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Lucy123 · 18/08/2002 18:18

Sorry about this _ I just have to rant to someone and my usual have-a-rant-to friends are all uncontactable for various reasons.

Today has been awful. DD has not napped properly at all (most unusual) and has been hungry all day. Have spent most of today feeding her or trying to coax her to sleep.

Also we've had a bit of a drain problem for a while now. Our house was designed by an idiot, who decided to route the sewage of 5 other houses though our basement. There is now a total blockage in the pipe that leaves our house. There was a semi-blockage before, we had the truck out and everything (after a long struggle trying to find the access point which was buried, not marked and totally not where the plan said it should be). They didn't fix it, but they did temporarily clear it. They said they could only fix it if we found the next access point (and there isn't one). Argggh!

Anyway the long and short of it is that we now have a very smelly pond in our garden, while we're waiting for the landlady to return. I shouldn't have agreed to wait, but now the problem is worse and we can't contact her, not to mention that we don't know who to call in anyway. Today the level of water (from 5 houses) was so high I had to syphon it off into the valley behind our house to avoid it contaminating the swimming pool. I am at a complete loss.

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bossykate · 25/08/2002 15:59

marina, so sorry this has happened - a terrible loss. thinking of you and your family.

sister · 25/08/2002 18:52

Marina, I can't imagine how you are feeling. Words can't help you to get over your loss.x

katmam · 26/08/2002 09:51

Marina, just to let you know that we are thinking about you and your family. My heart aches for you, it's so sad and so unfair.

bayleaf · 26/08/2002 12:42

Thought about you on Saturday - in fact thought far too much and had to stop myself as was getting quite ridiculously upset for someone who doesn't really know you - tho if I'm honest I suppose I was grieving for myself as well all over again - it happened to me on the 25th August 3 years ago.
These next few days are just horrible raw days with lots of tears and few lighter moments - I needed to talk about it and spent hours on the phone reliving it all and in floods of tears - dh just couldn't understand why I kept ''upsetting myself'' by talking about it over and over again - but it was what I needed to do - you WILL find a way through this.
Much love
Bayleaf
x

buttercup · 26/08/2002 19:19

lots of love to you at this very sad time. xx

janh · 27/08/2002 13:51

Marina, I have just come back from holiday and found this thread - I am so sorry, it must be so painful for all of you, I hope the procedure wasn't too bad for you.

Take care of yourself.

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Bozza · 27/08/2002 14:01

Just read this thread. I am really sorry, Marina, and will be thinking of you.

bells2 · 27/08/2002 14:31

Devastasting news Marina. We are all thinking of you and your family.

Dreamer · 27/08/2002 16:32

So sorry to hear your very sad news. Will be thinking of you all

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Paula1 · 27/08/2002 20:25

Marina, so sorry to hear your news. I feel for you so much, my little baby is due a few days before yours, so I can really imagine how I would feel. Be good to yourselves.

Paula1 · 27/08/2002 20:28

Marina, so sorry to hear your news. I feel for you so much, my little baby is due a few days before yours, so I can really imagine how I would feel. Be good to yourselves.

mindy · 27/08/2002 22:01

marina

so sorry to hear your news
as others have said, you will never forget this loss but you learn to live with it.

Thinking of you and your family, xxx

Girly · 28/08/2002 08:08

Marina, so sorry for your loss, wishing you and your family all the best during this very difficult time.

Bron · 28/08/2002 09:13

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sis · 28/08/2002 12:26

Marina, I just found this thread after returning from holiday and want to say how very, very sorry I am to hear about this and that my thoughts are with you and your family at this sad time.
sis

Faith · 28/08/2002 22:05

Marina, Have just read your posting, with such sorrow and sympathy. I went through the same thing when a routine visit to the midwife at 32 weeks showed no sign of a heartbeat. My son was stillborn following an induction, which took 72 hours. All my thoughts are with you and your family at this desperately sad time. I found talking and weeping helped me through the dark days and grieving following his birth. I am so sad for you. Take care. XXX

Willow2 · 28/08/2002 23:08

Marina, am so very sorry to hear your news. Thinking of you, lots of love Willow2xxx

Dixie · 28/08/2002 23:23

Marina, so sorry for you, I haven't been on to read the threads so only just found out...you are in my thoughts, you've been such a support to me over the months gone by remember I'm here for you too. I know our hurt is of different sorts but when you're up to that meet up in bluewater we can both give each other a big hug & wet each others shoulders. Sometimes just a silent cry can release many thoughts and be such a comfort...all my wishes to you & yours...Dixie x

robinw · 29/08/2002 07:36

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PamT · 29/08/2002 08:40

Marina, I keep looking at this thread and just don't know what to say. I am thinking about you though and I'm so sorry for your loss.

Demented · 29/08/2002 18:11

Same as PamT, don't really know what to say but thinking of you.

Marina · 29/08/2002 19:39

Thank you all so much for the kind messages and thoughts here, they really have helped us through the past week. We will print this thread off and keep it in Thomas' memory as we do not have a great deal else to remember him by.
Every single post means a lot to us, but it was especially helpful to hear from other mums who have been through what I did. I know a lot of mums who have had the misfortune to suffer a first trimester miscarriage, but no-one else who lost a baby at nearly 21 weeks or beyond. It's a lonely place to be, especially when your best friend is in Edinburgh (but who has been great on the phone) and your other best friend is on holiday.
I'd also like to thank the Mumsnetters I've met at reunions etc who e-mailed us at home, and those of you praying for us. We have had especially kind and understanding support from our parish priest and the hospital chaplain.
I'll post a brief account somewhere else of how Thomas came to be born. It wasn't all bad.
Thanks once again to you all.

helenmc · 29/08/2002 20:49

Dear Marina, I'm glad you're home now, didn't want to post anything before because I didn't know what to say, but really just echo the same sentiments as every-one else, and wishing you well.

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