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Do wimpy kids anno yyuo

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Mud · 27/07/2007 13:26

stuck in park today, in cafe
woman and 6 year old boy in long shorts and t-shirt like ever y other kid there
boy shirieking at top of his voice about being cold and theyu should shut the doors - ear-piercing and sobbing mother cuddling and explaining, he calms down and then starts up aain - so loud - so verly loud

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MellowMa · 28/07/2007 10:20

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haychee · 28/07/2007 10:24

Thats quite sad Mellowma, hes missing out on parties and presumably any outing that may involve loud noises, fireworks, carnivals etc? Thats quite alot of fun to miss. I guess something spooked him when he was younger?

MellowMa · 28/07/2007 10:28

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MellowMa · 28/07/2007 10:30

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haychee · 28/07/2007 10:35

Blimey hes 7!? Thats alot of fun hes already missed.
I was aware of the noise issue before i had my 2dc, my niece sounds just like your ds and i was determined my dc wernt going to be frightened of noise. So i made them encounter these types of things as young as possible. Its the same with the falling over and mum rushing over to pick them up and cuddle them, i just dont give mine much attention unless its serious, and they have to deal with it by themselves. A bit hard but it has toughened them up and they dont wimp over every little issue.

FluffyMummy123 · 28/07/2007 10:39

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haychee · 28/07/2007 10:43

lots of kids like noise though. My 2 certainly do, music always has to be loud. dd1 does irish dancing and loves her heavy noisy shoes. Fireworks are great too, they love that time of year and thunder and carnivals. I believe its because ive encouraged them to enjoy noise rather than fear it.
I think its a little selfish to expect kids parties to be quiet, when most kids enjoy the mania and the noise.

madmumof5 · 28/07/2007 10:45

my 3dd's and 2 ds's hardly ever cry if they fall over they get up and say that didnt hurt and start playin again...

my dd was jumpin on her bed yesterday (tell her all the time not to) and fell from the bunk she got up and said it hurts a little but carried on it wasnt until later that day that i looked and it was swallon i took her to a+e and she had indeed broken her arm so sometimes i wish she was a little mardy....

Doodledootoo · 28/07/2007 10:55

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 28/07/2007 11:09

I agree controlling one's emotions is admirable.

But I'm talking about 1, 2 and 3yos because I have no experience of children older.

Therefore I realise that controlling their emotions is hard for them, something I can help them with, and something where they may lapse sometimes.

DS1 is FAB at calming himself down and I have helped him learn ways of doing it, because it was something he struggled with.

When he was two.

I know there are silly people who pander to their child's every whim and I object to that as well, because it does nothing to teach them strategies for coping with their emotions.

But to object to "wimpy kids" - I find that harsh and overly judgemental of a child who has no coping strategies in place because of weak, ineffective parenting.

There, is that better than my "silly" posts? I've had a bath and calmed right down myself. Tis a coping strategy

HM

FluffyMummy123 · 28/07/2007 11:12

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 28/07/2007 11:13

Parents' fault, Cod.

Although tempted to roll eyes at kid as well.

But only if ugly.

FluffyMummy123 · 28/07/2007 11:14

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 28/07/2007 11:18

Well, OK, I can see how that would be annoying.

My perspective coloured by having younger children, I think.

When they get to nine they're no longer that cute (especially not somebody else's who smells of alien washing powder or worse, Lenor, and the first faint stirrings of adolescent boy BO), so I'd probably have said "Shut yer crying face or I'll give you something to cry about" to him

HM

FluffyMummy123 · 28/07/2007 11:20

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 28/07/2007 11:28

Aw, he sounds quaint.

HM

foxinsocks · 28/07/2007 11:33

did his mother not send him back cod?

I have one who is very brave (ds) and the other (dd) who likes to milk every scratch and get a plaster . I don't really mind - she's not very rough and tumble I guess but she's brave in other ways!

LieselVentouse · 28/07/2007 12:17

Yes does my head in - the mothers do my head in sometimes too pandering to these whingers

edam · 28/07/2007 12:47

Dh and I were kind of told off by ds's nursery teacher about this one. She was concerned that ds tries very hard not to cry when he hurts himself falling over or banging his head against the wall. And there had I been, thinking it was a Good Thing that he didn't make a fuss unless he was really hurt!

Think teacher is poss. a bit drippy and also that at school he behaves differently than at home - here, her cries if he is really shocked or hurt, but doesn't over-act.

Mind you, this is the teacher who called me to take him home when he'd tripped over in the playground...

FluffyMummy123 · 28/07/2007 12:49

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madamez · 28/07/2007 12:56

F&Z: people need to learn to manage their own emotions and not dump them all over everyone else. Emotional incontinence is not a virtue, it's just tiresome behavhiour.

greensleeves · 28/07/2007 12:58

madamez, why are you always banging on about emotional incontinence? Were you potty trained at 6 months by a 9ft German nanny with a cattle prod? Do you have a shit fixation?

Just curious.

TnOgu · 28/07/2007 13:06

lol

HedTwig · 28/07/2007 13:18

think you've got it right hunker .. you have to start teaching them at 1,2 and 3 to have "emotional continence" (to nick a phrase ) ... because its not like they suddenly have a birthday and get it .. they need tools to survive in life and it is our job as parents to give them those tools

one of the tools is not being a wet blanket

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