Living with a partner's infidelity, does anyone do it?

[Lulu41]

Just found out my dp is having an affair of some sort. I dont quite know what to do with this information as I dont want to break up the family but wondered if anyone out there had similar experiences and would like to offer me some advice on how to deal with it - still very shocked!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dear Lulu,
every sympathy, I don't know what you're going through as I've never been in your situation. It's so easy to think " I'd never do this...or that," in different situations. You never know until you're there. It may help to talk to one of your friends, at the moment it must be going round and round in your head. You can only ignore it up to a certain point. I know that by telling someone it makes it more real somehow, but this is really happening. It may stop, but when would you know that? You would be thinking about who else he may move onto. It's inconcievable at the moment but it will come to a point when you have to confront him, but far better you do so when you're really ready to. Can you really imagine carrying on as you are now indefinately? You'd cave in on yourself. If you confront him it doesn't mean that's the end of your relationship, of course he'll be on the defensive..he's in the wrong! You both need to have the chance to work out what you want to do. My parents were unhappily married for 17 years, it was such a relief when they did split up. I was only about 9 at the time, didn't understand what was going on, but kids pick up on a bad atmosphere. If you let it stew for too long it'll affect everything.
Pick your best/most definately trustworthy mate, try talking to someone in the flesh.
Good luck, you don't deserve this,