I don't know what to do

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Hi all, I need some help and advice right now. I have been with my partner for over two years and we have a 15 month old son together. My Mum and sister had our son to stay over the night and my partner wanted to pick him up at about 11:30pm, but they refused until the morning as he was sleeping and would be disturbed. He'd already had a disturbed night previously, as my partner and I had argued and I went to my Mum's with him. With that, my partner won't allow our son to stay or be alone with my Mum or sister ever again. What do you think to this? It's devastated my Mum as she loves being a Grandma.

What medication are you on, OP, that your family are concerned that you have it with you?

You seem quite vulnerable and bit helpless for a person of your age, I thought from your first posts that you would be in your early twenties or even younger.

Your family sound a bit dramatic, but my guess is that they have your welfare, and that of your son, at heart, which seems rather less certain with your partner. Don’t move too far away from them, please.

@PixelatedLunchbox Have you read OPs posts? He's controlling. Her family are worried about her and neither her nor her partner think the child deserves to sleep.

Do you tell the families of abused women/children it's none of their business?

Your mum and sister are right about him.

Wake up.

You sound young and vulnerable. You aren't particularly young but coming from an abusive childhood you are vulnerable. + Medication if that's for MH issues I'd say he saw you coming.

You say he is a good man and you love him. Is he? What does he do that makes him a good man and makes you love him? Or is it that a relationship is better than being alone and you are afraid of change or being on your own?

You family's reaction sounds like it comes from a place of love and care, perhaps they are over reacting - perhaps they are not only you know but I strongly suggest you contact women's aid and getting some advice, there is a book that is often recommended but I cant remember the title something like 'Why does he do that?' by Lundy which you should probably read.

Going back to that, he does take care of ds when I'm out working full-time, and has managed to keep us afloat financially whilst he's been made redundant, as I don't earn a high salary. But alot is left to me around the home, and I take care of ds and run the errands when I'm not working.

Are avoiding telling what he does when he is 'stroppy'?

Dear OP, I imagine you currently think that you got an unexpectedly direct response here after your original post. I do hope you'll reflect now or later and realise that the only reason people are being a bit harsh are because they care about the wellbeing of you and your son.

Your partner sounds like a right git. His desire to collect a sleeping child at 11.30pm was nothing other than a naked power play.

You need to grow up and grow a backbone. You will never please someone like this - it's not possible. He'll be easily offended and carries a grudge in s bucket, yes? You are either tiptoeing around so as not to offend him or in a row with him. Not good. If your family is decent to people chances are they are worried about you and the child. Listen to them.

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