Do you and your dp/dh have separate bedrooms? Or would you if you could?

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While browsing This Morning for a pic of Fern, who has apparently lost weight, I read this about separate bedrooms.

I'd LOVE one and in fact when ds is away one of us often sleeps in his room (he has a double bed). It doesn't mean we don't erm, have a full marriage, we do but I love being sprawled diagonally across a double bed on my OWN.

You?

I haven't really slept in the same bed as DH for about 9 months now - it started because I had shocking hip pain when I was in the last trimester of pregnancy ling on my side, and couldn't lie on my back. It was pressure pain and no amount of cushioning on our bed did any good, I had to resort to our really squashy studio lounge sofa thing. Then when DS was born in December, I slept in the bed in his room until hip pain got too much during bf'ing - ended up co-sleeping with DS in marital be but DH moved into spare bed so he "didn't get too tired to go to work". DS is now just about going thru the night in his own cot now so DH is\expecting to come back into our bed and tbh, I'm not that keen! The only time I have to myself is after DH and DS have gone to bed (about 9:30pm) so it gives me a chance to do stuff which would be harder if i was sharing with DH (exercises, computer work, washing etc.) plus reading in bed is much harder when someone else is there.

Libido is thru the floor due to bf'ing anyway - poor DH!

oh the thought of it, he can sleep in my room but could have his own room and bathroom that he could decorate in "mans style" and have all his crap in there and I could have the whole wardrobe to myself.

oh god i would love separate bedrooms

ah yes sweetkitty, that is what we have - DH has taken over the loft spare room as his "boys' room" so I don't have to put up with his clothes all over the floor or all his stuff clutterin up our not-over-large bedroom

Like most of us I would love to have this, and in fact it's one of my long-term aims - to have a house big enough for us to do it. I would actually quite like us to sleep together as we do now, but we'd be guests in each other's rooms - and we could have occasional nights alone too

I would have mine all tidy and scented with a lovely sewing table and dressing table and clothes basket and dangly trinkets. His would be a seething morass of smelly pants and socks and bits of old computer dating back to 1993 - but if it wasn't my room, I wouldn't mind - in fact it would romantically remind me of our first dates, and then I could retire to my haven of womanishness.

i also know for a fact that the cat prefers him, so he'd get the cat on his head and I'd get some peace.

We're about to have DD3 so I think in a few years DP will be converting loft/shed into a boys den just to get away from all the pink in here.

Hi all, just wanted to bump this back to life.

Thanks for all your comments, its reassuring to know i'm not the only one that sleeps seperatly to dp.

I am really struggling today.

Dp and I have been trying to share our bed again to try and build the gap that sleeping separatly has created. It has been tough as DP has been snooring but as DS is now sleeping thro not quite as tough to deal with. However, last night my DP was talking in his sleep, in a rather erotic manner. I was sooo upset, it makes me feel physically sick to hear him talk like that, he has done it before and it causes alot of probs as makes me not want to be near him.

Today DP went to docs about snooring which is great, but have no idea what to do about sleep talking, DP says he doesn't know why he does it, or remeber it.

Has anyone else has this?