how old where you when u first had sex?????

[nikcola]

i was 15 in the back of a car and you?????

Motherinferior - very good question! Just not one I can imagine anyone posting at work, but anyway ......

Dh and I were pretty desperate by the time it got to the wedding and it did get more difficult (was going to say harder but it didn't seem appropriate lol blush) the nearer we got, but we knew we would regret it if we gave up with only weeks to go!!

How can I say this without sounding like I'm in some dodgy mag? For us, before we got married there really wasn't any activity 'down below' - because to us it was pretty much one and the same thing. Thats not to say we didn't get that close a couple of times and then somehow one of us would back off - and that was VERY difficult, (it wasn't always me backing down!).

But it is certainly true that the sparks were ready to fly when the wedding night came around.!! In fact, we had planned to stay at the reception until the end, about midnight or so, but in the end dh just whispered to me 'we've got to get out of here', and we left about 10! We went back to our flat (where I had been living for a few weeks but where he had never stayed) and the rest is history.

Thank you for - oh god now this sounds dodgy too - satisfying my curiosity. Susanmt, I work from home!

This is a great thread. It shows how luck so many of us are to make our own choices about the sexual experiences we have had. (Sorry to hear not for Dinosaur.)
100 years ago, none of us would have had such freedom. I'm so glad that whatever route (very inappropriate phrase) so many are happy with what they've done: from good Catholic girls like me with many a fun experience before my cream wedding to those with each end of the experience spectrum.
Hooray for being a woman at the end of the 20th C and beginning of the 21st!!

I'd just like to say that even though dh and I didn't wait till we were married, sex on our wedding night was teriffic. Much more magical than usual, even though usual is very good IYSWIM!

So am i the only one prepared to admit that we didn't "do it" on our wedding night?? DH was wrecked and I was 34wks gone....

we didnt either!!!
we had a 1 year old ds and it was our first night ever away from him
much more interested in getting 8 hours unbroken sleep!!
lol

You're not alone ML. I remember reading somewhere that lots of people don't do it on their wedding night cause they're too drunk.

In my case it would have been a waste of a 4 poster bed!

I was 16 and did it with a boy on holiday! This was only because the girls I hung around with at school had all done it (or so they said). It was a huge disappointment and over with very quickly! Lucky to say things have got better since, had a few partners before I met dh who I have been with for 15 years. Have to say we didn't actually "do it" on our wedding night as he was a bit drunk to say the least and I had a really bad headache! Oh well things have only got better since and are getting better the longer we are together

Feel better now

I was certianly too drunk on our wedding nite, and 1 of my darling friends had filled the bed with confetti. So by the time we'd undone 43 buttons there wasnt much chance of anything else

We didn't do it on our wedding night either. I don't know how anyone ever manages to - it has to have been one of the longest, most stressful days of our lives, even though it was such fun.

But the honeymoon.....

Well we did it on our wedding night - but it was one of the most "lets get it over with" sexual encounters we've ever had. We were in a hotel at Manchester Airport with an early flight next morning. It was about 1.30 am, I'd hardly slept the night before, then been on my feet all day in boiling hot weather, dozed off on the taxi journey and just removed 50+ hair clips from my stiffly laquered hair so I really was not in the mood. Still we had two weeks of stepping of the gorgeous Carribean beach straight into our lovely bedroom to make up for it.

oh the honey moon.....we had a 1 year old ds with us!!!
not much going on then eiether!!

I was 16 and lost mine to a 28 yr old who I'd known about a week. I was staying with him in his Uni Halls, in a tiny single bed. He had a reputation for sleeping around, so I knew it was only a short term thing, and it wasn't great. I still have fond memories of him though....I must find out what he's doing now...

A seemingly ancient 19 and with an Irish boy who broke my heart!

wow, here I am , all these years thinking that I was the whore of babylon in my younger days and now I feel quite tame compared to you guys who own up to 25+ I'm still in single numbers (just!)
Which over the three years between losing virginity and meeting dh averages out at only 3 a year...god I'm practically intact still!!!
We did it in our wedding night but in a sort of "its our wedding night,we should do it way".But we had been living together for 2 years then.
HOWEVER, even now after 12 years together, he is still the best I've ever had!!!!

Dh worked on the morning of our wedding - kids were 5 and 1.5, came home put them to bed after reception, had "wedding sex" and then got up in the morning and went to work as usual... will add I couldn't face washing my hair in the morning and went to work with "big hair".

...errr due to the excessive amount of backcombing and hairspray not a "something about mary" incident!!

lol sexgoddess !!!

DH and I didn't do it on our wedding night either !!! DH got plastered and I was knackered, it was a shame to waste the impact of such sexy undies though.....

My magic number is 20+, all a minimum of 3 years older than me.

WE got married in the afternoon on our own and were back in our room an hour or so later getting ready to go for our meal - so not so much night time However did have very early night on wedding night - but to sleep soundly. Had to be up at 5am for safari!

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I'm not sure what Dino's situation is/was. But though it wasn't penetrative sex in the conventional sense (not using penis), I was 'interfered' (sp) with as a child. I never considered any of the behaviour from that part of my life as a part of my sex-life, IYSWIM. So it is likely that my virginity was lost ie my hymen was broken via abuse) when I was very young, but I still consider myself to have lost my virginity at 14. Sorry if that's a bit rambly...

I was 19, he was called Dave (at the time I didn't know his last name...), and it was in his room, in our halls of residence, on a blazing hot Sunday afternoon in July. I was very, very drunk on a noxious wine called Tiger Milk. It hurt, it was over very quickly, and when we had finished my first words were "is that it then?"

I don't really regret it, though it would have been nice if it had been with somone special. I was, at the time, madly in love with someone else, but he was seeing someone else too, so it was a bit complicated. Part of sleeping with Dave was that I knew it would get back to the other bloke, and I hoped it would hurt him. Yeah, OK, I was a very stupid 19 year old

A week later I slept with the "first true love" bloke so I guess it did sort of have the desired effect!

And dh and I didn't have sex on our wedding night either. Ds1 was 6 months old and he woke up just as things were getting interesting and slept between us in our bed for the rest of the night....

was in Maldives this winter - one of those huts on stilts affairs - and the couple next door must have been happy honeymooners! The noises and the way they would be paddling about in the gorgeous ocean, then suddenly run back upm their ladder and a few mins later, those of us still in the sea would hear some wild yelps and gasps! Then come back out looking tousled and glowing! Happy honeymoons!