Hi all,
Just the back story. Myself and my partner are part of a large couples group. Around Xmas we visited Paris for our anniversary and unbeknown to one of the couples (recently engaged) we was visiting the hotel she wished to go to for her hen do. This was spoke about over a group dinner and didn’t think there were issues, or so it seamt at the time. During our Paris visit I sent photos of our trip, hotel to the girlfriend group (with person in, let’s call her Jess). I was returned with silence and snidy comments such as ‘oh what a coincidence’ ect. I still hadn’t clicked on there was a issue as my trip had been booked way before the couple had even got engaged.
Fast forward and I’m met with funniness from the whole group, to which I ask Jess if she’s okay and does she want to talk. She proceeds to say no, not all at and I know exactly what id done. My OH was also baffled as her finance is his best friend and couldn’t see a issue. Jess and I unfortunately went on to have a argument and wrip me apart. Saying from day one she had issues with me, I had no morals and integrity and throught it was wrong I had sent photos of hotel she wanted to go too. I replied to her that (and this’s was the case) I had never meant harm, was unaware and that if she had issues for all these years why hadn’t she said. Jess and I had spent many times doing things as a 4, she repeatly said how close we were and always made plans. I was baffled and we left the argument as we would stay amiable for our OHs. No contact since, and the whole girl group now does not talk to me bar 1/2. This has deeply upset me, and during Xmas I was excluded from couple plans and was left alone Xmas eve as I encouraged my OH to see his friends.
Now today 7 months on.. OH has received a solo invite to their wedding next year. He’s been put in a group with his single friends. But he’s not single. I don’t not have a invite. He told me out of respect and has not yet replied but mentioned he may go for the day. This wedding is around 5 hours away. This is the 2nd celebration I’ve been excluded from this year that’s he’s attended alone. I told him I thought he needed to at least mention my lack of invite. And this was child’s play and unless something is said I’d be forever excluded. Which I can’t take! My OH has backed me and tried to be supportive and his friends still included him.
What should I do and what would you expect your OH to do. I want to be fair to him. Thanks