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why oh why wont he go away?

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Fio2 · 01/07/2004 19:54

that bloody twat who bought our house is STILL pushing for comepnsation. Would have posted on the other thread but I cant find ithelp

anyway he has took photos of what I dont know? they look very silly to me gawd please tell me there are some nice people left in this world!

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Fio2 · 01/07/2004 22:14

thanks coppertop and his wife is anything but a little lady LOL

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coppertop · 01/07/2004 22:18

LOL!

bran · 01/07/2004 23:25

I wonder if he does this all the time, everytime he buys a house (or buys a service or a meal or anything) he threatens to sue and then offers to 'settle amicably'. There must be loads of people who would just pay him to go away and leave them in peace. His timing and persistance and the kind of words he uses seem practiced to me. If so you're definitely doing the right thing to call his bluff.

aloha · 02/07/2004 23:05

He is SUCH a try-on merchant. Cardboard in the yard! It's funny, it really is, only I can see it isn't very amusing to you right now. I would just staunchly ignore all his letters and let him do what he wants. He'll get bored soon, I'm sure. Or die. One of the two. Hopefully the latter.

SoupDragon · 02/07/2004 23:17

Ignore the prat.

Janh · 02/07/2004 23:24

ooh, fio, just wondering if you googled his name if anything interesting on him would come up (if he makes a habit of this it might...)

Anyway I agree with all who say you should write back (address it to his wife and sign it just from you, not DH ) and say "OK, if you think you have a case you can take us to court. Any further correspondence from you will not receive a response."

2wildbabies · 03/07/2004 00:16

personally....I would go to CAB and find out where you stand legally. I personally don't believe he has a case myself....but you could offer to remove all unwanted stuff to shut him up. If he does not accept, then challenge him to take it to court....he will have to pay for it and will lose. Also on contact him through letters. You should keep any correspondence as evidence if it happened to go to a small claims court.

But what a prat......all he is after is compensation. He does not have a leg to stand on. Don't let him worry you.....you have the upper hand.

take care x

sis · 03/07/2004 00:48

Fio2, I know it is so much easier for me to say that he is just trying it on and you should just ignore him than for you to do it. He seems to be one of those truly annoying individuals who just don't know when to go away. If you do write to him maybe you should say that you have already relpied to his claims and that his behaviour is unacceptable. If he wishes to persue the matter through the courts then it is up to him but you will ask for costs against him and that if he keeps writing to you, you will report him to the police for harrassment.

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Fio2 · 03/07/2004 10:41

I really should go into more detail about what he has actually done. I was just so mad on saturday, I just neede to vent.

  1. he has took a photo of the broken lock and the bolts he has to fit on the french doors

  2. he has took a photo of the missing garage door handle, which he claims we broke inbetween the period of him having his survey done and the time we moved out. I have actually found a photo with my son on when he is a baby (he is 2 now) and it clearly shows that the garage door is broken

  3. he has took a photo of the wheelie bin and recycling bins. granted 2 of the bins arent council ones and they did have recycling in but they didnt collect til the following week

  4. some racking and small wall cupboard in the outhouse

  5. waterbutts, which were included in the sale

  6. the compost heap. There are branches on this which I know are my old neighhbours

then a few picture of very small bits of cardboard and stuff.

As I said he wants to settle it amicably else he will take us to court.

I am seriously considering bringing harassment charges against him but tbh am unsure where we stand. This is something I will ask CAB.

I have most probably taken this out of proportion but we are really having a bad time of things atm and it is just adding to the stress. We have moved over 200 miles, my husband is being made redundant end of july, I am on benefits because my daughter is severely disbaled and we also have a young child to look after. The house we have bought need major works and financially I dont know how we will be in a few months time. I just wish this black cloud would go away. My nerves have been bad for ages, but on staurday I couldnt stop shaking.

He pestered the whole way through the sale and threatened me at any oppurtunity that he was going to pull out. We dropped the price by 3,000. He then came to us a few weeks before and demanded that we paid him 4,500 in cash before the sale otherwise it would not go through. I did pay him 330 pound of this. Then a couple of days before he threatened us to move out quickly. He has still not moved into the property 2 months later. I just feel it has all been premeditated.

Sorry i have waffled on. It has really helped writing it down and getting it off my chest. I am going to make an appointment with CAB for this week

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Blackduck · 03/07/2004 10:48

FIO2 from what you have said he has no leg to stand on with regard to points 1,2 and 5. The recycling bins is just being bloody minded as is the shelving in the outhouse - with that kind of thing if it is fixed to the walls I am sure most people expect it to stay unless catagorically told it will be taken down (our seller took down to shelving units in the kitchen, but they pointed out these weren't included in the sale so fait enough - and they obviously weren't cheap.) Compost heap FFS ....
stay cool, go to CAB, the guy is an arse......

