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[francagoestohollywood]

Everyone's welcome

so apparently you can get impetigo more than once. and I had to go and get DD from childminder again today. doctor says it's not impetigo. but who knows? that's what they said last time as well. only a farmacist from a remote village in calabria spotted it after one second.

the childminder does not want her just in case. and even if you put antibiotic cream just in case she is not allowed for 24hours.

all the time. then DH does not take the day off himself because 'his job is more important'. of course is job is more important because he can have a career and go up the ladder because he does not have to take a million days off a week, does not work p/t and is not off for 2 years on maternity leave. and then if/when divorce you are told that he 'made the money' and you did nothing at home and you have to fight for a pittance.

I am a beaten woman today. can you tell? I cannot even cry...what is the point? catch 22 - all the time. is it going to be like this all the time. sono senza`parole. really.

actually I am crying!

I went through this last year Pippi:
but first, sai niente degli ospedali romani? un buon ospedale con unita' cardoiologica? la mamma di una mn ha avuto un infarto vicino a roma ed e' ricoverata a 30 km da roma, vedi link di califrau. help!

I did post already.

Last year, when doing my translation and the children fell ill, dh never took an entire day off (which btw he could easily do, being an academic he doesn't necessarily have to be IN his office). My translation/ "job" was clearly considered as a "hobby". It can be indeed the risk attatched to part time working, unless both parents agree that their jobs are equally important and really share the childcare. I know how you are feeling and I felt really crossed with dh last year. I'm also wondering whether he's going to offer me one morning of freedom during this half term, but I don't think so. I'm not the best sahm in the world, actually quite the contrary.... At least you have a job . I think that if you like your job you have to make it clear to your dh that it is important for you, even if it's part time and you learn less... omg, I'm going all xenia, and I hate working

you are lovely btw pippi

I had that too. First time he had impetigo it took me 4 days to realize what he had, in the meantime he must have infected the whole nursery ! The second time after keeping him home for three days they let him go with plaster, which he removed after half an hour, so I was called to pick him up [sho9ck]. what the hell. It was last year, when I was doing this bloody translation.

thanks very very much franca.
I really feel bad today. I think it's also connected with the fight we had a while agao, like I said then unfortunately words do take a long time to be forgotten.
yes p/t does not help but even if you work f/t but earn considerably less you still can be considered as 'doing it as a hobby' because you don't 'like' being a SAHM.

tbh I think we are having this problem because of what happened to DH's dad. I think he kind of want to be like him now and that's the result. It doesn not sound like him much. or maybe that's what happen to a married man.

but what choice have I got? with two kids. what chances have I got of holding a job? am I going to be forced to be a SAHM? should I be thinking of myself lucky because I have the choice to be one? like you I am not a good SAHM. I am a brilliant mum but not the whole traditional package, and never will be because really it does not interest me.

let's face it though if that's how much consideration I get when working and bringing some money in what am I going to get if I decide to do a master clearly 'for fun'?

I am sorry about this mega rant but I really feel quite empty and facing a wall. not sure whether I am seeing things the wrong way or if they are wrong.
you can also probably can tell that I have see what happens during a divorce (my parents and DH's just last year at 70yo) and I KNOW that's exactly what happens.

PS: I hope xenia does not see this thread o e' la fine!!

I am depressed as well, dh is going away for 2 weeks in Nov, leaving me in charge. Fed up of the whole thing. But to be honest I think he has the rough part, in that he is the one who doesn't see ds for 2 weeks. Pippi are they understanding at your job? Hainvg kids is stressfull and unless you are like that xenia superwoman, having it all is a pipedream. Fed up today, off to bed soon!

I really does not think it is impetigo this time. and the doctor thinks the same that it isn't and so did the farmacist. so I think she will have to go.

yes they are, thank god. that's why I still have a job.

I like the expression 'pipedream' never heard it before!
you are right though can't have it all. but do we want it all? not sure. that's why I cannot fight today because I am not sure what's right or wrong what I want, what I can have.

apologise for crappy english.

changing the subject, I've watched Babel and The last King of Scotland. the latter was really good. got Little Children to watch, has anyone watched it yet?

brilliant Cali

mmmm you need to talk to him, but once you've calmed down, in a rational "manly" way. Maybe at the moment he is really concentrated on his job, also as a way of keeping his mind away from grieving his dad, men to do things like this . He also might think that becuase you are closer to your maternity leave, you might be more ready to give up one of your working day if dd is unwell.
It is important that whatever you decide to do, change job, stay in your job, do a master, stay at home you have his support. I think my female friends in Italy (who btw work full time) are a bit less pressurized in this, but that's because they outsource "help" more than we do here in the UK!

bella la frog cali!
I have to go as promised dh we'd watch a movie (thank you for smoking). we'll check on you tomorrow pippi .

franca you are a psychologist!! you hit it all right in the head. EVERYTHING!!
that's why I don't want to fight today because it's not simple and he does have his reasons. he is grieving in his own way. and I do not know anyhting about this and it's not fair to treat him as if everything is like before. it's still a very fresh wound. and yes he did say about the mat leave, which makes sense in a way.
on the other hand I am worried that it can only get worse. basta I am boring myself.

hothell we'll have a laugh when we meet. let's not be prudish and let's have a drink. even I will have a glass of wine!! we all deserve it!!

and yes how easy would be if our mums where here?

Day two into half term. Had a lovely day with ds, went to museum and took him to Burger King and then gym club, while dd was abandoned at nursery. I'm now happy but vaguely exhausted. I think ds enjoys a bit of time just me + him. We have people coming to view the house on thurs at 10, the house is a tip, when will I have the time (will) to clean it??? Yes, I want my mum

my mum is on her way back to the Uk I have not seen her enough as she has been with nipotina ..it was nipotinas birthday present to come here. DD is asking for them and I am just so thankful that I will be seeing them in about 6 weeks for Xmas as I miss her like mad.....

did your nipotina enjoy venice? I'd love to take ds to Venice, it's so magical! Are you coming here for christmas then rosa?

This nipotina was a bit more immature than the others ( they all came over when they were 10 )and she did enjoy it but was very keen on ice creams and the tacky shops!! She was hard work at times esp for the grandparents but I think some of the city highlights did sink in along the line !
Yes we will be in the Uk for Christmas I have to book the flights yet but we do one christmas in the Uk then one in Italy. I obviously prefer the one in the UK as I just can't create the magic here maybe as dh family cant understand some of the traditions that I insit on doing.
Glad you had a nice day with ds So did you enjoy burger king then ????

I agree with Christmas, it's one of those celebrations where you want to stick to your own traditions! Personally can't do without ravioli (fatti a mano) in brodo di carne (vero) .
Well, I do like the odd Burger King, but I don't go often, as it's just not my habit (I was around 14 yrs old when the first fast food place opened in Milan, so it's not a tradition of mine!!!), but our local BK is quite tatty and dirty, so it's not that enjoyable, imo.

I admit to when feeling a bit down I like a McD milkshake but I don't like the rest .
I must do some work as have accounts to do and the ironing !!

where are you all?
pippi, are you all right?

I'm here, although I've got to get off in a couple of minutes cos have LOADS of work to do and want to go away tomorrow so have to finish today.

Why oh why did I come on here? I have absolutely no self control, I am a weak person, I am an addict.

Oh well, at least there are no crap food in nursery threads to keep me here for the rest of the day.