Push present ideas for my wife

[newdad1989]

Expectant dad her due first week of January 2023. (also my first post here for forgive me if I'm not using this correctly)

Grateful for push present ideas. I was thinking of jewellery - maybe a ring with the birthstone of the baby, or a necklace with the initial of the baby's name.

Also when do people give these presents? Is it literally right after giving birth or do you wait??

Thanks,

I'd go for an eternity type ring, but don't cal it a push present. Just give it as wanting to get you something to celebrate our child and you.

the best thing my husband bought me and it wasn't a push present just something he bought me was a half a litre thermos mug. It was used multiple times a day and was an absolute life saver for when my son was napping on me and i wasn't able to move. Plus lessened the risk of me spilling a hot drink on him too!

If only there was a thread full of posts that would make it abundantly clear.

I got a breast milk ring made when one of my children turned one. I sent off a sample of breastmilk and my ring size then worked with the designer to create the ring. I love it and never take it off. If your wife isn’t breastfeeding then an eternity ring is more than a suitable substitute! Could you ask one of her friends if she has ever mentioned anything or a certain style? Maybe a sister who could help you to pick something out?

Sounds like you've been told thoroughly that it's a bad name - but thoughtful idea and it sounds like you arent doing it to get out of parenting like some men do.
I'd say either eternity ring, a sort of pamper hamper (new pjs and dressing gown, chocolate etc) or (my personal favourite) a voucher for a proper massage at a nice spa which she can use in a few months time.
You sound lovely OP. Best of luck to you both.

Exactly! Great answer to people who think they know better! Love it!

The whole idea makes me cringe a bit. I'm not sure I know anyone who's actually received a push present.

I had a night in hospital due to a c section and came home to a lovely bouquet, box of chocolates and a fairly tidy house. That was perfect. But most importantly he was totally supportive of me and hands on with the babies from day one.

DH didn’t call it a push present but he got me some nice crochet hooks I’d been eyeing up. I wouldn’t have wanted jewellery. I wanted some sentimental jewellery for Mother’s Day but I was quite specific in what I wanted. DH saw me eyeing up the crochet hooks and then he sneakily bought them while I was distracted by DD. He gave them me and said he knew it was hard and an adjustment but I was doing amazingly and that I’d created the perfect little baby (obviously ). Just wait until baby is here and then look for something she wants, even if it isn’t blingy but something that is her and possibly something she liked pre-baby so she can be reminded she’s still her old self. I had a really positive birth but I’d have cringed if he had got any memories of that.

Ffs.
Please ignore this BS OP. Having a baby is a major physical undertaking and although having the baby is the blessing, a partner showing their appreciation of the physical effort involved in carrying and birthing a baby is nothing but lovely.

I would recommend discussing with your wife. Jewelry of baby's birthstone sounds lovely.

I would not present it at the moment she has just given birth. A week after/ when she comes home is fine. She'll be very preoccupied anyway and at the few days after, her hormones will be a mess and she'll just need a lot of emotional support.

Definitely not at the birth or in hospital maybe something a few weeks later.
But yes push present is such an awful phrase 🤢😂
and I agree, do all the cooking, cleaning, fetch her drinks, food, and support her - most important thing.

When in doubt, always err on the side of 'your wife would like some kind of expensive material gift'. I'm the least materialistic person and don't even own jewellery apart from my wedding rings, but when my husband vaguely suggested getting me gift after the delivery of our first child, my first thought was 'flipping right I'm getting diamonds!' I've had 2 further rough deliveries since and got some kind of jewellery following each one. My husband is an amazing, hands on father and supportive partner etc and you know what? I still wanted sparkly stuff and felt I deserved it after growing and gruesome expelling 3 humans from my body!