Am I unusual in being the only mum who had babies in their 20s?

[bobsmum]

Feel like it round here.

Ds has just enrolled for primary school and some of the future P1 mums have met up a few times. I am officially the "baby" of the bunch at 30!!

Here am I thinking I'm way too old to have another baby and everyone else in my area seems to have started their families at least 10 years later than me.

It's all either teenage pgs or 40 somethings and I'm feeling a little out on a limb at playgroup etc.

Anyone else in a similar situation?

Now that would have been impressive

Ah! Phew!! I was concerned for your pelvic floor and sanity!!

dd at 27
ds at 29

Lol again Fairy

Was in the gp's surgery the other day with dd1 2.5,my mindee 18 months and dd2 8 months and 2 old ladies who were obv a wee bit deaf started saying to each other things like,god would you look at that,has the lassie not heard of the pill and there can only be a few months between them.

So they catch me staring at them and smile at me thinking i haven't heard them and say what lovely girls i have.So i say yes they are perfect and their 2 big brothers are wonderful too.I really couldn't help myself!!!

So sorry BobsmumWon't hijack again i promise.

oh bobsmum - I so get what you are sying - I couldhave started this thread.

I had ds when I was 25 - now I know that is not young but for my (for want of a better word) class and social group this is very young. Most of my friends had their first baby in their early 30's so I had ds while they were having parties and stuff.

The people who on the same wavelength as me are invariably 10yrs older, so although they are fun etc. I always feel like the baby and worry I am becoming old before my time.

I know age shouldn't matter blah blah but I do feel somewhat of an oddity.

[DancesWithMiniEggs are you still speaking to me? [worried emoticon] My sense of humour is warped.. I apologise! [contrite emoticon]]

well I've just turned 29 I have three children my eldest is 6 youngest 18 months dh would like another but I do not want to be preggers on my 30th. I am the youngest of my group of friends and sometimes I feel it apparently there was a conversation about me at school where one mum said 'ohhh 3 kids when she is under 30 that must be hard!' well yes it is but I'm sure its hard work what ever your age!

ROTFL

PMSL

"SHPHH:LittleSarah, you are 25 with 22 three year olds??? You poor woman!"

dimpled thighs - that's it isn't it!!! I don't regret having children in my 20s, but it is strange trying not to apologise to childless (chlidfree?) friends for having children IYSWIM. Have missed loads of houseparties etc because of ds and dd.

Have fallen into the thirtysomething crowd since I was married at 23 and feel aged by the whole experience tbh. When I turned 30 it was almost a relief to be seen as a "legit" mummy rather than pretty much a teen mum at 26!!

pmsl pmsl pmsl great LittleSarah and what's your method of contraception then love ?

I had the first 2 in my twenties and the next 3 in my thirties and the first person to say that I'll have 4 in my forties will be handed the DTs and their stereophonic questioning and screaming forthwith!

i was 28

No
I had 3 under my belt by the time I was 25

Not too old to have another baby - I could have babies into my 40s like everyone else I guess - I just don't want to be the elderly parent my children have to stress about when they're still parents to dependents themsleves.

I was the youngest mum when ds1 went to school. By the time this last one goes they will think I am Granny!!!!

Had both mine in my mid late twenties, am done now.

Wish the world and her granny would stop telling me I'm going to be trying for a boy soon....oh riiilllly

Had ds when I was 28 - will hopefully have more lo's now that I am in my 30s but I do agree with the OP that it seems that a lot of people have first babies either in early/mid twenties or mid/late thirties - maybe to do with the way careers tend to develop or something.

Following from my post below, though, I have to say that I never considered myself old as a first time mother - certainly not too old to have more children!

But then my own Mum was 34 when I was born and I was her first she had my sibling at 37 - she is in her 60s now, recently retired and full of energy - certainly young enough to have never been a "burden" to me - she has lots of energy for running around after 2 year old grandson, too!

Is it a before or after career thing? What's the big deal with a "Career" anyway? Is that the only way to find fulfilment? I wanted to have children when I was young enough and energetic enough to look after them into their teens and beyond. Whatever work situation I was in was irrelevant to the biological fact that I was getting older. I thank God I met my dh when I did, but I know others don't meet their partners til much later in life

I had ds1 at 20 {just) and I was by far the youngest at 25 when he started school. I became friends with the few poeple that seemed to be younger but they were all 30 or so, everyone else appeared to have been a doctor or lawyer for 20 years before having children! I felt a bit uncomfortable but not for long, age is a funny thing and there's something unifying about having kids the same age with the same worms/headlice, playground arguments and requests to help at the easter fair. I was always busy
I've had two more since and now there's plenty of young blood joining the playground and I look at them wistfully as I'll be 30 this year

Me too! I'm 30 and only 1 of my schoolfriends has a husband or kids (I had my first at 26). But it seems everyone but me from my school spent years travelling and then moved back in with their parents so are only just getting 'proper' lives .
I'm also an NCT member and that seems to attract more mature mums so most of my mum friends are older than me.
Have just moved to a relatively posh area too so the pre-school mums are all over 30.

Buckets - Friendsreunited is a real eye opener for me. In a class of over 90 in our 6th year, only 6 or so have had children and we all turned 30 this year.