Was I unreasonable

[Justbeingmyselfagain]

My elderly Grandmother was rushed into Hospital she collapsed. It was her Birthday while in hospital, on her birthday I was going to visit with my 6 year old. But Mum invited us out so I chose to go with Mum. Rang and told Grandma I was spending day with my husband and son she was fine.
But mum put photos of us out with her and her new partner, Granny sent me a text and said she was very hurt that I had told her a lie, get on really well with both Grandma and Grandad they have always supported me, but I have told them I do not wish to see them ever again, she sent me a text saying she was back home and sorry she had over reacted and wished me well. Not answered her do you think I should

A reverse is when someone posts from the other person's perspective. They're hated, and not allowed.

In other words, you're so unreasonable no one can believe you're admitting to it out loud, and so they think you must be the elderly grandmother.

I genuinely hope she replies, 'I do not wish to see you ever again'.

And then you'll know what she felt like, having just got out of hospital. You owe your Gma a massive grovelling apology for your horrible, nasty behaviour. Stop blaming other people.

You had previous plans, and not just any plans, but plans to visit an elderly relative in hospital.

This one should've been easy to call.

You have been horrible to her.

So out of order (you). You behaved very badly. Your poor grandma.

I can’t believe this is real. What a horrible way to treat someone. Just utterly cruel. If this is real you owe your grand mother a grovelling apology for being so utterly horrible to her.

and at least own it and stop trying to blame your mother. If you’ve a child you aren’t 12. So stop acting like it.

I can't believe how aggrieved you sound, despite the obvious fact that you've been absolutely horrible to your granny.

Assuming you’re who you say you are & not Granny, I think this is not nice at all. How would you feel if you were in hospital, it was your birthday & your GD lied to you?

Hurt I expect.

You shouldn’t have lied to her. Bit cheeky for you stop talking to her when you were the one in the wrong

Id be hurt if I was expecting my grandaughter and great Grandson to come and visit me and then they didnt bother, and then to find out they lied about where they went?! And you're angry with her?!
Maybe your mum booked this random last minute day out deliberately

Your poor grandmother, she has always supported you, and as a grandmother myself I bet she absolutely dotes on you.

Your mother arranged to take you out (did she perhaps do this deliberately to stop you seeing your grandmother on her birthday, seeing as she doesn't like her?)

You lied to your nan and said you were just spending the day with your husband and child (who you could see any time).

You then went out with your mum, who then posted the pics on socials (again, did she do this knowing your grandmother would see it?).

Your grandmother was upset that you let her down on her birthday, (and probably that she didn't get to also see her great grandchild)

And then you blow up at your gran because you felt told off, and instead of taking on board this unusual criticism from her, you react with anger and decide to never see her again?

Advice: when you commit to seeing your grandmother, go and see your grandmother. When she is gone you will realise that almost nobody in the world loves you quite like a grandmother does.
Also work on how you react to criticism because reacting with anger won't help you in life. If someone who genuinely loves you and is almost always supportive tells you off, you need to self reflect, not fly off the handle.

Really mean of you OP. It is her birthday and you lied to her, didn't visit after saying you would and then got pissed off and said you'd never see her again when you got pulled up on it? And all of this when she was sick in hospital?!

Are you 12?

Your poor Nan. I hope you give you a massive apology and a good present for her birthday.

Poor Granny, dumped and lied to on her birthday, while in hospital. No wonder she was hurt. Your reaction to her voicing her hurt is shocking. What an appalling way to treat an elderly relative.

You needed to say no to your mum and explain you had plans. I'd apologise to your gran.

You lied and were selfish. Not sure really what you're looking for.

Bunch of drama lamas.

How did your son turn into your daughter?

Fuck me, what a family.

You were selfish. You did let her down - she was in hospital on her birthday.

You couldn't be bothered to go and see her and wanted to do something else instead, so you lied to her. She found out you lied and got upset.

You then told her you never wanted to see her again, and what does she do? SHE apologises to YOU when it should have been the other way round.

Yes - you are being totally and completely unreasonable here, and you owe her a massive apology. You have treated her disgracefully and you should be ashamed of yourself.

Your mum is a bitch as well - you know she deliberately arranged that day out with you on purpose, don't you?

Horrendous behaviour from you. I can't believe you ever thought it was at all reasonable.

Why on earth did you lie to your grandma at all? Surely anyone with an ounce of common sense would have taken their child to visit her in hospital (if allowed??) for an hour or so and then gone to meet up with their mother afterwards. No need to lie at all.

Then telling her that you never want to see her again??!! Are you absolutely serious????? Huuuge overreaction from you, very spiteful and mean!

You owe your grandma a full and grovelling apology and you need to take a long, hard look at yourself.

YABU.

You lied and told your Grandma you never wanted to see her again when she found out and was (rightly) upset?

Take a long hard look in the mirror.

Ii hope this is bollocks. You were nasty and deserved grandma's wrath. Then you doubled down, unbelievably horrid way to behave yo a sick grandmother

Sorry, but this. Telling her you never want to see her again? You sound about 10 years old!

You are very unreasonable as well as absolutely horrible. I can't believe you dumped your grandma on her birthday because she caught you lying. What an inmature way to react.