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would you do this?

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nappyaddict · 04/02/2008 11:34

if you worked nights and your child was always in bed and asleep before you went out and never wakes up, would you give your neighbour who was wellknown to your child the baby monitor to keep an ear out on the offchance that they do wake up and a key to get in on that offchance rather than giving up work? (a babysitter costs more than i earn an hour)

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ItsNeverTooEarlyForPopcorn · 04/02/2008 23:49

Sorry you're not getting any support on this, but it's your child, wouldn't you bend over backwards to keep them safe?

Scramble · 04/02/2008 23:53

What time do you finish work?

TheMadHouse · 04/02/2008 23:53

I can not even belive you have asked this. It is wrong, under no circumstances could you ever justify it, so stop trying.

Scramble · 04/02/2008 23:58

If you finish before midnight then a student sitter would be ideal, but would expect more than £5 a night I think .

If it is all night then you would have to consider a lodger or a aupair I think.

This would be OK for a one of emergency if you had to deal with a sick sibling or something, but not as a regular arrangement.

If you prefer nights then you need to fnd somehting with a higher hourly rate to pay a sitter.

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 00:01

if there was a power cut in my house the parent monitor beeps to say the other one has got disconnected. if there was a powercut in her house it wouldn't matter cos i would make sure the parent monitor was fully charged.

it would not be in the middle of the night as i have already said. something could happen to the neighbour but something could happen to me whilst looking after my child. my cousin fell off a ladder when her twins were 2 and couldn't move. luckily we popped in and found her. my point is all the things people are saying could happen just as much as if i were there.

we have a smoke alarm in our loft cos it is also a playroom. we also have carbon monoxixide and gas alarms in the house.

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 00:02

i finish work between 10 and 11:30 usually.

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vInTaGeVioLeT · 05/02/2008 00:10

no i wouldn't - can't you get help with childcare costs?

Candlewax · 05/02/2008 00:10

nappyaddict, I am sorry but it is WRONG, WRONG, WRONG.

PillockOfTheCommunity · 05/02/2008 00:11

but if you were there you would know that there was nothing you could have done differently, and you would not have left your (very young) child alone.

you can't do this, you know you can't.

I am a very relaxed parent, leave them in car while I nip in to post office etc, but I won't even do this to run my babysitter the 5 mins home.

hunkermunker · 05/02/2008 00:15

I wouldn't do this, for all of the "no, I couldn't" reasons listed on here.

But if none of those grab you, how about you imagine the news coverage if anything did happen?

It is tough fitting work around children, but this isn't the answer - and you won't find anyone on MN who says it is - or many other places, I suspect.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 05/02/2008 00:17

Nappy

NO.

MotherFunk · 05/02/2008 00:20

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 00:20

can someone tell me why it is any different than sitting in my back garden then or using the baby listening services which i have done 3 times now?

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notjustmom · 05/02/2008 00:20

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 05/02/2008 00:21

Nappy, no.

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 00:21

town house type thing

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ChristmasShinySnowflakes · 05/02/2008 00:22

Nappy are you seriously considering doing this?

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 00:22

this is why i am asking. she is going back to work and she doesn't get back until 9:30pm.

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AuntyThesis · 05/02/2008 00:23

is your kids life really worth it?

notjustmom · 05/02/2008 00:23

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hunkermunker · 05/02/2008 00:24

Is your neighbour happy to do this?

Would she be happy to leave the baby alarm in her house and sit at yours?

If not, why not?

MotherFunk · 05/02/2008 00:24

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OverRated · 05/02/2008 00:25

NappyAddict, please don't.

It is different because, whether you hear anything or not, if you are home, you are there. You would do whatever you could in an emergency. If you were not there you could never reassure yourself that you couldn't have done anything.

I agree, in all likeliness, it would be fine. But just not worth it.

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 00:27

cos her children are older than mine and go to bed later. one goes to bed at 7, one at 7:30 one at 8, one at 8:30 so would be lots of going backwards and forwards for her. she offered to do it as a favour, so thought it would be a bit cheeky to say actually could you sit at mine.

no motherfunk - like a terraced house.

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 05/02/2008 00:28

Nice of her to offer, but, no. Really not worth it.

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