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Fio2 · 03/07/2004 12:05

thanks blackduck. It is reassuring to know that other people think it is trivial too.

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SoupDragon · 03/07/2004 12:37

Tell him to off. Not very helpful but SO satisfying in a childish way.

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Fio2 · 03/07/2004 13:15

why am I the only one who lets it bother me. DH just looked at the letter and went ' what an obnoxious prick!' then forgot about it!

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aloha · 03/07/2004 13:32

Fio, if it doesn't bother your husband, then let him deal with it all. DOn't look at the letters or open them or anything. I take back what I said about him being just an arse. He's a very nasty piece of work and yuo were very unlucky to have him come into your lives. Truly, truly, he does not have a leg to stand on. It would be funny if it wasn't for all the blackmailing and threats he's tried on with you before. He won't take this court - even he must know he hasn't got a hope, but you have agreed to his demands before and he clearly hopes he will get even more free money out of you. Maybe your husband could call him, just lose his rag at him and say that hell will freexe over before he gets a penny out of you and he can stop harrassing you right now as you will not be replying to any more of his threatening letters and he will be wasting his time. That, or simply ignore him. As for you, please, please don't spend any more emotional energy on this awful, wicked, stupid man.
Good God, the list of things he has presented you with are so stupid even he must realise he is just trying it on, but it has clearly worked for him before. Whatever you do, don't give him any more money.

littlemissbossy · 03/07/2004 13:37

Fio, he has absolutely no case against you. IMO I would write him a "polite" letter stating what you've said here including the bit about having photographic evidence, as for things like the bits of cardboard, he could not prove in a court that you left them there. If he decides to go to a small claim court the way I understand it is that he will be charged approx. £150 court fee when he submits the papers, then the court decides whether he has just cause to claim against you. IMO he has NO case (he's just a bit of a to$$er so he will have wasted his own money and time. If however, court papers arrived on your doorstep you can defend the claim and copy the "nice" letter that you sent to him to show that you were not being unreasonable HTH

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Fio2 · 03/07/2004 13:39

You are so right aloha, I know you are and thank you. I wish I could just forget about it but I am such a sensitive person and things like this really play on my mind. Sometimes I think I have MUG wrote on my forehead. As for my husband sorting it out.....well, he wont sort it out. he wont sort anything out. He works very long hours and he is looking for another job aswell so he is really busy. It is left to me Im afraid or the CAB. I am sure they will help me

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Fio2 · 03/07/2004 13:42

thanks littlemissbossy. I did write him a polite letter back the first time but I think he has selective deafness. My husband thinks the same as you aloha, that we shouldnt have given in to him before but it was me, I 'thought' it would shut him up! sigh

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aloha · 03/07/2004 13:48

I'm not blaming you for paying him to go away before, Fio2, really I'm not. Go to the CAB by all means, but I do think he needs to be ignored. He's basically a blackmailer, and that's the lowest of the low. Poor you to have had the bad luck to meet such a dreadful person.

littlemissbossy · 03/07/2004 13:50

Fio, I'm trying to remember your previous thread - is he the key guy??

Piffleoffagus · 03/07/2004 13:52

Ask your solicitor to write a very firm and final letter about the matter, would be worth paying for.
And let him take you to court, it will cost him, money to do so and I see it as virtually impossible for him to have acase that ANY legal person with any sense would represent him on.
It might be worth calling his solicitor and mention the word, harrassment, my lawyer blah de blah and hope it gets back that way.
Sorry for your trouble it soudnd so bad tempered and petty

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Fio2 · 03/07/2004 13:53

yes the one who is lacking in keys and braincells

I have rang my estate agents and they are sending me the copy of his homebuyers survey, which basically says all doors werent tested. And they have a copy of his threatening letter that demands 4.5k off me.

Do you know what the funny thing is? He claims the garage door was never broken and yet he has took a photograph of a lock on the floor by the garage door that we fitted when we moved in to keep the garage door secure because it WAS broken. what does he think it is there for?

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Fio2 · 03/07/2004 13:56

there is no way I am using my old solicitor, she is useless, doesnt advise you just wants money. My friend said solicitor do free surgeries where they can advise you for free. i was thinking of going to one of these. he has gone to a solicitor in his orignal firm who is more senior, obv trying to scare us

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littlemissbossy · 03/07/2004 13:56

ok girls, get your spare keys ready and await further instructions from fio (I dare you!!)

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Fio2 · 03/07/2004 13:58

oh god no can you imagine? we will wait til it all blows over and then do it

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littlemissbossy · 03/07/2004 13:59

great, it'll give me extra time to look for more keys