Swagger Inn 138 - in which we run out of --Musketeers Episodes-- witty titles, but need a new thread to carry on blethering

[SisterHelenoftheEternalCatchUp]

As above. It's late, and I'm too tired to be clever or witty. (Business as usual then )

If anyone needs me I'll be in the hayloft with Athos

Morning wenches. IT'S FRIIIIIIIIIDDAAAAAAYYYYYYY!!!!!

For goodness sake Comtess, slow down a bit please - I'm exhausted! Sounds like you're all having a fab time, and you still get to watch Poldark courtesy of techy neighbour (every home should have one)

And to be honest, I'd have probably sneaked a snog with Athos/Tom in that situation

Did I mention it's Friday?

Morning. I'm fairly sure it is anyhow Was a bit of a struggle getting moving this morning, but I'm raring to go now

I'm starting to feel jealous that you're getting towards summer comtess, now that things are getting colder here.

Lovely aramis pic there letus

Morning all.
Good news - MrH woke early (4am) and sorted out breakfast for DS so I got to snooze in bed with half an eye on the clock until 8am!!!
Bad news - MrH woke early because his back hurt and is now a grouchy tired bundle of grumpiness because he is tired and his back constantly aches and hasn't got markedly better in the past week and he is Not Happy

Happy Birthday for Badders for tomorrow (while I remember)

I have work to do - as ever. Which is a Good Thing, though I'd rather be mucking about online. In fact I will probably be mucking aboutonline for at least 10 30 more minutes before I knuckle down, log into the timesheet and work.

Afternoon all.

Comtess pleased you're enjoying your new life.

Lol at very instinctive actor. I bet they were all wondering what he'd do next.

Poor MrH. Is he taking ibuprofen? We find it helps bad backs enormously.

I've updated the blog! Scroll down to wherever you got to last time.

www.followingthemusketeers.com/

Afternoon wenches.

Poor MrH - bad backs are shite.

Will catch up with your blog later Apricot. It's nice to have something to look forward to

I have a cold. Sneezing my head off at work and rapidly running out of tissues. Woe etc.

Trying to read Apricot's wonderful blog but people keep coming into my office. Some are even trying to give me work. Rude

How very dare they LetUs
It's fab apricot - much needed interruption to the day. MrH is on so many pills he rattles just now - including industrial strength ibuprofen.

In other news it is raining. Just as well I never got round to putting the washing on.

And there's something scratching about in the loft above me

Ooh fab blog apes. It's just what I need right now.

I feel utterly, utterly shit. The new HV was round to see NewToddlerMouse and whilst she is much, much better than the old one, she thinks he needs a SALT referral too. He talks a lot but it's garbled and unclear. How could I have missed it? I must have been comparing him to schoolmouse and thinking he was much further along. I just feel like I've failed. She went through the whole "read to him, narrate everything, take them out bollocks" we had with SM. I talk to him (I speak 4 languages FFS and Mr Mouse's MA is in teaching English) , read, sing, play instruments for the pair of them.

I just feel awful and like I'm going to be judged as a shit parent by all and sundry for producing not one, but two kids that can't speak properly. I was so hopeful that NTM wasn't going to have the same difficulties as SM and its happened again.

Mouse stop it - you haven't failed and you haven't done anything wrong. If anyone failed it was the old HV for not picking up on it - if you have a professional who thinks that things are fine, then why wouldn't you think he's fine too? You are NOT a shit parent.

[HBFs]

Ah Mouse 😞
That must have been very hard to hear,
Look, you know in your heart of hearts you do everything you can for those kids. You and mrM. You know this. People who know you know this.
I think It must be quite difficult when you have had a baby/child with sn/Sen to see less severe issues in other DC.
I know we had the opposite with our two....ds1 basically missed every milestone there is 😫 And ds2 would do stuff and Dh and I would look at each other and be like...."er....should he be doing that at this age" 😳
We just couldn't use ds1 as a yardstick. We had no clue what an NT baby/child did.
Ds1 was also referred for salt and I was very upset at the time...of course with hindsight it was a good thing to happen.
Don't beat yourself up.
He will be fine.
And as you know the earlier the intervention the better.
and

...and if we are handing out awards for shit parenting...I'd win hands down 😀
First Ds with failure to thrive and developmental delay. Severe dyslexia and speech problems.
Second Ds totally NT but I've managed to fuck him up too as he has anxiety and food issues
So....you know....
😁
Come on....you know you haven't done anything wrong.
so stop it
But It's ok to feel shit...for a bit. X

Thank you both
You've got it exactly right badders. I don't know what an NT child is like and what they should be doing.

I am glad it's been picked up on. And that NTM is less severe and more biddable than his brother. I have specifically requested SMs excellent SALT. She is wonderful and both boys adore her. I gave the HV her number and she promised she would contact her.

All sounds very positive.
He will be fine.
Honestly.
He has you for a mother.

What Badders said.

Shit parents don't give a crap about any problems their DC have and don't seek to get them assistance when they find out about said problems. The fact you are beating yourself is proof of Very Much Not A Shit Parent.

I took the first SALT's advice with DS2 that he was fine and on course with his speech. She was wrong and I feel like I've put him back about two years.

Beating yourself up obviously.

Ds1s salt was lovely too and looked about 12 😀
I was so happy when it became clear that Ds2 didn't have ds1s issues.
But then after a time I thought..."well, of course he doesn't! He is a totally different person!" And of course time has Proved he has his own issues to battle with.
The important thing is that you battle together. And you don't give up. And you allow yourselves the odd day to feel sad about it all x

Oh mouse massive for you.

You are absolutely, clearly, not remotely a rubbish parent. Quite the contrary. They are both lucky to have you both and you will all be just fine cos you have each other.

The wenches are very wise.

If it's remotely helpful...dss1 was diagnosed with spectrum aspergers when a toddler and had lots of struggles in the stupid, completely unsupportive spanish school system.
Due primarily to loads of support and love from both parents, he's now doing great in his 2nd year of uni. I'm sure you'll be the same.

I have had two , life is good

Hugs to all wenches in need!

I always get a warm feeling inside when anyone use

Evening wenches

Will we get pissed posting from you tonight ww?

Totally agree with letus - shit parents don't care, therefore by definition you are not a shit parent mouse. Have you taught NTM any of the other languages you speak? Am fairly sure I've heard that bilingual children can be a bit later to master speech, but very soon catch up & then are as fluent as everyone else, with the added skill of another language!

wicked - are you sure that's not just the ?

And LetUs - like I said to mouse - it's notyour fault when a health professional gets it wrong - you just have to pick up the pieces and carry on demanding help - like you've been doing.

Thanks wenches.

Glad you're feeling better WW.

for Mouse. It can be so hard being a parent.

I never get pissed Fancy, I'm a lady

Yes, I think you're right Helen, I guess I can have another then

Thanks Apes