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Do you and your dp/dh have separate bedrooms? Or would you if you could?

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WideWebWitch · 22/03/2007 21:37

While browsing This Morning for a pic of Fern, who has apparently lost weight, I read this about separate bedrooms.

I'd LOVE one and in fact when ds is away one of us often sleeps in his room (he has a double bed). It doesn't mean we don't erm, have a full marriage, we do but I love being sprawled diagonally across a double bed on my OWN.

You?

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JanH · 22/03/2007 21:57

We do! For a multitude of reasons - his snoring started it (is like Hulababy's friend's DH's, think Concorde taking off ) but also he is a lark and I'm an owl, I like the window closed and he likes it open, I like the heating on and he likes it off, in the job he had from 96-06 he used to be rung from work at any time of night and have to get up and work on the computer, he fidgets constantly, and there is more but I can't think of it atm.

It's meant kids sharing a room when they wouldn't have had to otherwise, but I think it was worth it for removing homicidal tendencies in me.

Megglevache · 22/03/2007 21:58

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Hulababy · 22/03/2007 22:07

Apparantly not Bristols. He has been to different GP sand consultants (NHS and private) about it and had various attemots at treatments to sort it. Nothing has ever worked.

Hulababy · 22/03/2007 22:09

sunnyjim - not me, my friends.

themildmanneredjanitor · 22/03/2007 22:11

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collision · 22/03/2007 22:12

I would love my own room and to be asked into DHs room in a seductive way!!

I would have a white minimalist room with nothing in it apart from a huge white bed with lots of pillows and a lamp so I could read and read and read and not be disturbed by 'turn the light out now!'

I LOVE it when DH is away but it isnt that often.

and we do have a 'full and passionate' marriage

collision · 23/03/2007 10:05

how can I have killed this thread too?

Are you all dreaming of my minimalist room?

kiwinat · 23/03/2007 10:08

DH gets banished to the spare room when he has the flu, so I can get a good nights sleep. TBH, I sleep better when he isn't in the same bed.

bristols · 23/03/2007 11:10

Hula - your poor friend!

Anchovy · 23/03/2007 11:31

I always thought the "spare room" was a sort of metaphor for being in a bad mood/icy silences etc. In fact sleeping in the spare room features quite highly in our house.

Firstly if one of the DCs is ill or unsettled it usually works best to scoop them up and take them into the spare room bed. If DH has a heavy cold he will often take it into the spare room or if I am really tired (sometimes I work through the night and really need to catch up with sleep) or one of us has just come off a flight, then that person will tend to go to the spare room leaving the other with the monitors on the understanding that the designated sleeper will get a good night's sleep.

Also I think we worked out early on that both of us working full time and teething/vomiting/restless children were not a great combination and that there is no point in both of us being shattered. We would pretty much always agree in advance which of us is "on call" that night - its a great arrangement as you can pretty much guarantee you will get a good night's sleep now and again.

dingolimpet · 23/03/2007 11:35

I've always slept separatly from partners, the thought of have someone snoring away next to me makes me feel bad.
On the other hand, i've never had a partner who hasn't snored, I'd like to give it a try with a quiet sleeper.

sauce · 23/03/2007 11:37

Tempting idea. What with farting, snoring, duvet-hogging, lights on & off, up & down to the loo, windows open or shut... But I would be lonely!

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WideWebWitch · 23/03/2007 13:44

Collision, I absolutely am dreaming of your minimalist room

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sunnyjim · 23/03/2007 15:25

what is it with men and snoring? DH is another one whose snoring/coughing can be heard 2 floors away!

I'm a restless sleeper too and I like to snuggle while DH likes to starfish on the bed. Add in a toddler who still wakes every night and there's no point us being in the same bed just to lie there absolutly knackered and not being able to sleep.

MrsDoolittle · 23/03/2007 15:28

But did you find the picture of Fern??

Tortington · 23/03/2007 15:29

yeah did ya ?

Rhubarb · 23/03/2007 15:30

I love you Custy!!!!!!

GameGirly · 23/03/2007 15:30

Oh no, I need DH to keep my feet (and other bits!) warm.

MrsDoolittle · 23/03/2007 15:34

I'm still hanging on for the picture of Fern. I can't find one

compo · 23/03/2007 15:35

I would definitely.
Separate bedroom plus en suite that only I used = bliss!!

yomellamoHelly · 23/03/2007 15:41

I'm amazed so many people have a spare room to be able to do this tbh. Even if we did have a spare room though I definitely wouldn't let dh disappear off to another room. The thing I always loved about dh was his readiness to give me a cuddle whenever. I had a very hands-off childhood and separate rooms would remind me of that.

q7 · 23/03/2007 15:44

I LOVE having the bed to myself. Am a very light sleeper and hate to hear anyone breathing (let alone snoring), and can't sleep if someone's touching me. Frequently stomp off to spare room in middle of night!

BigmummaL · 23/03/2007 15:47

My DP and I don't just have separate rooms with have separate homes. As much as we both love eachother dearly, we can't stand actually living with eachother!! We do see eachother every day and eat together at mealtimes and go on family days out, shopping etc and he does stay over several times a week. A lot of people cannot understand this, but we are both very happy.

collision · 23/03/2007 16:01

What an unusual but fantastic arrangement BM!!

As long as it works for you!

Gobbledigook · 23/03/2007 16:07

I quite often get woken up by dh snoring around 5am - then I go in the spare bedroom, where the bed is amazingly comfortable, so that I can get back to sleep.

Like someone else said, if one of us is ill we sleep in the spare room so we don't keep the other awake.

99% of the time we are in the same bed though.