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Welcome!

And Happy Birthday!!!

are you having the bbq?

yes bbq on sat. tonight just me and dh.
weather's lovely!

Pippi happy birthday woman! (what the hell are you doing on the pc at 7 ) so where are you off to tonight? who's having the dds?
The weather is crap here. still raining. I mean what the hell? It is deffo my fault.

I was periodless until 2 weeks after stopping bf.

at all of you periodless women!!! Maybe, as my dad says, I am made for breeding ... that's a good prospect. I imagine if I had been born few centuries back I'd have been a balia !!!!!

I am up because dd1 had to sing happy birthday to me at 6.15!! bless.

don;t know where we're going, surprise from dh. daughter of childminder has dds. it's the fiorst time but she's always with dd1 during the day and lovely and trained etc. sure'll be ok. I am certainly very very willing to try for my own sanity.

here super sunny and hot!!

(ps I have fallen out with sil. is this really bad? it's her fault, everyone in the family are fed up with her. still, should I have been more diplomatic?)

I'm sure everything will be ok pippi , have a fantastic time!

Don't know whether you should have been more diplomatic, from what you told us previously, your sil sounds like a pain in the neck. I usually tend to avoid falling outs as I have this think about pleasing everyone, which I hate really .
What was the last straw?

yes me too. I hate falling out, especially with other women as it is so hard work. but I had enough as she has been very rude to myself and my dd (and her mum and dh but that is not my problem as their relationship is their business tbh). I do not want to be a pushover and I thought it was time she get the consequences of her own actions.

will tell you in a min, must tidy up first [cinderella emoticon]

Happy birthday Pippi

I think I'll put Peppa Pig on DD's birthday wishlist. She really needs some new dvds as we don't watch real tv. We took the arial off the roof when we got it fixed about 3 years ago and then never missed it! I do occasionally feel bad though about not watching the news, I am pretty clueless about Italian news.

I need some sunglasses too, I seem to have lost mine, don't know how.

Re baby bellies, I look pg in smocks, I look pg in fitted stuff, I just look pg! I noticed the other day though that my pancia is much smaller in the mornings, perhaps I should just not eat.

LOL at pancia being smaller in the mornings. DH says the same, he feels all skinny when he wakes up .

It looks ok if I lie on my back, too

LOL ( lots) at pancia at different views. I found that the waist high jeans that then puffed out at the thigh were great as it gave you a flat tum and any fat sort of went down and splurged out on the legs. They went out of fashion since then it has been the slightly baggy t shirt look ! ( and thats along time). Best flat tum I got was from skiing and using a ski training machine no joke it was the flatest ever. I am dreading not being pg as the flab this time will be impossible to move.
Oh Pippi Tanti Auguri have a wonderful evening tonight with dh sounds as if he is making this really special how nice.
Sputnik do you have emule.

sputnik that's spot on! and what about legs that look long and skinny when pulled up straight in the air lying on the back..

dh is making an effort, mind you I had to hint and hint.

(re SIL: to make a long story short: she never ever has invited us over for dinner or anything since I've known dh. she always comes to ours though always empty handed. during all my stay at FIL before dd2 was born, 10 in from her, on my own with dh always out from 5am to 10pm, she never called us once let alone offered help before during or after birth. however quick she was to come and see baby. she's then been horrible to myself and dh as she did not want us there and said horrible things. last straw she did not invite us for her son's birthday but she'd come to mine! so I sent a short message telling her that I thought it wasn't a nice behaviour. she got on her high horse and now she won't come to the party. like I said she was coming to see the house not us anyway. her loss. dh agrees with me as she's been pretty horrible. just not nice to have raws with family, always awkward afterwards. yet I could not hold it any longer. will see what happens.
not such a short story ... imagine if I'd tell you all the details. brang you can give me an insight about difficult relations with IL)

Rosa, when I have high waisted trousers my flab just billlows out over the top, so I have double layer boobs. How do you get yours down your thigh? Am very impressed, also because I have a lot of wide legged trousers so that would be a handy trick.

BTW there's this Singapore thread on here where they talk about a Malaysian woman who massages your belly back into shape right after the birth. I am very curious and must admit that I've been contemplating a brief trip out to Singapore for this very purpose, even though 3yrs have gone by so no longer technically have a post birth belly... Do you think such a service would take off here?

definitely!! Dh will be her first client, he still has post partum belly!!!

Pippi, I no longer have relations with ILs. PILs moved to la delta del Po and have never bothered visiting since, despite the fact that they've been to see SIL who lives 10 mins up the road from us. DD hasn't seen them since last May. They are also in regular contact with DP's DS and Ex, but have never once bothered to ring here to see how their other granddaughter is. Their loss.

Ditto SIL, she's such an airhead and really 2 faced. She and DP's ex apparently hate each other but she's always popping round there, several km away, to gossip maliciously about people. She's only ever been round here once, to see our house and generally poke her nose around. According to DP I make her feel inadequate, insofar as she's the same age as me but still lives off her parents and has an abusive bf who's in and out of jail, whereas I have a job and have bought my own house etc.

Because of this I'm actually quite worried about guardianship of DD should anything happen to me and DP. I'd want her to go to her UK family who see her a lot and love her, but am not sure that's possible. I need to go and see a notaio. Anybody know how you find a good one?

Right, maybe I should find said lady and bring her over to market her services here. This could be worth a lot of money. Anybody want shares in the business?

your SIl is the same as mine (except for the boyfriend, hers it's too nice for her). I bet she feels inadequate too as she can do nothing for herself and pretends and pretends.
I have been so worried about guardianship myself for this very reason I have made a will with a solicitor and given the dds to my mum. if they go to sil they'll end up two woosses and being treated like cinderella.
how does your dp feels about it though. I know mine is on my side as he was the first to raw with her etc but he's a bit sad as he is a softy (he's probably so used to her shenanigans by now it doesn;t matter to him).

my PIL are wonderful.

Mine agrees with me, he doesn't like his family at all.

Would there not be any problems with the fact that your mum is not resident in the UK do you think? What did the solicitor say? Is there an EU law that covers this?

I did not think so. but will check with solicitor in the next couple of days and let you know if you like, he's next door to me. ideally l'd like them to remain here but that might not be ideal for mym mum but it doesn't matter as long as they're not there.

Yes please. In the meantime I'll find myself a notaio (another thing to get around to doing). I'm not terribly worried about where my DD is brought up, although I would like her to retain contact with both cultures, so if she was here to keep in touch with UK family and carry on speaking English and if in the UK to keep up her Italian.

will do.

Thanks, but only if it's really no trouble and is not going to cost you anything. I don't want to make you go out of your way.

don't be silly. we must be united against the evil sil .

It has to be jeans to squash the flab into ord wide legged trousers will not do . Sign me up for the Malaysian massage please sounds just great !