get out the house frequently and easily.
She also feels entitled to receive rent from us , whilst treating us like this .
How is this fair? If you want to profit from us , treat us well and then we'll give you our hard earned money gladly. But why should we give you money if you made our lives hell?
I have a feeling she's been using her stepkids as money making machines. Because otherwise she ignores us. And gossips about us. Knows my father doesn't talk to us but it works for her.
My sis refused initially to give her money for rent but is forced to pay rent .
Is this some kind of abuse ? Is she being manipulative? She is a fierce woman and forced her way in here and got a green card without meeting us eithier .
I told her she was crazy , she repeated I was crazy to hurt me. And in her anger told me I was a mute to her mum . Gossip about my uni failing. Said to her friends she cohldnt wait to kick me out. Smirked I think when I looked frustrated but I can't be sure.
She's good at hiding her true self. She says she did nothing wrong. Good at validing everythig she does . Is she a covert bully? Or just got anger issues?
Can anyone please give me advice , because on the outside, it looks like she's mad because I did something wrong ? But I swear she's doing this on purpose to punish me for being here. And wants to cause me suffering.
It's hard to prove it.
She's equally controlling with her daughter but never tells her to get out as frequently and as easily as she has with me.
She did kick out my older bro due to him getting mad due to something she caused. And me eventually I got mad at something she said and my anger was too much. Ie she told me to leave the house in 3 days .
She's always wrong and assumes we're being rude when we are not, and then argues.
And we are like , what's the problem? Your causing issues out of nothing . Making mountains out of a molehill .
Ie she was convinced I was lying
. She was convinced someone coaxed me to leave the house when she kicked me out etc.
I asked her why she is always so angry . There's no problem?
I always would appease her.
Also she kicked me out for something she caused . I didn't do anything wrong.
Thank you .
Sorry if it's too long .