Do wimpy kids anno yyuo

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stuck in park today, in cafe
woman and 6 year old boy in long shorts and t-shirt like ever y other kid there
boy shirieking at top of his voice about being cold and theyu should shut the doors - ear-piercing and sobbing mother cuddling and explaining, he calms down and then starts up aain - so loud - so verly loud

exactly so.
it's called arrested development
we al know adults who are really toddlers when it comes to dealing with their emotion

I wonder how franny is getting on....

to the OP yes - all wimps.

BUT she was doing the 'explaining' and taking on board his feelings wasn't she?

that worked then

not me, obviously

I'm interested exactly what the mother in the OP did that was so wrong tbh.
maybe she should have said stop crying or OI will give you something to cry about

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I'm not saying she was wrong.
Must admit though if it was me and he wouldn't shut up I'd have left the building (like Elvis).

yes I suspect you're right cod, if it was a boy of six I suspect he was sensitive for a particular reason.
or maybe ill.
would you have left nadineb? I would have tried not to but I would have felt very self conscious

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Agree cod.

We went to a 40th the other week at mate's house. Daytime kids were there but at 7pm the host's parents took her kids back to theirs and that was a cue for everyone else pack theirs off. We went without ours cos they were at JT's.

One bloke kept his dd there all night (till gone midnight) - she was about 8 or 9. She clung to our group all blardy night, sitting on my lap and dh's. I had to keep getting up and walking out to get her off me. Her Dad was out the back getting pssed, totally oblivious. My mate came in at one point and seeing her sat there with us said 'ahh, dont' you really wish you had a daughter'. WTF?!!!!! Er, that would be a BIG, FAT, FCK OFF NO!

GDG - poor bloody child!!!

I dont like this thread.

It is making my conscience create a battle between the idealistic view of tolerance of all folk, and survival of the fittest.

don't you mean poor bloody GDG?

What?! I went out to an adult party and got lumbered with another person's child and I'm supposed to be happy about it?!

Yes, I did feel sorry for the child but I wasn't exactly jumping for joy myself. It's not often I get time out without my own children!!

It sounds like Gdg was perfectly pleasant and nice to the child (why else would the girl sit with her), but quite rightly resented being dumped with looking after her whilst the child's inebriated father gaily shrugged off all responsibility!

We were all perfectly nice to her - she joined in on the karaoke etc. It wasn't her fault at all but frankly, we didn't really want her there!!

Wimpy?! I dont like that term, you dont know if that child had special needs. My son who has adhd behaves similar to that about things and i dont think people should be calling kids wimpy in this day and age.

I wasnt suggesting she was horrible to the child

I was just directly my "poor bloody child" comment at GDG so it was known who it was a response to.

I cant say i do feel sorry for the adults though, more so the poor child dragged along to somewhere where she wasnt wanted.

Oh well, you're a much nicer person than me then. If I go to a party for adults, obviously without my own children, I don't think it's unreasonable to feel a bit hacked off when you end up 'adopting' someone else's.

Everyone else felt the same as I did so I'm not that unusual!

I wasnt suggesting you were.

Simply that it must have been difficult for the child to sit around watching her dad get drunk and have to rely on the comfort and company of strangers for the evening.

I'd be hacked off with the dad though, not the child.

Which was kinda my point further down the thread - shite parenting.

I don't think GDG was hacked off with the child herself though, just with the presence of the child when her father was merrily abdicating all responsibility for her and getting hammered outside. I'm all for children being taken out in the evening personally, I've made my views clear on child-free wedding trheads etc - but in this case, she was only there because her father wanted to carry on drinking, it wasn't fair on her or anybody else. I once ended up taking a little boy under my wing at a folk festival, he was about 8-ish and vaguely attached to the crowd I was vaguely attached to, and nobody else was either sober or interested. his mother had last been seen heading off down the road in the company of a man nobody could identify, and I found the kid poking disconsolately at the remains of a camp fire, cold and without food or shelter. So I looked after him all night and took him off with us in the morning, and eventually his mother drifted back into view and reclaimed him. I wasn't at all annoyed with the child, he was a lovely boy (surprisingly lovely really), but I was fucking disgusted with his mother, and a bit hacked off that I hadn't had quite the night I'd planned

I think we are pretty much all signing from the same hymn sheet on this one

Of course I didn't have any negative feelings toward the girl! It wasn't her fault her dad was an arse!

I'm not a fan of child-free weddings either. However, this had been a party from around 2pm where children were invited but it was clear that from 8pm-ish onwards it was adults only.

I don't feel that was unreasonable personally.

"Oh, get over it fgs" would be a little harsh greensleeves . "Oh dear. It's OK. Up you get" said with a smile, is a little less harsh. Empathy is important but it needs to be used for situations where it is really needed. Not for situations where the child is simply demanding a dose of 100% attention to bolster it's ego.

Empathy works both ways. Being an emotional black-hole is very wearing for those on the outside. And eventually the empathy will wear out.