Nikcolas Thread

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A thread for you to do what you do

He definitely should have given you cash IMO. But the fact he hasn't means you know you can cope.

whats a bursery mts, ??? will it interfere with my housing benifit ???

I still canl;t believe that you don;t go to the CSa - he needs tobe aware of his responsibility and start treating you with a bit of respect even if he does not have a relationship with you he does with his daughter and should actually take some sort of responsibility for this - making you happy (either being with you or stopping pising you about) and paying for a percentage of his daughters upbringing would be a good start.

You owe this man nothing Nicki - please learn to stand up for yourself and make him see that he cannot ride roughshod over you or your feelings.

aargh i keep losing my posts - i have tried to reply to u twice!!!

a bursary is a maintenance grant for living expenses and childcare for the course. i don't think you would get it for the access course, just for the nursing one

More info:

www.nhscareers.nhs.uk/nhs-knowledge_base/data/225.html

and:

www.support4learning.org.uk/money/funds_nhs.htm

I don't know if it would affect your HB or not - u would have to check with the college/benefits office

thanks will have a look at that, i think maybee me and dd will go and visit my aunt for a few days she has 5 kids so that will kepp dd busy the last time i saw my cousins one was 5 now she is 14 and ive never meet the other 2 ill have to get in touch with her

Nikcola, the bursery gets paid to you every month whilest you are studying for a diploma in nursing. Not as much for a degree, but for the diploma it would probably be around 5,000. Think you can get extra if you have dependants and if you are over a certain age. Not sure about housing benefit but you would be exempt from council tax. I can't believe that I used to survive on less than £6,000 a year when I was training! And that was including my weekend earnings! Where does all my money go now?!

Will you have childcare arranged? Because you will be expected straight away to work earlies (around 7 am start) and lates (up till about 10pm latest)when you are on placements. Hope this doesn't look like I'm being down on things, when do you plan to start? I think it is going to be really tough for you and I think you are incredibly brave to be working so hard towards you dream. But please make sure you have all the arrangements necessary in place before you start. Once that is all started we will be replying to Sister Nikcola I'm sure!!

not being nosey or anything, but do you get all the benefits you're entitled to? i just ask because your dp isnt giving you maintenance for dd, which he should even if you are together. he has a responsibility over dd, and should step up to it. especially if he's not always going to be around now that he's got this arranged marriage. not that i can say much, i got problems with exp myself. men xxx

err about the chlidcare she is going to a private nursery while im at collagw 4 days a week ive been told that my placement wont start till im 21 in january, and it will be one afternoon a week, ifts it as early or a slate as you say i dont no what i will do its all getting really complicated, the lady who runs my course said that i should be ok just having childcare for 1 more day a week so that will make it 5 days a week so on that extra day i can do my placement ,

im still waiting for all the collage stuff to be sorted out regarding them funding dds nursery they said they will pay it but not untill i have my timetabel and the woman at collage said we dont get them till a week before all very confusing tehy are supposed to help you but all they do is make it so hard for people with kids

tammy,
ive been in touch with the csa and they are going to put my case on hold for a few months because of the threats his family made to dd (long story) so im getting all the benifits im intitled to £41 a week child tax credit thingy and £50 income support and monthly child benifit,

as for me and him we arent toghther well not really

All colleges seem the same, it can be a real problem. For the earlies and lates I'm talking about when you start your nurses training proper. Then again every college does it differently. I used to have 4-9 week placements where I was expected to work full time basically. This I reckon is better as it is as though you really work on the ward even if just for a short time. Other colleges seemed to have just one day a week every week on some placement or another. This would probably work better for you Nikcola? Have you actually got a place on your nurse training yet? Or do you need to complete your access course first?

If you have yet to apply, find out which colleges operate which system. Then you can best decide which way of working would be best for you. They all work so differently, and this is something I didn't realise when I was applying so just something for you to bear in mind in the future. Sorry for waffling on about it, it's just occured to me you have so much else to worry about at the moment. Sorry.

i think i need to complete the access course first athough she did say something about filling in uni forms in november for next year arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr its all so confusing it makes me not want to go they are supposed to me called student support

and now that nursery programme last night has made me feel worse

Hi Nickola - don't worry - it'll all work itself out! And did they show the nurseries where she found nothing wrong? No, they did not! Also, remember that they showed the 'care' of much younger children - by the time your lovely DD is at nursery, she will be able to talk to you about nursery and how she feels. For most children, nursery is a happy and fun experience. (I hope so: DS is going in January!)
Call the student Support worker again....it will all be worth it!

im going to go to collage onmaonday and see that sill man from student support and have a little shout at him ah well its mine and dps night together tonight where im supposed to tell him everything i think fo whats going on

Hi nikcola hope it went okay with dp last night

Yes, me too
xxxxxx

well he got drunk on vodka and red bull (he doesnt normaly drink) the he puked all over me and the floor then he fell asleep sayin nikki dont leave me dont leave me so he got a boloking when he woke up this morning well im going to have my driving lesson in a bit and my new jeans just came (black turn up jeans) and they make me look like mrs blobby

oh yuck! is he going to come over and have a proper chat when sober, or is that it before he goes away. Hope your driving lesson went okay. I just don't think he's got any right to tell you not to leave him - he's trying to control you and it's just not fair. Take care x

It's too hot for jeans. Put them on again in a month and you'll look slinkily gorgeous.

He's dodged talking to you again, I see. I am now so angry with him I can't tell you.

well hes gone after crying all morning and some more i think im all cryed out he cryed too (ive only ever seen him cry once before) i rang my friend and shes gonna stay tonight and we are going to pig out on brown rice (my own recepie of lamb garlic onions garam masala and rice ) yum yum,

i feel realy down like im never going to see him agin (i dont trust his family) what the hell am i going to do for 2 weeks

hi nicola i live in houghton regis,how old is ur dd

she is 2 and eight months wow thats only down the road from me do u have kids ???

A dd that is 20 months..

wow we should meet up sometime how long have u been posting on mn ??

ages but just now and again,if that makes sense....