Who pays on dates

[Pussycat02]

Iv been with my bf six months we see each other 3 times a week but only go out to eat once a week , we are both in our fifties and have good jobs , we don’t eat at expensive restaurants when we go out and he always pays , suddenly this week he said he thinks we should go Dutch on dates , I have to add that usually every month or so I foot the bill to say thank you as feel this is right . I feel a bit upset as to be taken out once a week I feel he should want to pay as I’m his lady , am I being totally wrong here , I feel he’s suddenly changed the goal post from insisting on paying for me to going Dutch , I Woukd appreciate some advice

If I was dating a wealthy man and he moaned about taking me out for dinner I'd dump him. Tightarse. I also think it's very attractive if he offers and is happy to pay for everything on the first date.

I like a REAL man. Sue me 🤟

Old school out of date sexist way of thinking im afraid. Why should he pay for it all?? Though as others have said if you are buying ingredients to cook for him all the time I can understand it's only fair he pays for a meal when you go out if it's not somewhere really expensive x

I’d find that a bit off putting tbh. Why is it that your time/ ingredients/ energy has no value in this scenario? I suppose it depends on what you are serving up something on toast versus a nice meal. If you are cooking something nice twice a week then that is equal to a nice meal once a fortnight or so surely? You pay for one meal a month so that cancels out one.

If you’re going to go Dutch he needs to cook once a week too.

What is this you are his "lady" thing ?
You are your own woman .
For the record I am 56 and would be mortified if I thought I was relying on a man to "take me out ".
Split the bill or take turns ,then you cook one night ,he does the other or brings nice wine or desert or something if you enjoy the cooking .