would you do this?

[nappyaddict]

if you worked nights and your child was always in bed and asleep before you went out and never wakes up, would you give your neighbour who was wellknown to your child the baby monitor to keep an ear out on the offchance that they do wake up and a key to get in on that offchance rather than giving up work? (a babysitter costs more than i earn an hour)

why would i have had support from the job centre? does everyone who has a job go to the job centre?

the CAB said as long as ds lives in my mum's house she can claim the CB for him.

I think they mean from a lone parent adviser at the Job Centre

But nappy the CAB said all this when you were off to uni did they not? was this not all set up for when you were at uni?

sorry was just getting round to answering that one!! i haven't graduated. i never finished my degree.

yes but i still lived at home aswell.

i have to say i agree with TMMJ, especailly the line about cutting your cloth ...

you cannot afford gym and football

you have to proritise

you have had a lot of useful and helpful sensible information and support and suggestions on how to make progress....

you need to be decisive and make some proactive decisions now

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so why are you not working full or more hours if you are not studying , i thought that was the reason you were limited to the hours you could work...?

i have some a levels albeit not very good ones.

a few evening shifts in a bar is not a career

nothing wrong with it, but if you cannot get adequate childcare , your boss is being unsupportive and you cannot get by on what you earn, it is not the right choice

NA does your mum actually claim council tax benefit, or just get this single parent reduction ??

I honestly have never heard of a single parent reduction for council tax. A single persons reduction of 25% yes, but not a single parent one.

Does your mum and dad live together ?

You haven't a clue what you are talking about notjustamom.

mother funk.. i dont think the problem is her doing bar work its the facts that surround it ...the low pay and the childcare,your position in clubs as a dj is an entirely different capacity to bar staff ...bar staff are easily replaceable and they dont get the same professional respect....so to work and earn a 'living' really a different job is more apt,

i get by fine on what i earn. i have been doing so for the last 12 months.

no my mum and dad separated before i was born.

So who lives in the house, you, your mum and ds yes ??

who looked after your baby at night then before? your mum couldnt have been on the sick for 12 months surely???

when you have no qualifications you are limited to shop/bar/reception work though and all of these only pay minimum wage ot just above it.