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Quootie's friends here please - new support thread

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beegeeWithBellsOn · 22/12/2006 22:27

Hello Quootie - thought we should start a new thread.

Will be thinking about you tonight. Hope you can get some rest. Could you try having a bath or something? Can really help me to un-wind.

OP posts:
Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 16:34

lulu - id take any meds, anything. But GPs final word on the matter is the couselling people are contacting me week after christmas, or week after new year. DH begged for something else to be done, on phone to GP, GP just said "like what? what support does she want?" DH said anything... thats when he suggested family/friends until 27th

MerrilyTooBuzzi · 23/12/2006 16:35

i am sorry but i cant stay on here tonight so i hope others wil keep u company...{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 16:36

no way - this is all so shaming. Mum is high up in NHS and wouldnt want me bringing shame. RL friends arent "close" enough for this...

idontlikecrusts · 23/12/2006 16:37

In a nutshell what would help yopu most - apart from having some support from DH?

Not expecting you to b able to answer this and think it is out of order for the GP to expect you too but since that is what it has come down to what do you feel you need honestly?

x

lulumama · 23/12/2006 16:37

your GP is an idiot

if he cannot take this seriously, you need a new gp

if you don;t start meds until after new year, then that is another 2 weeks., whereas if yo start them now, they will have had an effect by then

does he not realise you tried to OD?

have you an old prescription anywhere?

MerryMellowmas · 23/12/2006 16:37

I can call my doctor and get ADs whenever, because I have had them already. Please just try agin, eevn tell them which ones you were taking last time.

Sorry I am not around much atm, still lurking though when not posting. Agree 1000% with Lulumama xx

lulumama · 23/12/2006 16:37

your mum works in the nhs,..she could help you sort this out

idontlikecrusts · 23/12/2006 16:38

Wah! My OH's mother is very, very senior in the NHS too - very unhelpful in our experience!

ISawTortoiseKissingSantaClaus · 23/12/2006 16:38

Hi Q.
Just read through and caught up!
Sorry you are having no luck getting help.I hope you do soon.

I'm at your DH going out! I can imagine how that must feel,just when you really need him to be there for you.

Glad you are felling a bit better though.
((( hugs )))

idontlikecrusts · 23/12/2006 16:38

sorry lulu - x posts

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 16:40

GP was out of hours one.

Ideal world id love emergency dynamic therapy... get this started. Or meds until then, but they dont do an awful lot.

GP knows I ODd

no old prescription

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 16:41

my mum is very just get on with things. ive tried the mum support thing... but she thinks you can go get your meds and get on with it

idontlikecrusts · 23/12/2006 16:45

Quootie I've got to go to police station to pick up keys from the other night and pop into supermarket for some bread and pet food! Will be around later though I think it sounds as though you will cope but I really do wish your DH was a bit more 'there' for you.

I will be around a lot over xmas mostly avoiding OH so I'll look out for you.
xxx

lulumama · 23/12/2006 16:48

quootie...what a shame...does she not know then about the other day ?

lulumama · 23/12/2006 16:48

hope things work out for you and your OH, iDLC x

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 16:50

thankyou IDLC xXx

No, she doesnt know lulu. I would never want her to.

MerrilyTooBuzzi · 23/12/2006 16:54

Q have you eaten today? You said you felt shakey?

lulumama · 23/12/2006 16:55

gosh quootie..cannot imagine not telling my mum something like that

good point, merrily, re the eating.....also, if not sleeping well, you are also going to feel rough

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 16:58

yes, been eating thankyou xXx

MerrilyTooBuzzi · 23/12/2006 17:02

good glad you have eaten...can you go for a little walk..I know its dark, but its not late yet ? Is it safe enough for you to do that at this time of day as im not sure where you live.
Just up and down the road...have u been in all day?

lulumama · 23/12/2006 17:03

quootie..forgive me if i sound a bit harsh..but why are not absolutely f**ng furious with DH? he has not gone to work, he has gone to his mums and has gone out now for the evening...leaving you alone with DS.....why are you just being so accepting..or are you raging on the inside

he'll call the docs for you, but won;t actually be with you , i just don;t get it

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 17:16

Merrily - im scared of the dark

Lulu - i cant get angry, because then ill get upset then ill get more shakey, then ill get all the flashbacks etc. Theres a part of me that is thinking DH will come home any minute aswell, as always... although he never has met my expectations in that way.

I was going to get him to call when I thought he was coming back....

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 17:18

ok, scrap that, he really did go - he rung me from the pub. I hung up.

lulumama · 23/12/2006 17:20

that is a scary and depressing way to live quootie....not being able to express a basic human emotion......he has you just where he wants you and you are not where you want to be.....

it is not healthy to live like this, but you know that! swallowing down anger and rage and disappointment will make you physically and mentally ill...without a doubt..you cannot let these negative emotions fester within you with no outlet...

why not lock DH out..let him live with his mum and you get on with your life and DS, you are obviously more than capable of getting on without him and he has no idea or cannot be bothered to help yu

MerrilyTooBuzzi · 23/12/2006 17:23

Think of something else to do then.. i totally understand of lnot liking dark. Not sure of all your Previous history, no need to explain. I have been know to just take kids (when they were babies) in car and drive for 30 minutes so i could be out of house, any time of day!

Forget fecking DH,,as u say it will wind you up the more u think about it..he doesnt sound very supportive and thats clear to anyone here, poor you...