would you do this?

[nappyaddict]

if you worked nights and your child was always in bed and asleep before you went out and never wakes up, would you give your neighbour who was wellknown to your child the baby monitor to keep an ear out on the offchance that they do wake up and a key to get in on that offchance rather than giving up work? (a babysitter costs more than i earn an hour)

CSS, I was just about to ask that - ring the NSPCC - then I found this link

Yep, i agree it seems you have made your mind up.

I think you are beyond foolish if you think this is a suitable, long term, childcare arrangement.

There is a reason why flexible working arrangements came into force. To accommodate changes in a working parents' circumstances to enable them to care for their children.

If you need the money that badly - start applying for better paid jobs, dont gamble with your child's safety in the hope that it'll all be fine. It's not your child's safety and wellbeing that should give way to earning money - it should be the other way around.

Good luck with whatever you decide. I really think you'll need it.

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well i know loads of nanny's/cms that have their own children with them when working, wouldn't even occur to me not to use them.

I just looked at your profile, Nappy, and I see that I am old enough to be your mother.

And I will say this, and say it only once, because it is so sententious and patronising

You are only suggesting this because you are young and irresponsible and can't believe that anything bad can really happen

And the chances are that nothing bad will happen

But you would spend the rest of your life regretting it if something did.

NA, your DS is 19mo.

There's a fair chance he'll shortly be able to climb out of his cot.

How long were you thinking this arrangement would last?

Because it's not a long-term solution by a long way.

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i know it's not a long term solution.... it is until i can get my hours sorted at work/find another job if i can't. he is 19 months and not even walking. he can't even climb on a sofa let alone out of his cot.

Read what I said, NA - babysitter who brought children with them - no (I'm assuming you mean an evening babysitter). CM who (single-handedly) looked after children across two properties - no (and Ofsted wouldn't allow it either).

again my neighbour is 49. she thinks it is ok. this idea has nothing to do with age. in fact i hadn't even thought of it until she suggested it.

please don't do it

Wisdom usually comes with age, it's true.

I can say that now as a person in my thirties and nappies will just have to take my word for it

MotherFunk, Kerrty's not being patronising at all, I happen to agree with her.

Not all younger Mum's are immature, but NA is conversing as if she is.

What would your family have to say about you doing this

What would happen you you if, god forbid, something dreadful happened to your son

is your child not the most precious thing in the whole wide world
its just not worth it

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i didn't say across 2 properties did i? plenty of cm's, nannys and babysitters look after other children and their own children at the same time. someone said in that situation you couldn't trust they would not lie to you about seeing to your child first and so you shouldn't use them or something along those lines.

THen your neighbour is bloody irresponsible herself aswell

NA, just think for a moment.

Imagine you've tucked your DS into bed.

You've walked next door, handed the monitor to your neighbour, waved goodbye and you're at work.

How do you feel? Content?

and i meant any sort of babysitter not just an evening one.

ARGH I SAID ACROSS TWO PROPERTIES BECAUSE YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT HAVING A BABYSITTER WHO IS NEXT DOOR FGS.

Quick - ask her opinion on sticking baby rice in a bottle of milk, and when you should wean a baby.......

Seriously though, I'm pretty sure hunker is right re ofsted regs.