The best piece of advice you ever received

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What is the best piece of advice you were ever told?

A true narcissist is incapable of change so don't waste your time trying.

Keep doing what you are doing until someone tells you otherwise. Nobody ever says "great job, carry on", they only ever say "that's not what I want, do this instead".

In the absence of the latter, assume the former.

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Only smarties have the answer.

Just worry about what you can do here and now

Don't marry an arsehole.

I had a health problem that would not clear up and a Dr just kept giving me antibiotics that weren't working.

Another Dr called me for some reason and I told her that I was taking all these antibiotics. She said "Stop taking them then." I waffled on about how the Dr had told me to take them and I couldn't stop. I was blaming the Dr.

She said, "You're the one putting them into your mouth and swallowing them."

That's advice that's stayed with me and changed me. Take responsibility. Stop blaming other people, you're an adult.

The personal bill of rights.

Don’t worry about the opinions of people you wouldn’t take advice from. Really made me give far less of a crap what people think!

“Enrol on the pension scheme, it’s free money”(21 years old in 1999, advice from a 45 year old work colleague). Thanks Neil!

'Don't get involved' - one my Dad uses, a gentle reminder to swerve anything that doesn't concern me

Don't sweat the small stuff.

Everything is small stuff.

Be yourself because everyone else is taken

Don't let them suck all the energy out of you and destroy your life.

Is it's nothing to do with you or dosent concern you then don't worry about it .

Narcissists accuse others of being narcissists.

Also the mantra of cowards and the self-serving…

My favourite bit of advice is “you wouldn’t worry so much about what people think of you if you knew how seldom they do.”

Don’t always believe what you think.

Excellent read!

Put half your salary into your pension in the year before you retire, then get it back, tax free as part of your 25% lump sum

What's for you won't go past you

Wipe front to back.

"I think you're being really self-indulgent" - helped me view a scenario in a whole other way and change my approach.

Not advice but a general principle - no one is going to do it for you.

Sometimes ‘good enough’ IS good enough.

Told to me by a former boss when I used to flagellate myself at work because of a very demanding client. He was right and it was a turning point towards me pulling back room my workaholic tendencies.

Don't tell anyone your plans and ambitions.

Just get on with it all quietly.

Not everyone wishes you well and some like to see you fail.

And even when you do succeed, no need to broadcast it.

Don't be afraid to speak out.

90% of the problems that are posted on here could be avoided if the poster had simply said something.

“You think you can win arguments by having the right answer. You can’t. You win arguments by making people want to agree with you”.

advice from a sales director boss many years ago and applicable in so many circumstances.