while you are up there ticking your boxes

[Cappuccino]

tick 'include special needs'

can I extend that?

tick special needs if you are a nice person

All nice people welcome

Of course in include special needs. (no SN DC's of my own, .

What made you post this?

I always do.

Why would there be a backlash?

HM

i post it because I really really disagreed with it being taken out of active convos in the first place

and a poll I did a while ago showed that barely anyone clicked it

and when I post with a problem with my disabled daughter I want the same breadth of support that have for my able-bodied one

and a whole load of other worthy reasons that I went on about at the time

but some mums at the time didn't agree

Sorry, just thought it wasn't meant for me to read.

I'll include it toot-sweet.

you have to tick a box to see SN in active convos? Wouldn't it be a bit more inclusive to have all "opt-out" boxes rather than "opt-in"?

Don't see why anyone would object to SN threads appearing in active convos

for some reason I thought it said no special needs and have just realised it says include as the other boxes all say no.

think it would be more user friendly to have opt out rather that in too

I had only just noticed that it is the only one you have to opt in all the rest are opt out.

IIRC there was a time when a few posters were a bit mean to Sn threads and posted quite damning things without being aware (alledgedly) which section they were posting in- so that's why I think it happened, so that people know they have selected Sn and can take that into account.

Not sure whether that's a good or bad thing myself.

I think there is a negative connotation having it up there at all

I don't have any DCs with special needs (DS2 was born with club foot, does that count?) but have always ticked it in case there was something that I could help with, or sympathise about.

I always have SN as a lot of my fave MNers are on there

but alot of the other SN mums still don't agree do they? I was reading a thread on DS a few days ago, which made that clear. (I have a dyspraxic ds btw and have had help from the sn board before).

There was a ic of opinions when the selection buton happened, probably still is

MN amde the final decision iirc

I don't have any sn children but will tick from now on, as NSF says might still be able to help or offer support.

I was just that you have to tick a box to include this section of MN in the active convos search. Have been here for months and never noticed until Cappuchino brought attention to it.

Have always kept it switched on, want to keep up with all my MN pals

I always have 'include special needs' ticked .

always do (although rarely post)
bumping for anyone who doesn't know about this

i dont tend to do the active convo bit, just the last hour thing, but what is it with the SN thing, why wouldnt i want to read about that? I don't have a child with SN, apart from mild speech delay but i have found posts on there really interesting and informative. I can't imagine why people wouldnt want to read them. I am not interested in Style, i am not interested in food, property, recipes, products etc etc, never read the threads, but i dont expect there to be a box so i can discount them - weird

This is why when I want to ask for advice about my kids, I don't go to the sn board, even though they are autistic. Most people don't opt in and it's good to get all parenting tips and perspectives.

I don't see why it should be either, but if it must, I think it should be opt out rather than opt in.

sorry - i never knew you had to actively choose it, is this up for voting on again, why would we disclude that topic from active convos?

I haven't usually had it ticked, but I will. THe reason for it being there was after a request from some of the posters who have children with SN, because of unhappiness caused by people replying to posts, not noticing which board they were on. A lot of people almost left over the sorts of replies they were getting, but this seemed to sort the problem out.

I think they were particularly worried about people who just joined, not being especially familiar with the board layout, seeing posts such as 'where can I get nappies for a 4 year old' adn replying 'just potty train them'. At least I seem to remember that being the problem.

That was pretty much it, in a nutshell, I think.

I'm happy with whatever, I would prefer an opt out, but afaik nobody questioned it before- glad its been raised though so the newbies know (we welcome newbies one and all!)