F**kin' Mother .. She just did it again .. And I hung up on her ... GULP

[twiglett]

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Isn't this just the story of mothers and daughters? We are 'honest' with each other this way because we can be. We would never say to friends "you always do that" etc. I can see the winding-each-other-up behaviour starting already between my and my little girl and she's not 7 yet.

twig but my niece is madelaeins grace!!

Twiglett - Please don't change it, it's a lovely name. It's very unfair of her to expect you to change the name just because she doesn't like it.
I discarded several names for my kids because of reactions i got from people. I wish i hadn't.

By the way twig have you tried this
"Look Mum, you had your chance to name x amount of kids and you chose Twiglet, I am pregnant not you and I will call my baby what I like"

My BIL once defended my dh from my mUms attack and she shut up when he told her beak out.

'Maddy' is a gorgeous name, my friends little girl is called maddy, and she is so cute!!!!
My mum's a bit of a cow too, afraid we dont talk at the moment, sometimes that's just easier....

Well done Twiglett - sometimes they jsut need to be reminded to traet you as a fellow adult with opinions and views that need to eb respected, rather than as their child.
And really - if she chose Twiglet as a name for her daughter how can you trust her judgement? (I think it's a wonderful name btw)

Have you met her brother, Ritz?

I LOVE the name Maddy and it is the top of my NameList.....just need to persuade DH if we ever have a girl. Although Mums can be great they can be horrible too! I cant explain mine but she drives me up the wall and was SO opinionated about what we called ds. As was my Dad. My thoughts are that they had the opportunities to call their children whatever they wanted and we should be allowed to as well.

If you dont use Maddy I think you will really regret it and as you and dh have agreed on it go for it!!

It is the biggest insult in our house if my dh says I am like my Mum too.

When my sister was born 18 years ago, my Gran walked into the hospital and said to my Mum, 'Amy? What sort of name is Amy? Id only just got used to that other name you had chosen! (which was Abigail!!) You would think my Mum would learn!!!

Just a thought but Maddy is also short for Madison........not that I think you should change it!!

twig the name is beutiful and a bit unusual which makes it all the more special like your baby and you mother should realise that mine like the name i chose but didnt like it when i said i would not have people shorten it to jj i hate it when people do that take the letter from the first and secound then put it together

2 things!

1. We never told anyone what we'd decided to call our babies - that way, if they don't like it, it's too late when they find out! (btw, Madeleine is beautiful!) 2.I once heard a tale (probably an urban myth)of a woman who introduced her new born son to her Grandmother who said: What is it with all these modern names? The baby's name was.......Adam

Hang in there Twiglett - your Mum sounds like mine except I don't stand up to her like you do - well done!

Oh, goody, mummytojames's post (about jj) has just reminded me of some of the names I saw in a local paper's beautiful baby contest this week:

Teala Rose
Libby Mae
Dennon Robert
Rylan
Demi Marie
Bethoney E
Keaton T
A-Jay
Kian
Demi-Louize
Macie Ann
Kelsey Cecilia
Xesca
Trinity

twig, why not tell your mum you've decided to call her Xesca instead? She might decide Madeleine is quite nice really!

I like the Madeline too Twiglett. You shouldn't change it unless you and your DH wants to.

FWIW - whenever I have a difference of opinion with my Mum she uses the exact same phrases such as "if I can't tell you .. who can " and "Well you are being stupid, why do you turn everything into an argument, everyone says so, I can never have a decent conversation with you" as your Mum!! I must admit at that point I automatically switch off until she eventually runs out of steam - but it still annoys the hell out of me.

I liked your suggestion Issysmum.

I think Madeleine is a lovely name. Stick to your guns Twiglett.

We're not telling anybody the name that we've picked out until our baby is born. I decided this after all the comments I got last time I was pregnant and people kept making comments.
Funnily enough nobody has actually asked us what names we're thinking about yet, given that Dd's name is slightly unusual I guess they are all expecting another unusual name, which is what the baby is going to get. Unusual but Nice though.

Dd wants to call the baby Star if it's a girl and Moon if it's a boy, told her we'd think about it

I love the name Madeline - I was so looking forward to having my second child and calling her Madeline. I was absolutely gutted to find out I was having a boy!!!

It sounds to me like mummytotwiglett doesn't want to lose control. Ask your mum who chose your name and try turning the tables a little.

I read your post twiglett thinking OMG it's me and my mum!! word for word and i'm 38. If you are like me you will feel really guilty until you call her back, be extra nice to her while she is cool or continues the conversation justifying hwy she had a right to voice her opinion about the name then tell all family and friends that you 'knew you were in teh wrong because you called but couldn't bring yourself to apologise'!!!! aggghhhhhh for you.
For what it's worth we have chosen Madeleine for a name if this baby is a girl but I havn't told my mum yet a) because she hasn't asked and b) she made such a fuss about DS's name last time.
When DH wants to really get to me he says 'you are so like your mother' - pass the shotgun.
Stick with your choice of name she'll get over it, unfortunately I don't think either of our mothers will change though, maybe we could set up a mumsnetters how mad has your mother made you today club.

I'm also a genuine fan of the name Madeleine. As everybody says your mum was bang out of order. My mum once told me that she wasn't keen on my daughter's name (which irritated me)...but she mentioned this just the once and in a low key way. She at least didn't go on and on about how much she 'hated' it!

Reminds me of a friend of mine. When their second daughter was born, friends husband called his MIL (the witch from hell) and announced the birth. "We're can't decided betweed Xanthe and Alice" he said. "Oooh, I HATE Xanthe" said MIL from hell. "Right, Xanthe Jane it is then" said the husband.

It's your child, your choice.

Well, Maddy is on my list if it is a girl. How rude - I'd never comment on a name even if I hated it.

Mothers.......huh? I have a pretty rocky relationship with mine, so know where you are coming from.

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My mum hated both of my daughters names and thought i was mad even thinking about calling my children such ridiculus things. But she never mentioned it after they were born and didnt spit out their names when she spoke to them, which i thought she would, now 6 and 3 years later they just are who they are and thats that!
I didnt rise to the bait, She wanted me to call the girls Storm and Thunder.ahem, no.

This seems very typical of the type of things Mum and I have tiffs on. I told her I had booked our holiday, and she said that I should send her the brochure so she could think about it. I reminded her that I was an adult and did not need her consent, and she said she'd get it from her own travel agent! She then said that since we were not spending half term with them, she expected to see ds for "at least two months" over the summer; they live over 200 miles from me! I said I didn't think that that would be OK and it would be too much of an obligation and perhaps a couple of weeks, and she said she needed to know so she could book him in for holiday activities near their home. Afterwards, ds and I talked about it, and both felt there is no way he could stay away for so long, so I ended up leaving an answering message saying that we needed to talk about it. Ds is very good at times like this, because he just laughs when I tell him what Mum has said.

Yes....but we'll turn out to be better mums to our kids won't we? WON'T WE???!!

Lol at this! Just think Maddy will be saying this about you one day. I bought my sister a fridge magnet that says "Mirror mirror on the wall, I am my mother after all".