would you do this?

[nappyaddict]

if you worked nights and your child was always in bed and asleep before you went out and never wakes up, would you give your neighbour who was wellknown to your child the baby monitor to keep an ear out on the offchance that they do wake up and a key to get in on that offchance rather than giving up work? (a babysitter costs more than i earn an hour)

I remember being 4 years old.

I remember my Mum settling me down to sleep, and telling me that 'the babysitter would be here soon'. I remember her going out, I fell asleep whilst waiting for the sitter to arrive.

I woke up in the middle of the night hearing a knock at the door, I went to the door and it was a drunk outside yelling for our next door neighbour.

I was so frightened I wet myself, when my |Mum eventually came home she found me curled up, terrified lying under my bed with my little brother.

Again... Are you seriously considering doing this?

NA, if you were sure it was OK to do, you wouldn't have posted on MN.

he's not old enough to open the door to anyone. he would be in his cot asleep. he wouldn't even know if anyone was there or not. on the rare occasion he did wake up the neighbour would be around in 2 minutes to settle him. tbh i am shocked not one person would do it. i really don't see it as any different to popping to the post box, leaving them in the car whilst going in a shop, leaving them in a hotel room/caravan on holiday.

NA, I wouldn't do any of those things either though.

It's a bit longer than just popping to the post box.

And, the thing about children - especially toddlers, is, that the first time they do something - it's usually when you are least expecting it.

Such as climbing out of their cot, or, dragging a chair to the front door to undo the lock and open it, or finding the key to the window, unlocking it, opening it and climbing out and going to play in a neighbours garden .

Do you see?

I wouldn't leave my child alone while I pop to the postbox/ or in the car and certainly not a hotel room or caravan

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MotherFunk- would it still 'not be the end of the world' if your child was ill, and alone?

I wouldn't do it for a second. Not a second.

My introduction to Mumsnet was post McCann, I was absolutely pilloried for saying that they had done something stupid and dangerous.

Loads of mumsnetters were posively baying that they would have left their 3 children alone, with an unlocked door, next to a main road and opposite a swimming pool, and go out for dinner.

They are inexplicably absent on this thread. And what you are suggesting is far FAR more sensible in terms of parenting - your DC will be in a cot and there will be a responsible adult with a baby monitor.

NO, no an NO again.
I would not even go to my neighbours house , which is actually a 'house' above ours, one flight of stairs away. you cannot hear fire, or a fir alarm actually, in the next house. you cannot smell smoke... etc... etc.. all the reasons are already posted.

NA, NO, you cannot do this. How would you feel should something happen? you would never ever forgive yourself. I hate to bring it up, but, remember the Mcganns? need I say more?

It is ultimatley your decision but remember that if anyone found out, they could call the police and report you to SS. You have no idea what it is like to have to fight for your child. Please don't do this.

I am leaving this thread now because it is making me - you know some of personal circumstances so I hope you understand why I can't read this any more.

If I knew of someone who was doing this I would report them to Social Services in a heartbeat.

This is wrong on every single level of common sense and love for ones child

Nappies - no job is worth it, is it?

OMG i am TOTALLY shocked at what i have read here!
Do you actually realise that if anyone got wind of what you were doing (if you don't come to your senses) you could be up on neglect charges!!! You are totally nuts, and sorry for being harsh, but how can you possibly be considering your childs well being here .

Is your childs safety worth less than making a quick buck

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So this other woman would leave her own children alone to go and check on someone elses?

This just gets better and better

Hey - there is something of a double standard here.

There will be a child who has no history of sleepwalking, and in any event has a cot, and a responsible adult with a baby monitor.

Just think about this for a minute in the context of the McCanns if you will. Isn't Nappy being much more responsible?

i meant the time it would take for the neighbour to get there would be less than if you were to go to the post office - that's why i don't see it as any different.

overrated- i understand

post box not office.

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