larks the mogglers havent all got loads of pics up

[FluffyMummy123]

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It takes all sorts (I am trying to avoid mentioning horses)

And I completely accept housemum's "it's only a bit of fun" theory, and that it's worked well for them.

But I would never do this with my daughters. I think little children understand far more than they can express, and however tactfully and obliquely expressed by a casting person, and however cheerfully handled by me, I bet dd1 at least would pick up the gist of what was going on.

The thought of her understanding that she was being rejected because of her looks absolutely chills me.

Perhaps I'm extra sensitive because in fact dd1 has eczema and often the skin around her mouth is inflamed and ay those times a moggeling-casting-type person wouldn't even look at her. But she's a beautiful little girl with loads of self-confidence and I will personally thump the first person who causes her to worry about what she looks like.

I'm in happy la-la land now as DD is enjoying my childhood books being read to her! We've just had a couple of chapters of "My Naughty Little Sister", and the next ones lined up after that are "Little Pete Stories" and Mrs Pepperpot. Finished the first "Green Smoke" dragon story last night and she loved it so much have ordered the sequels from Amazon (thank goodness for secondhand booksellers as they are out of print).

She asked for a flower to go under her pillow so the dragon could do magic and take her to see the stars tonight - aaahhh!

lets talk about all the good things, and the bad things....

are you aiming the horse thing at me i genuinly didnt get it

chill

I do think DD knows it's a case of being chosen or not, but as there is no pressure from me I think she is happy to accept what I've told her, ie that they see lots of children but they can't take them all, and maybe they just wanted someone who looked different from her. Certainly when she was younger, she didn't think of possibility of a future "job", having the casting shot done was it as far as she was concerned.

bless her housemum thats so cute, my DD has just gone to bed recyting with and can't for spelling test tomor she keeps doing wit'h and cant bit like me really i aint that good at spelling

cindyl - the "horses for courses" expression means the same as "it takes all sorts".

I was saying "horses for courses" to myself until I read your post and realised that not everyone knows that expression and it was just confusing things.

I can kind of get the no pressure from you as a parent but it's not who who are deciding whether they are good enough or look good enough for that shoot.

its not all about the looking part either they have to be confident, outgoing, able to work with people they aint met b4, its not all about looks

So how do they deal with the rejection?

I think you would get a little less slack if you didn't use textspeak. It's hard to read and not the done thing on mumsnet.

Gawd, sorry, what's happening to me? I mean get more slack not less.

you just expain like one of the other mums said its a bit of fun its not like its there career these are young children my DD does swimming, ballet, drama and singing its all just part of her week she loves when i say oh we are off to london today for that man to take photos of me she says then she gets my camera out and makes me do practise shots she loves it

My son only took one rejection badly. Only because he was confirmed for the shoot and they decided to use an older child. Found out later that he was more upset about not being able to meet Dad in London for a meal than losing the shoot.

Other than that...all has been well! I tell him if he gets a shoot and don't mention it if he doesn't.

exactly toomanypimms thats exactly right

just to let u no 2manypimms i gave you directions on other thread

cindyl you are very coarse

for you

ROTFLMAO!!!!!!

thanks county x

I find it bizarre that everyone gets wound up about the potential of rejection when it really doesn't affect my children in any of the ways presumed. I have four children two of which are identical twins, sometimes one gets booked for a job and the other doesn't, I can hand on heart say it has caused no prblems whatsoever. My children know they are loved and are secure in who they are and don't look on the modelling world in the same way that adults do. Whilst we all talk about the childrens looks my children simply see that they didn't get the job because someone else did and it ends there. If it affected my children adversely in anyway of course I would cease to do it, what parent wouldn't, okay maybe thats a stupid point but our experiences so far have been very positive. When threads like these occur I rarely get involved because i honestly don't feel the need to justify myselves but i often wish that the people who view it so negatively would meet my kids see what great little people they are, because they are just kids, thats it, who happen to have a slave driver of a mother who xploits them

Hear, hear

Countess
Have just seen all this, never ceases to amaze me how bad these threads end up! My dd models, and I can assure you that she is a normal almost 2 year old in every way.....(well apart from a sock obsession) she plays rough, gets covered in the normal scrapes and bruises, and has never even seen a weight watchers meal, for everyone who thinks that the kids are dragged around to castings every week, its really not the case for most, sometimes she goes months and months without so much as a casting, and her last job was in October, I have no idea why I am trying to justify myself, as I really could not care less what anyone else thinks.