The best piece of advice you ever received

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What is the best piece of advice you were ever told?

Good times bad times all times pass over

Bizarre most important advice seeing as true narcissism is so rare you've likely never met someone who was one

Everyone is a narc these days.

Think about what YOU want, no really think about it. No what others want or what society tells you to want or what people on social media want. What do you want ?

now go make that thing happen. It will be easy now you are focused. Do a bit every day.

this can change your life

So true!!!!

I must remember this when I reply on Mumsnet and someone else pulls my post to bits - it like they take some perverse pleasure in putting me down - even though I'd given a polite well thought point of view.
Pulling me down really doesn't strengthen your opinion- there is room for both.

Sorry.
Hope you get better, fighting this 💩.
It is very true and for myself, I'm looking forward to retiring from society, so to speak.
Take care of yourself. 🍀

This too shall pass.

Don’t label your children. ‘The clever one’, ‘The scatty one’ whatever.

Spend your money on hair and shoes, save on clothes.

Don’t live your experiences through your phone screen.

Controversial but. If going through something terrible, stress and depression etc. Sometimes a good walk outside is actually the best advice!

I’m not a people pleaser but MN has made me be stronger in rejecting things I don’t want to do with the phrase “That doesn’t work for me, sorry.”

I have used it quite a few times and it has always been received in the polite manner in which it was delivered. Invaluable.

Put your own oxygen mask on first I.e. you can't help anyone if you don't look after yourself first.

@ElinAlma My first husband was a true narcissist - as in the most cruel man I've ever met. But as you say, I'm (fortunately) very unlikely to come across another one.
He is incapable of change because he believes himself to be truly perfect. He genuinely could not identify one flaw in himself if his life depended on it.

To stay away from men.

Yep, I got pretty much the same advice.. I was 19 my boss at the time was 48. 27 years in the same company I paid into that pension and I'm 52 now and it's looking great.

Don't cry over anything that can't cry over you.

Excellent thread to read! Thanks everyone! I’ll be saving them all

Never accept criticism from someone you wouldn't go to for advice

@heartsinvisiblefury that is spot on

My aunt called it 'f... you money'.

I know someone else who was told the same as you . He signed at 18 and is now getting a good pension and lump sum . He said if he ever saw the bloke who persuaded him to sign that piece of paper he would shake his hand and buy him a pint .

Too many of us are spending money we don’t have on things we don’t need to impress people we don’t like

You’re going to have lots of critics in life- don’t be one of them!

My Dad once told me:-
‘If you can’t afford to pay cash, then you can’t afford’.
Very wise words.
He obviously wasn’t talking about mortgages, etc.

How did you take money out before retirement age?

Not any kind of deep, philosophical advice, but great practical advice from my Nana:

When you’re shopping for a dress, choose one that shows cleavage OR legs. Never both at the same time.

That nugget of wisdom has served me well over the years!

Life isn't fair and bad things happen to good people.
It's not as negative as it seems! It's more about not expecting fairness (that will inevitably lead to disappointment) and misfortune can happen to anyone. I have found it to be a helpful view.