would you do this?

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if you worked nights and your child was always in bed and asleep before you went out and never wakes up, would you give your neighbour who was wellknown to your child the baby monitor to keep an ear out on the offchance that they do wake up and a key to get in on that offchance rather than giving up work? (a babysitter costs more than i earn an hour)

Okay so the chances of anything happening aren't high as such- but consider the consequences of something going wrong?

Is it worth that?

As to whether NA is more or less responsible than the Mc's......I think thats irrelevent here.

If you seriously plan on doing this, then you are bloody stupid and irresponsible

What if one of the neighbour's children is being sick or some other urgent thing when she hears a thud from next door?

Don't make her choose between her children and your child.

And, like I said, if you were 100% comfortable with it, you wouldn't have posted on MN to ask what other people would do.

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neighbour's children are 8, 9, 10, 12 and 15.

I still dont think that there is any job worth compromising your children.

yes ... there are silent deaths, but they are ones you also wouldn't hear even if you were sitting in your front room downstairs. we also have a breathing monitor that sounds if he stops breathing.

MotherFunk I don't think they were cleared of neglect. I think Social Services ruled they had no jurisdiction in Portugal, which is not the same thing.

Quick buck is just a phrase

I'm sorry but my childs safety/well being etc BLOODY WOULD come above me making money! Get a childminder and work during the day - thousands of parents do this everyday......i can't believe this is actually being considered.

WAKE UP!!!!!!!

MF- I have known people charged with neglect for leaving their children home alone.

FWIW I agree with Hunker.

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well a lot of people would do the things i mentioned and if they were on this thread they may or may not agree - i'm not sure. that is why i asked. as none of you would do any of those things, obviously you would never consider doing what i was wondering.

KM, you'll get told "that could all happen if I was there" - and yes, you're right, it can and does happen.

But if you are there, you can't be lied to about the circumstances of any of these tragic events.

So you can't be told, "I went as soon as I heard the crash".

And you'd always think, "If I'd been there, I'd have known something was up and gone and checked the baby" - you wouldn't be able to live with yourself, just as you wouldn't if something happened when you went to the post box, or used a baby listening service.

so now none of you will use babysitters/cms with their own children cos they might lie to you about the circumstances in how quick they rushed to your child

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I am disgusted by this I really am.

To even consider leaving the most precious thing in the world ALONE. I simply cannot believe you are even thinking about it.

If you're So convinced/confident that it's the right thing to do, can I suggest that you call the NSPCC or Social Services and ask them?

NA, I wouldn't use a babysitter who brought their children with them, no.

I wouldn't use a CM who looked after children across two properties either.

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Hmmm your profile makes interesting reading

the baby monitor goes very loud. my cousin has looked after him before with 4 children of her own and not had a problem hearing it

my mind isn't made up at all. if someone was asking me i'd say i totally agree with everything you are saying but a lot of people would disagree and that is what would put me off doing it. which is exactly why my mind is not made up.

i was wondering when my age was going to come into this. my neighbour is 49. she clearly thought it was ok so i'm not sure a person's age has anything to do with it.

not quite sure what you mean by the shiny.

by that