Do you and your dp/dh have separate bedrooms? Or would you if you could?

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While browsing This Morning for a pic of Fern, who has apparently lost weight, I read this about separate bedrooms.

I'd LOVE one and in fact when ds is away one of us often sleeps in his room (he has a double bed). It doesn't mean we don't erm, have a full marriage, we do but I love being sprawled diagonally across a double bed on my OWN.

You?

I now have my own bedroom seems dh has left. I love it, but i do need to declutter it. I have slept better since he left than i have for a long time. I settle quicker because i'm not waiting for him to come to bed.

I don't wake up in the middle of the night thinking when is he going to move out/ does he love me?

I wake in the morning and know I have no choice but to get up becuase there is no one else to do things for dc.

I so hope in some ways that he doesn't decide he wants to come back.

No, I couldn't do it.

I love the hour or so after we go to bed and we chat for ages or just lie there next to each other reading. Same in the morning for those few moments when we're both awake before getting up.

I also wouldn't like to have to visit my other half or invite him to my room.

I have to say though, I don't like sharing small beds, so we have a huge bed so we've plenty of space and can be sociable and still have lots of room.

I'd love a separate bedroom.

In fact, I'd love to live next door to DH, I think.

I wouldn't have to put up with his speakers then.

in a flash

I'd love to.
He'd hate to.

We can't anyway so he wins for now but my time will come. Hehehehehehehehe.

We have our own rooms. Mine has lovely white company bedding and is serene and calm and tidy. Dh sleeps in a dark smelly lair. We have had our own beds for 14 years as he is an insomniac. our rooms have a connecting door and we share an ensuite. It is one of the reasons we bought our house. Strangely romantic encounters are not limited to either bedroom, we have never found it a problem.

We used to have our own rooms - in our previous place we had a spare room with a double bed in it, started off that DH would sleep there if he came in late/pissed, then graduated to him pretty much sleeping there all the time when I was heavily pregnant and hot - I get restless legs and am a really crap sleeper. Then he pretty much slept there all the time after that while DD2 slept in with me. We finally started sleeping in the same room again last year when we moved and no longer had a spare. I have to say that while the quality of sleep (especially for DH) has declined, it has brought us closer together in a way - more cuddles and time for chatting before we sleep or in the morning with a cuppa. And the girls come in and cuddle us both which is lovely. But oh when he is snoring or I am restless and want to thrash about or read, I would LOVE to have a spare room to retreat to - the only alternative now is to bunk up with DD in her single bed or sleep on the sofa in our very cold living room!

Just reread this thread header and thought it said "separate bottoms".

I don't think men would like this idea so much.

Sunnyjim - I think you should give it a go, living apart if you think it will work for you.

yes I 'd love one too
as many posters have said, you start using separate beds when heavily pg, then feeding babies, then getting up to tend to toddlers and ending up in their beds .... and now we both acknowlege we get a better sleep in separate beds, me so I don't have a walrus snoring down my ear and him so he doesn't have to be disturbed by me getting up to wee.

In our extension we are having a huge 3m long carved Indonesian day bed as our sofa ...... it's unspoken but we both know we prefer to sleep apart.

Is that sad?

I don't think it's sad Wong, I think I'd much much prefer to sleep apart for all the reasons already mentioned
(and as also mentioned, we have a perfectly full relationship)

I think the luxury of having the bed to yourself comes from not having the bed to yourself all that often tbh.

yes I suppose so
we have never been conjugal upon retiring in anycase so are still able to live a full life and all, wheyyyy heyyy heyyyyy!

Sorry, gotta delve more Wongster, are you telling us that you never have sex at night, in bed? Where and when then, pray tell?

I have avoided this thread solely because the thought of a room of my own makes me quite shaky with longing. Especially if Mr Inferior has had a sherry or two and snores ALL FECKING NIGHT LONG.

Also the thought of being in a room that was uncluttered by Bloke Pants is very, very seductive indeed.

I frequently move beds in the night - (we have two double rooms and infact the couple we bought off definately had separate rooms. Hers was pained a deep raspberry colour, whilst his was lilac causing us to suppose she was a ball breaker!...) so yes I would, strange, before ds I would have said no, but I think I have become such a cr*p sleeper that anything wakes me up....
He would definately say no......

If I'd posted as hunkermunker, that bit about separate bottoms, people would've said "LOL Hunker" [idle aside]

well just every other time apart from upon retiring
upon rising, certainly, but you don't have to be sleeping in the same bed for that

well MI has Sunday afternoon "naps" so I 'm not the only one you know

Oh, and I could read in bed. I bloody love reading in bed, and DP gets all huffy (I can understand this, really) if he wants to go to sleep.

Thank you, Mizz Wong

I'm horrified that ITV cannot spell separate.

After 8yrs of sharing a bed I couldn't bear not to. I think we've probably spent fewer than ten nights apart since we married and I found it impossible to sleep on every occasion. I love being a big tangle of arms and legs- we wake up at least holding hands and I love it.

DH often comes to b ed much later than me as he is on the phone to pop stars in LA most evenigns a week and if he went in a separate room he wouldn't wake me up.

Yes, reading in bed

It's the way forward, clearly

Apropos nothing.....

DH was having a lie in this morning and DS(6) and I were getting dressed on the landing. DH started one of his impressive snoring fests, DS looked at me and said how do you sleep with that noise. ???

To which I replied that is why he sometimes ends up in the spare room.

Oh, lord, I LOATHE being tangled with anyone when I sleep.