how old where you when u first had sex?????

[nikcola]

i was 15 in the back of a car and you?????

how could you resist

Blokes amaze me! I remember when I was in my teens and me and friends would go out with blokes in their late twenties, early thirties. Thinking back now I think that is quite perverted.

If my DH (god forbid!) or any of my mates (they are all 29 / 30) went out / shagged a 16 year old I would think less of them.

Is that wrong?

That was aimed at CD's posting rather than regularusers!!

Two reasons. Guilt re dh if I had, and the fact that the relationship between my friend and I would have been irrevocably changed.

I know what you mean Mum2Ela. I dated a 25 year old when I was 16, and some of my friends dated older men too. My Dad hated him, and it caused loads of rows. I'm 28 and if any of my my mates shagged a 15/16 year old I'd think it was peverse too.

My Dad thought he was taking advantage of me, truth was I was enjoying it!

Ah but Mum2Ela he was more juvenile than me, no 26 year old would have touched him with a barge pole. My dad threw a bit of a wobbler until he met him and realised how sweet he was, and I was the one who persuaded him into it IYKWIM!

14 - it was awful, I adored him and I don't think he felt the same way! definitely regretted it later in life and wish I'd waited so it was with someone special.

Yeah CD, but when I was 13 I had a boyf who was 19!! He was really sweet, we didn't have sex (just everything else) and he is prob still a nice guy now.

But how perverted? Even if I came on to him. Not sure its right.

There is a BIG difference between 13 and 16 IMO! My dad had a g/f who was 23 when he was 50, is he a perv too? And my mum's husband is 20 years older than her.

I think if they pursue you and make you have sex/other things that is a different matter. He was really sweet and I had to hassle him into it, so no I don't think that's perverted at all. We had been hanging out for about 5 months before so knew each other pretty well by then and my family thought he was great.

No, CD, am sure your dad is not a perv. And I know its a grey area, but a 16 year old going out with a 26 year old seems odd. I know its not, and it happens every day, and I did it etc, but in my head, its just not quite right.

I was 17 and was with him for about 6 months after. Most of my friends lost theirs at 14, or so they said.

Weird as it sounds I find the idea of a 13 y old and a 19 y old creepier than 26 y old and 16 y old. Thinking back the 18/19 year old guys who were chasing 13 year olds were always the ones who had dodgy reputations in their own peer group.

Marialuisa - I agree totally. I just don't find either too pleasant. I think its because I was 'involved' with older blokes that, now looking back, it doesn't seem 'right'.

Maybe you were just involved with the wrong ones! I had a 46 year old bf when I was 22 as well. He was great (if a little wrinkly!)

Dh is 3 months older than me though.

CD - they all seemed really nice and never did anything untoward or so that I would think they were pervy. Its just that, thinking back and also thinking about my little sister, who is 9, in a few years time I am not sure I would be happy with her going out with blokes in their older teens.

Perhaps age does something to my memory, or perhaps I am not so naive now (even though I didn't think I was then).

DH is 10 years older than me and I "lost it" to someone 6 years older! Funniest thing about my first time was going into his sitting-room the next morning and seeing a pic of my headmistress (his mum!). i thought I was safe (had come down to london,) but oh no!

so sorry dino hugs xxxxxxx

Northener, You missed out there!! It's sooo true. I was 18, with said guy, he introduced me to the joys of sex, I will never forget him. He used to make my knees knock together with just one look

wow,this has really picked up from when i was on here last...
I dont regret losing it at 12,he was 2 years older and was the 1st time for both of us,it was planned and due to period troubles i was already on the pill,we had practised just putting on the condom,so we kinda knew what we were doing... BUT i would be really annoyed if my dd lost hers at 12..That sounds 2 faced but i do believe for a 12 year old it is too young but with me it did feel right..

17 - him 27 - Stockholm - crap. That's mine!

And if my daughters' think they're even going to leave the house by then .....

Susanmt, I actually feel quite jealous of you after reading your story. How romantic and lovely to have such a special relationship.

OK, I've got to ask. Just got to. All of you who waited till your weddings, and then had fantastic sex...presumably you were, how shall I put this, fairly intimate in a non-penetrative manner already if the sparks were all there ready to fly when you actually - oh god I am about to use the most appalling expression - took the plunge? I'm not making ANY sort of value judgement, believe me, I'm just nosy. Too nosy, OK, all right, I'll bog off out of this thread and get back to work.

For me and dh as Christians we wanted to wait before we were married for loads of reasons. The Bible gives one reason for marriage as being if your are "burning with passion" and that was certainly true for us - we were horny as anything, but we were determined to wait until we'd made our public promises to each other. But it was SO difficult!! We had moments when we got close to just going for it, but always backed off - I believe cos God gave us the strength to be self-controlled - although we didn't really feel very self-controlled at the time. We snogged a lot. Hands wandered a little too frequently and we would be a little disappointed afterwards - it was like unwrapping a Christmas present too early...
But we managed to wait until our wedding night and it was great. We were so comfortable with each other, didn't have to perform or impress, just make each other happy, because we were so sure of how the other felt. We'd spent a long engagement talking about how much we were looking forward to being with each other, so we'd discussed what we imagined it would be like. We were also positive that we were made for each other and so finally having sex was like sealing everything that we'd promised earlier that day. It was the most perfect day of my life

Didn't wait for the one. Was 16 in back garden of friends house, didn't really realise him going in as too taken up with big "o"!! from foreplay. Took a while and few partners to have one of those again!

Might be in the slapper category, at 10, but they were all fun (although not necessarily fulfilling!!) and I would do it all again if I lived my life again.