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would you do this?

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nappyaddict · 04/02/2008 11:34

if you worked nights and your child was always in bed and asleep before you went out and never wakes up, would you give your neighbour who was wellknown to your child the baby monitor to keep an ear out on the offchance that they do wake up and a key to get in on that offchance rather than giving up work? (a babysitter costs more than i earn an hour)

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Lulumama · 05/02/2008 21:15

you get by fine on what you earn?

no actually, you don;t , as you cannot afford childcare!!

themildmanneredjanitor · 05/02/2008 21:15

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MotherFunk · 05/02/2008 21:15

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Lulumama · 05/02/2008 21:15

you could work as an office junior, and work your way up.... what are your plans, your goals, your aspirations?

what were you studying?

what are your interests?

dippydeedoo · 05/02/2008 21:16

so u have no qualifications? why not get your son into childcare at college ,study at college get a grant to help support you and build your future?

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 21:16

my mum looked after him before because i only did weekends then cos i was at uni in the week. now i do weekends plus shifts in the week. she has been off sick for about 8 months.

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Lulumama · 05/02/2008 21:17

if NA is approacing this as a career, great ! aiming to be a manager? or run her own pub one day? fantastic... but it has not come across like that

ScoobyDoo · 05/02/2008 21:17

notjustamom - Don't be an ignorant women ffs not EVERYONE who is on benefits is on them because of the reasons you say.

What about unexpected pregnancies,what about unexpected break ups in relationships/marriages what about people who get life long illnesses or who are dieing? what about people who are in unexpected accidents, these people are on benefits because life can not be planned always & having kids & being a single parent & trying to wrok can be hard.

don't flame everyone who is on benefits because you are wrong & to have that understanding of all people on benefits is just bloody ignorant.

By the way i am not on benefits my dp works but god knows what would happen to me & the kids if our relationship borke down.

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 21:19

actually motherfunk a place has come up to train for assistant manager that i am hoping to get. i would never get an assistant manager job by just walking into a place with my cv cos i dont have the experience but my manager would rather have someone who currently works there and knows the business rather than getting someone new in and is willing to train 1 of the existing staff. this is why i was reluctant to take parental leave cos if he thinks my being a parent is going to get in the way i don't think he will consider me so i think the hope of getting it is pretty much nil now.

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ilovespring · 05/02/2008 21:19

NAPPY ADDICT, GUILT IS ALSO SILENT!

themildmanneredjanitor · 05/02/2008 21:22

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juuule · 05/02/2008 21:22

What were you studying at university? Okay you didn't finish your degree but you are still better qualified than a lot of people who have jobs they do for a 'living'.
Have you enquired at the jobcentre to see what they could offer? What about putting your name down at various agencies to see what they come up with.

And I agree with others that your ds doesn't need football and gym.

themildmanneredjanitor · 05/02/2008 21:23

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notjustmom · 05/02/2008 21:25

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nutcracker · 05/02/2008 21:27

What you said then, notjustamom, doesn't apply to this thread, so why post it on here ?

MotherFunk · 05/02/2008 21:27

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 21:27

then again loads of people keep saying to me why would you want the assistant job?the person who did it before has demoted him self to a waiter cos he can earn more with tips which i suppose says a lot.

mmj i think i love you. that first one is quite near to me. i am going to apply!

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notjustmom · 05/02/2008 21:28

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nutcracker · 05/02/2008 21:29

But that doesn't apply to this thread notjustamom, so why go on about it on here ???

themildmanneredjanitor · 05/02/2008 21:29

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Lulumama · 05/02/2008 21:29

there you go !

notjustmom · 05/02/2008 21:30

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ScoobyDoo · 05/02/2008 21:30

Sorry missed that bit.

I agree but you will always get people like that unfortunatly not sure why anyone would want to plan there lives like that because to be quite honest i could not think of anything more boring than plan to have a baby, live of piddly amounts of benefits & have nothing in life.

There are people though who find themselves on benefits because of many reasons & i am sure many of them would be the first to tell you they don't enjoy it.

Like nutty i am sure she would love to go to work but having 3 children & being a single parent it is just not worth it for her after child care etc.

I suppose it also comes down to what sort of wage you can earn, this would make it worht or not in many cases.

nutcracker · 05/02/2008 21:31

Quatros post also had no place on this thread either. NA is working, and trying to figure out how to carry on doing so whilst finding suitable childcare.

Personally, I think rants from people about benefit scroungers, when NA is obviously trying are insulting.