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Anyone else having a bad day (2)

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Lucy123 · 18/08/2002 18:18

Sorry about this _ I just have to rant to someone and my usual have-a-rant-to friends are all uncontactable for various reasons.

Today has been awful. DD has not napped properly at all (most unusual) and has been hungry all day. Have spent most of today feeding her or trying to coax her to sleep.

Also we've had a bit of a drain problem for a while now. Our house was designed by an idiot, who decided to route the sewage of 5 other houses though our basement. There is now a total blockage in the pipe that leaves our house. There was a semi-blockage before, we had the truck out and everything (after a long struggle trying to find the access point which was buried, not marked and totally not where the plan said it should be). They didn't fix it, but they did temporarily clear it. They said they could only fix it if we found the next access point (and there isn't one). Argggh!

Anyway the long and short of it is that we now have a very smelly pond in our garden, while we're waiting for the landlady to return. I shouldn't have agreed to wait, but now the problem is worse and we can't contact her, not to mention that we don't know who to call in anyway. Today the level of water (from 5 houses) was so high I had to syphon it off into the valley behind our house to avoid it contaminating the swimming pool. I am at a complete loss.

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Harrysmum · 29/08/2002 20:53

Dear Marina, I don't really know what to say but am quite overwhelmed at your being able to post and to tell us a little about your wee boy. You have been in my thoughts very much over the last few days and will continue to be. Much love.

Bozza · 29/08/2002 20:55

Marina - glad you have been able to post and that the messages have been of some help. I hope you find all the support and help that you need at this time, and also that your Dh does too.

ionesmum · 29/08/2002 21:18

Marina - I don't really know what to say either except that you, Thomas and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. With lots of love xxx

chiara71 · 29/08/2002 21:29

MArina,

I've just read the post and I can't beleive how brave you've been, I can't begin to imagine how terrible it must have to go through the induction.

lots of love to you and your family

bettys · 29/08/2002 21:31

Oh Marina, so sorry to hear about Thomas . My best wishes to you and your family.

jodee · 29/08/2002 22:20

Marina, thank you for letting us know how you are, I'm so glad you have been able to get lots of support at this sad time, do look after yourself. Jodee xxx

Jasper · 29/08/2002 22:45

Thomas - one of my favourite names for a wee boy.
I look forward to hearing more about his story when you feel like telling us more.
Love and best wishes to you and your family.

mears · 29/08/2002 23:05

Glad to hear from you Marina. Just echoing what everyone else has posted. Hope you are all receiving all the support you need.

Amma · 29/08/2002 23:25

Dear Marina,
Really sad to hear your news. You always seemed one of the most intelligent and kind members, and I also thought this when I met you. We are also religious (Hindus)and I am really pleased that your priest and hospital chaplain have been supportive. Will you be able to have a service for Thomas? We will pray for Thomas and for you.
With deepest sympathy

bloss · 30/08/2002 01:10

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winnie1 · 30/08/2002 07:45

Dear Marina,

Thank you for posting. Thinking of you and wishing you and your loved ones all the strength and support you need to cope with your loss. Much love, Winnie x

Mopsy · 30/08/2002 08:18

Dear Marina and family, thank you for letting us know how you are. Thomas is a lovely name. with much love Mopsy and family xxx

ames · 30/08/2002 10:25

Only just picked this thread up. Its one of the things you fear most. I was told the same thing at 14 weeks so not quite the same. I was lucky to get pg again and went on to have dd who I adore and am pg again so I'm worrying again but so sorry it happened to you. Its just so cruel. You seem to be incredably brave. Take Care xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

CAM · 30/08/2002 11:22

Dear Marina
Hello to you, so glad you are keeping us informed when we have all been so concerned and upset for you. The same thing happened to one of my NCT antenatal group at almost term. As there were only 4 of us in this group it was pretty shocking. She has gone on to have 2 more babies. I wish you a continued good recovery and my thoughts are with you.
Love Cam

Enid · 30/08/2002 12:29

Poor Marina, thinking of you and family and little Thomas, do tell us more about him/birth when you feel like it.

ScummyMummy · 30/08/2002 12:34

Thanks for taking the time to post, Marina. I'm thinking of you and Thomas and the rest of your lovely family. xxx

EmmaM · 30/08/2002 14:19

Dear Marina, I was so sorry to hear your news. Take comfort in the thought that all the time that Thomas was with you he only ever knew love, warmth and security.

ks · 30/08/2002 14:22

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Joe1 · 30/08/2002 15:51

Dear Marina, I think you are extremely brave to post at such a sad time. Thinking of you, your family and little Thomas.

dejags · 30/08/2002 17:09

Dear Marina

We haven't ever "talked" on any of the threads, even though we don't know one another I wanted to let you know that I think you are incredibly brave and I hope that your pain gets easier with time.

Thinking of you and your family
Love
Dejags

jenny2998 · 30/08/2002 21:43

I don't know what to say, its all been said already. A friend also went through this at around 34 weeks. I can only imagine what you must be going through. Best wishes to you all. We're thinking of you xx

chanelno5 · 30/08/2002 23:00

Marina - Thanks so much for taking the time to post and let us know how you are. We've all been so upset and worried about you. Thomas is a lovely name for a very special and much-loved little boy. Thinking of you and sending lots of love x

Twink · 31/08/2002 08:04

Marina, I've just got back from holiday and caught up with your tragic news about Thomas. I just want to echo the other messages of support and sympathy. Love K xx.

Tigger2 · 01/09/2002 14:19

Marina, haven't been here for a while and had just read your messages, love and sympathy from myself and my husband. Take care.

Tigger

Rosy · 01/09/2002 22:15

Marina - I just got back from holiday and saw your mail. Nothing can describe the awful sick & empty feeling I had for a long time afterwards. It's now 9 months since I had my daughter, and I feel so much better, but at the wedding we were at on Saturday, it suddenly came back to me the last time I was in a church, and was a quivering wreck. So I guess it's not too far below the surface really. I know how long you waited to get pregnant this time, so it seems all the more unfair.
The greatest comfort to me has been the handful of friends I can talk to about Rosy, and about how I feel. You and I know that Thomas is a real person, and one of your family, but I think other people find it difficult to know how to react to the death of a child they never met. Last week though, I saw a friend who I've known for years for the first time in a long time, and he told me how well I was looking. It was only afterwards I realised that he'd been very concerned for me and was trying to give me a general message of love & support - so people do care even if they're not very good at expressing it. I wish I'd imposed a kind of "mourning period" on myself and refused social invitations for a few weeks, as chatting about less important things (ie. anything) was the last thing I wanted to do. I hope you can do that if that's what you feel like.

I'm glad that your faith has been a comfort to you. Religion doesn't play a part in my life (or hasn't up until now), but in extremis I found I needed a religious ceremony for Rosy. I hold onto a belief that God is looking after our little ones because the alternative is too depressing to contemplate.

If you want to talk offline, send your e-mail address to me via the moderators. Meanwhile, lots of love & hugs to you & your family from me and my husband. xxx