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Does anyone else think Mumsnet is a bit clichey?

348 replies

Sunlounger · 24/05/2004 18:49

New to Mumsnet...been on it a few times, hardly anyone ever answers posts - and it seems like the same people 'chat' to each other, and it's really hard to get involved....

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CODSitallabout · 27/05/2004 22:21

.... I feel rather threatened and a bit of an outsider ...

Sorry if I offend ... but looking at all the topics / threads this evening ... who the hell is this "coddy" person ... ? And you say that you aren't cliquey ?
How many nicknames does this person have ....

I am sure that it's very cool .... but for someone who flits in and out of MN I find it rahter disconcerting ....

GOD Knows what a newcomer will think ?!?

CODalmighty · 27/05/2004 22:22

O honmestly

CODSitallabout · 27/05/2004 22:24

Think I have just proven my point .... The Almighty has spoken

CODalmighty · 27/05/2004 22:26

Oh boolox y to you

ALoadOfCrispyCODBalls · 27/05/2004 22:29

Do I spy a troll in the fish tank?

ALoadOfCrispyCODBalls · 27/05/2004 22:30

There's a huge difference between changing your name to something completely different in order to disguise your identity and leaving your usual name in to give it away.

ANgrycodfish · 27/05/2004 22:32

as ai said boolocks and I ma off to bed

Beccarollover · 27/05/2004 22:38

Oh for CODS sake

Hey who is the FISHist in the midst? MN wouldn't be the same witout our coddy in whichever connotation she has decided on that day !! Its not like she posts in disguise there is always a fishy theme

CODSitallabout · 27/05/2004 22:40

Why does someone who bucks the trend every so often have to be a troll ? great excuse for "the clique" to trash some-one's point of view.

I think that because I HAVE to change my name to make my point - PROVES - that there is an element of .... If you can't stand the heat - get out of the kitchen.

I mentioned in my post "not trying to offend" .... and then I get a load of dogs abuse ...

I am just agreeing with Sunlounger that every so often I feel that I am not part of the "IN-JOKE" or "IN-CROWD" .... the fact that I have not received a sympatheic ear just now ( and being accused of being a troll ) seems to re-iterate my point.

TheOldDragon · 27/05/2004 22:40

It's a load of old codballs

SoupDragon · 27/05/2004 22:42

You made a personal attack on one poster. That's rather rude don't you think? Did you not imagine that people might defend her?

Beccarollover · 27/05/2004 22:42

This thread is light hearted in the main, not sure why your offended with posts such as "codsballs" and such like its not like people are actually being mean - the only way a clique will truly not exist is when everyone is new - its only natural that relationships develop and "IN jokes" are made.

SoupDragon · 27/05/2004 22:51

BTW. I was under the impression that a Troll was someone who changes their name to make inflammatory posts which is exactly what you did, CODSitallabout.

You didn't say "not trying to offend" at all, you said "sorry if I offend" which means that you knew you were going to offend someone. There's a difference.

Anyway, I'm off back to my bluestring soup and cod balls.

I still don't think MN is any cliquier than anywhere else where large numbers of people converse. As Becca says, life is all about in jokes and natural relationships forming. No one tries to deliberately exclude new posters although some seem keen to offend old ones who are apparently fair game

CODSitallabout · 27/05/2004 22:54

You've obviously got a strong army of supporters "theCODsperson"
I will bow down gracefully and admit defeat

SoupDragon · 27/05/2004 22:58

Someone might have supported you if they knew who you were...

CODSitallabout · 27/05/2004 23:01

BALLS. We are all too worried about offending the key players. That's why there are so many lurkers.

Beccarollover · 27/05/2004 23:02

Who are the key players then?

meanmum · 27/05/2004 23:03

I don't find mn cliquey at all. I write some posts and don't get any (or many) responses and once someone even told me off for not responding but I hadn't managed to get back to mn for a few days. Of course I feel a bit unloved when I don't get many responses but then I don't figure it's because I'm being excluded just that it didn't interest people or they didn't have any advice. I don't understand all the jokes either but then I figure that's just my brain not functioning. I didn't write on mn for about 6 months but everyone was very welcoming when I returned and I now try to not look too often as I should be doing other things which are supposedly more important like sleeping when I'm tired. I don't find it cliquey because I choose not to and just thought I would put in my 2 cents worth.

SoupDragon · 27/05/2004 23:03

I guess we'll never know. Personally I think it's a load of rubbish - it's about not deliberately offending anyone.

SoupDragon · 27/05/2004 23:08

Actually, why do people think MN is some perfect haven where everyone loves everyone else and will agree with all posters? Nowhere in Real Life is like that so why would MN be? The thing with MN is that it's easy to ignore things you don't like and join in with the things you do.

I don't read, say, the lone parents threads but I'm sure they wouldn't shoulder me out if I did.

baldrick · 27/05/2004 23:08

No I don't (short and sweet but the truth)

tigermoth · 27/05/2004 23:16

I wonder what would happen if there was no active conversations list? Chat is fine, any conversation is fine, but when people are simply chewing the cud or having a private joke, why should that conversation should stay top of the active list? I'm sure the people who are posting don't particularly want the spotlight on them anyway.

Fio2 · 28/05/2004 07:01

this last bit of crap on here reminds me of someone else who used to flame. If you are going to post to complain about mn being cliquey either do so in your own name or use a totally different one, dont use someone elses nickname in the title. As for key players it is a discussion forum, not real life

MadameBeetroot · 28/05/2004 07:29

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