while you are up there ticking your boxes

[Cappuccino]

tick 'include special needs'

Always do keep it ticked, but rarely post. I am interested though, and want to know how parents of, and people with specific SN want ot be referred to (the Aspie/person with AS as an example as there were very different views here) because I want to be sensitive to others' feelings.

Where are these boxes, ticked or otherwise?

i usually do have it clicked capp.

agree that it should be part of the main board. feels shut away where it is....am and that it takes a tick in a box to help a section of MN

ive never noticed and dd1 has AS so double

have ticked it now though.

Will click now - but I am cross MN towers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Why exclude the subject in this way? I am sure the nice people who post there will soon tell me to p off if they don't want my opinion!

Don't be cross. It was discussed at length.

the reason why it was segregated was by majority vote of the people who use the board and need the board to be open to people who are not farkin' nutjobs insensitive

this thread is beginning to get me down now

callmecautious

well yes we would LOL, Sn does tend to bring out that side in one (well me anyhow) but if your ead further down you'll see its not that we don't want input from people not dealing with SN- all kind, thought out posts welcome- its that there were instances where some quite mean things were posted by epople who then claimed to have 'not realised' it was the SN section.

I dor ecall (and it was quite a while ago) that some of us, esp.those dealing with far more than I, began to feel we were being targetted a bit.

There were other options- such as Sn threads being highlighted with the use of colour for example, MN chose a button. (which btw is located in the active convo line for the person who asked)

Twig I was just breathing a sigh of relief that you are on this thread.

I have a child with AS and I never knew you had to tick the box to include it

Piss off hurt then gess if I'm not good enuff

Actually am slightly concerned that a few Mums with sn kids didn't know- not what was intended at all.

I think (personally) keep the button, some people feel a lot safer with it, but when people register perhaps attention should be drawn to it if people aren't realising? Would ahte anyone to miss out on the wonderful support that is out there

2shoes I don't post on sn because I get so few replies

it is the truth

my dd is physically disabled, has speech problems, some vision problems. But often when I have had things I want answered it is the non-sn mums who have as much if not more to offer (purely by virtue of there being more of them)

if I post in parenting or other subjects I get responses from all mums.

so post in parenting or other subjects

thank you gess .. that means a lot to me

there is a problem gess

I either don't post on sn because I get no replies

or I do post on sn and allow the majority of posters to 'edit out' my experience of parenting a disabled child because they are not interested

every piece of diversity and disability policy is talking about integration

and we are not integrated, we are hidden away

I feel v v strongly about this; I should be able to post on special needs and have the full support of everyone on s
mn when I do

and Twig I don't think this is ill conceived

especially when a load of people on this thread clearly had no idea that there was a button at all

Cap, could you possibly post on general boards and put a link in the SN board to your post asking for the self-segregated to venture out?

I don't think its anti-integration, I think its self-preservation by those who wish it to be so.. and as an 'outsider' I can understand that

sorry cross-posted .. meant no offence, I just thought htis had all been discussed when the vote was taken to have the opt-in

I have just ticked include!

Didnt notice the box tbh although I dont understand why it is. Only one I'm bothered by is buy and sell so dont include that...

Capp - I do think that the SN board here is (trying to word this well and it is just my observation) more 'skewed' towards children with ASD/Aspergers. Not that the board isn't welcoming or understanding of those with physical disabilities, it is, it's just that the majority of the posters experience seems to be in that area. I've been on boards with the exact opposite.

Cappuccino sounds like we have a lot in common(except the vision) I would always talk to you.

I think there is a big difference in ignorance in the general public regarding issues surrounding learning disabilities when compared to physical disabilities.

That's not an opinion I've developed in mnet btw, just a conclusion I've come to following some reading for my recent research project.

I do value having somewhere where the issues surrounding learning disabilities can be discussed sensitively & safetly without constantly having to watch how things are phrased, or having to continually justify/explain what has been written. Look at one recent thread that led to a very civilised and supportive discussion on SN on an area surrounding learning disabilities (people had differences of opinion/choice, but were able to discuss it sesitively and with understanding)- people elsehwere on the board completely misinterpreted it, slagged some posters off and it led to a punch up. Having it in SN was key to its interpretation. At least the punch up was limited. Had it been a free for all we'd still be wiping the blood off each other.

If I want something seen by a wider audience I post elsewhere or start 2 threads linking to each other. Twigs reading it correctly again. It's self preservation.

I've always left in unticked in respect of the fact that some/a lot(?) of the posters that use that board wanted it excluded, didn't they(?) I'm confused.

In fact I will slink off again

yep saggar would agree- although for me it is the SLD/PMLD crew who share the day to day experiences iyswim which does include children with PD's. The SLD/PMLD world is very far removed from 'normal' life, I really really value having somewhere that I can post without having to start with an explanation tbh.