Why So Quick To Condem!!!!!!!

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A thread was started earlier and it doesnt matter what it was about, but it was started innocently, niaeveley(sp) even, but certainly not maliciousley(sp)

The fact is a few people posted on it and then when they realised that the thread was a sensitive subject they were quick to condem the poster.

Instead of explaining via cat you carried on about what an insensitive thread it was. THE FACT IS YOU DIDNT REALISE EITHER OR YOU FORGOT.

Do you really think it was done on purpose, do you not think that the poster is upset too and is absolutley gutted at the upset she may have caused to one person.

Amfs they won't say though will they? pmsl

Trouble is... we wouldn't be incognito to eachother - oh and, of course, where would we find the time? Far too much "moderating" to do .

Mmmmmm ok I believe you

I think that I am the "upset MNer" in the post you are all referring to.

Let me say first of all to Lisa that I never thought for a minute that you started the thread as anything but an interesting question. I have no doubt that no offense or upset was meant by you or anyone else who posted on the thread.

I think the pub analogy is a good one. This very easily could have been a topic that came up over a pint, but if I was in the pub with friends I know that it wouldn't, because people who know me know my personal details and would realise it would be upsetting. And if someone did say something like that they would get a kick under the table.

I agree for the most part that if we don't like/don't agree with a particular thread then we should ignore it. However, in this case, the thread title didn't give anything away, and once I started reading it I had to read the whole post. Maybe I shouldn't have responded, but it did upset me and I didn't want it to go any further. But I didn't see any more of the thread after I posted, and I'm very sorry if it became nasty. I didn't ask for the post to be deleted, but I'm glad it was because it did hit too close to home, and I also didn't want anybody to be attacked for posting it.

I would hate to think that anyone on MN would pussyfoot around a topic that could potentially be upsetting to another MNer, just like I don't want my RL friends to have to censor what they say to me. But this thread was in very bad taste so I'm glad it's gone.

Sorry for any upset. I know there was no harm meant.

Good post KATG.

Sorry also that the thread was obviously very painful and upsetting for you - I posted on it early on and I had no idea.

KATG - didn't see the thread but for you.

Thanks for posting KATG. I only saw the beginning of the thread and posted very early on. I don't know how it developed but I'm very aware that I wouldn't have posted my response using the wording that I did had I known your situation. I'm really sorry if anything I said caused you any further upset.

Generally I don't agree with threads being deleted- but I think the the last month or so there have been some that should (and have) been, and tbh I wouldn't have wanted my post to remain knowing that you had been affected in this way, and would have requested its deletion myself anyway.

hugs

Ditto Kate......hope you're OK.