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[Rosa]

Ciao - Everybody Welcome.

It is amazing how they can switch from a language to another... pr they ask "which langiuage should I speak here?". They now refuse to speak in English to me and dh.

Being Monza there is no bus, or not a direct one anyway. And even then it'll be like the circonvallazione traffic wise. I'll see what happens with the bike. I'd prefer to keep my options open as there may be no other solution.

I've also just realised that there are going to be proper school holidays from next year, this school just mentioned 2 weeks off at Easter. Eek!

You will have to "adopt" a nonno

Yes, but not a brianzolo one

Monza sounds like the pits, no?????
I know it isn't a good idea to trawl the net, but i wanted to find out which fictional relative i should kill off in the name of a free diagnostic test. It is 500 pounds by the way, which I will do my best not to fork out if i can bloody help it. This was my second midwife, they all seem to be 'don't worry, i am sure it will all work out'!!!
I think i will wait for the nuchal, as that might prove i am high risk (high risk for them is 1 out of 300 chance of having baby with abnormalities, i would be worried though even if it was 1 in 700 tbh) and then plead with consultant.
Ds refuses to speak Italian, cause he is a bloke, lol. Thank you for your words, girls, off to do some work.

lol at fictional relative to kill off!
I'm sure everything will work out fine. Have you got an appointment for nuchal scan yet?

lol at Brange's dd saying breaking mummy's balls.
I am SO indecisive. I can't make a decision re bloody summer holiday. DP just sits there and says whatever you think but I know he'll be the first to moan if somethings wrong with what I do! Sod it am going to just book the house in Varenna....I think..... I am totally decisive at work, why am I incapable of deciding anything in real life!!!!!!!!!!!
What times do your dcs have cena? Do they eat with you? Am starting to wonder if I should start feeding ds early in a desperate attempt to have him settled and in bed earlier (1 hour tonight to get him to sleep , finally at 10.15, wouldnt go to sleep in cot, wanted to be cuddled. DP keeps saying "we've got to do something about it" which means me obviously).
Sorry this is turning into a bit of a moany post hasnt it, I'll go now before I move onto moaning about something else

DD usually eats before us, mainly because if she waited to me to get things together for everyone she'd be far too tired to eat, so she often gets an easy meal like frittata or something from the freezer.I've got very lazy and batch freeze a lot less these days though so lately she seems to be eating all the same things.
Sometimes if I'm organised or home early I'll cook something for all of us but that will mean that we eat earlier. She's in bed by 8/8,30ish most days, so I can pour myself a glass of wine and settle down to watch tg in peace.

Sympathies with the you having to sort out the bed business, DP is totally crap and has only ever managed to put DD to bed twice in her life, and only because I was physically kms away on business trips. Both times he let her fall asleep in our bed and once she woke up and demanded to be put in her own cot.

glad its not just my dp! him and bloody Nonno then get together and come out with pearls of wisdom of what "we" should do differently ususally when dp goes round to his Dad's to watch football and have a 50 course meal cooked for him
at 8.00, glass of wine and TG in peace
DP is actually right, I do need to do something re bedtime, just don't want to hear it from him accompanied by his martyred "I've been at work all day and you work from home which doesn't count so therefore it's up to you" face.
He is lovely really most of the time, just sometimes makes me

Yes, mine too. I always seem to be complaining about him but on the whole he's OK, or I wouldn't still be with him. I think it's because a lot of the things he says/does rile me so much because of my independent foreign woman mentality, for want of a better explanation.

He does at times have very strong neanderthal traits and yes, I used to get all the comments about staying at home and doing nothing etc. when I was on mat leave. I used to get quite angry but now I let a lot of stuff wash over me or laugh. Sometimes I find briefly shouting at him after his more ridiculous comments shuts him up nicely. Not ideal but if it works....

How many naps does your ds have in the day? 1 or 2? If 2, can you not get him down to 1 perhaps, so he's more tired in the evenings? Just an idea.

Gio, ds, who was my first, was a total nightmare to put to sleep until the age of around 2.5... it took him ages to fall asleep and wanted to hold our hands (dh and I used to do a night each). Then one night dh managed to convince him he didn't need the hand and that he's sit by his door until he'd fall asleep and slowly he "learnt" to fall asleep on his own.
We usually eat at 7 together and the children go to bed at 8, so that at 8.30 I can watch un posto al sole .
You need to tell your dh that working all day is actually more relaxing than staying at home with a toddler
And my husband as well doesn't seem to be involved in the decision making holidaywise grrrrr

re read my post, my english is appalling!
doesn't seem to want to be involved etc etc for one

and ds is still my first isn't he?

he has 1, albeit a long one, in the afternoon. I dont want it to reduce to much because I grab that time when he sleeps to do work calls. Perhaps if I move it forward and try putting him down earlier a miracle may happen. Hard to imagine when I know that usually at 9 he is running around like a child possessed but worth a go.
And he can eat frittata at 5.30 every night . Perhaps my Mum had it right, I was bought up having dinner at about 5.30 until I was a teenager!

. nononon dinner at 5.30 is a crime against humanity

I wouldn't reduce his nap (my mum saying: the more they sleep, the more they sleep ), I think if he sleeps from 2-4 then it's reasonable to put him to bed at 8.30? (mind you ds was going later than that at your ds's age)

I know 5.30 doesnt seem right does it, especially when there's no Neighbours to have on in the background to make it completely mimmick my upbringing

... I wonder if they sell vintage dvd neighbours collection...

Lol. that's the one thing I think the Brits have got almost right food wise, early dinners, if only to save the parents' sanity. My dsis' kids are both in bed by 6.30 but then she doesn't work so is probably fed up with them by then. I need to at least have some quality time with mine before she's shoved off to bed.

I can't work early dinners out at all: if you eat at 5.30 what happens at 9? don't you get hungry? then you end up eating crap...? and bedtime at 6.30 ! would never risk to have anyone awake in the house before 7.30

ooh vintage neighbours dvds, what a thought....
Reading your post re DS needing to fall asleep holding hands makes me feel better Franca. Mine needs to hold my hair!! Strange. I have tried the whole in his cot screaming thing and it works eventually and he collapses but the other day took 1 and a half hours of him screaming, me reassuring him and ended up with me with my head over his cot so my hair was hanging down in his face so he could hold it . Cuddling I think is preferable and less stressful all round. It doesn't seem right to let him get so upset for so long before he goes to sleep somehow

I agree I don't think control crying works with toddlers. Lots of people argue it doesn't work full stop.

I always used to be starving by 9 and would usually have a bowl of cereal before bed! Now would never think about eating before 7.30, ideally 8 at the earliest except ( and this is bizarre) when I go back to my Mum's when I get incredibly hungry around 5.30!!! How strange, perhaps it is the same thing that makes me scrap with my brothers and sister about the remote control for tv as soon as I walk through her door, reverting to being a snotty rteenager

stroking hair, that's sweet

Lol Lol Lol gio. I'm glad I'm not the only one who regresses back to being 12 when with her family. God I hated my brother when he got to the tv before me!
Think I'll go to bed now, good night!