Has anyone done a boudoir shoot?

[Ellacharlton]

Hiya
recently divorced 37 year old trying to find confidence in my appearance again. One of my friends suggested doing a boudoir shoot. Has anyone done one and what was the experience like and is there any tips.
I googled a bit and have picked out some lingerie that will help me feel sexy and I'm going to bite the bullet and wax my hooha. (apparently everyone does that, I must have missed the memo). Only 2 people in my adult life have seen me nude so that's a bit daunting but I'm ready to embrace the experience. But any tips or if someone could outline the experience that would be appreciated x

I haven't but friends have and they loved it!

Oh God. I'd never heard of Boudoir shoots until I joined Mumsnet. And even then the threads I've read about them haven't involved nudes ones.
I really can't believe women are so desperate for attention they do this. Why does getting a divorce reduce you to needing to take all your clothes off for a photo shoot??? I despair.

Ignore @Towandatowanda.

If it’s going to make you feel confident, go for it and who cares what anyone thinks!

How does taking your clothes off for a photo shoot enhance your life? It smacks of desperate attention seeking.

Not everyone waxes! I thought they were soft focus lingerie shots, rather than nudes? It wouldn't make me feel more confident, but go for it if you think it help you. What are you you going to do with the photos?

Thank you, I ignored what they said. I'm doing this for myself and no one else. Being stuck in a borderline abusive relationship for 10+ years really does a number on your self-esteem. Women who have gone through similar suggested that I do it.

I did one earlier this year. I was nervous but the photographer told me exactly how to pose, where to look. Everything.

The pics are AMAZING, edited of course but I ended up spending hundreds and buying them all. It was a great experience and I cried looking at the pics after as have very low body confidence.

I have. I certainly didn’t wax! They can air brush it out anyway. The photos were ace and made me think fuck I am actually very attractive! I liked the non air brushed ones more.

Thats what I thought too, but google made me think otherwise 😂. I think they can be both, I have spoken to two photographers and they said most women do both lingerie and partial nude. I'm not sure what I will do with the photos exactly I haven't decided yet

No. But I want to have one done even though I’m 66. I’d just like to see how pretty and sexy looking I could be.

I'm with @Towandatowanda but I'm saying nothing else as I got totally flamed last time I said what I thought about boudoir shoots.

Thats really reassuring to hear. Thanks.

If everything is edited and airbrushed, it's not really 'you' though is it?

Maybe I wont wax then, I just didn't want to make the photographer uncomfortable with a full bush on display LOL. Thats the exact reaction i'm hoping it will make me have so thats nice to hear 😁

Why does your self esteem just revolve around your physical appearance? Surely your self esteem is about who you are as a person. Not about how you look in the nude or minimum clothing in some air brushed manipulated photo. Is that all you are worth? Surely you are worth more than that?

It's about challenging yourself, facing your fears, doing something you wouldn't have been allowed to do before.

Some people want to, some don't. That's absolutely fine.
But please don't put OP down for doing something she feels will empower her, sticking two fingers up to her old life!

Well, fair enough.

I shagged a barman. It was cheaper.

Ooh I’d much rather spend that money on a trip away, maybe Greece or Italy, dig toes in sand, swim in sea (you can also do that scantily clad! ) see some sights, eat some nice food, drink some lovely wine. Would be better way of getting out of yourself and past your difficult relationship past

It's fun to feel sexy. Sometimes that's all there is to it. You don't need a deeper meaning to do a shoot like this but you clearly need a confidence boost OP so this could be the way to do it!

We're scared of women feeling good about themselves, which is so strange, but true. But it's nice to feel sexy, to look at photos of yourself and think 'wow'. Nothing wrong with it at all!

Why would it be desperate for attention. Unless people are posting images online which there is no suggestion of.

Why so hostile?

Again, how is it attention seeking if one isn't using them to get attention. You don't seem to have a clue what attention seeking means 😂

@Towandatowanda
Are you a man? Because you sound awfully like you are mansplaining what is and what isn't valid when it comes to feeling good about yourself.

If you aren't a man then you sound like a reeeaaaally angry hostile woman

A better way for you perhaps but haven't we learned that what works for one person may not be what works for another?

Perhaps she does that already.

I would worry about where the photos might end up.