F**kin' Mother .. She just did it again .. And I hung up on her ... GULP

[twiglett]

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Twiglett, my mother has been known, get this, to suggest alternative names as 'a gift' AFTER the baby has been born. And named.

She is Indian, and three of her grandchildren have Indian middle names (hence the offer of the 'gift' to the one child - not mine - who hasn't got an Indian name). And she quite obviously refers to the other three by both names when she's talking to Indian family because I get emails asking how Firstname Secondname is doing.

Oh Twiglett, poor you, your Mum sounds absolutely preposterous.
The name is lovely, both names, and you mustn't consider changing it, unless you and DH genuinely find something you prefer. Anyway, it is almost certain that your mother would object to ANY name unless you tell her she can choose, or you are going to name the baby after her!
Very, very rude of her, if she sees fit to tell you bluntly what she thinks, she can only expect the bluntest of responses.

Good luck!

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I know just how you feel! Both my mum and MIL had very strong views on dd's name, to the point that I asked them to back off- as it was, after all, mine and dh's choice..not theirs! My middle name is Madeleine and my mum wanted dd to be called that. I chose it as a middle name for her and stuck to what dh and I had chosen for her first name. I think it is a lovely name and there are those wonderful childrens books about Madeleine you can read to her when she's older.

Twiglett, I KNEW it - we're related: twin sisters separated at birth. MY mum is called Brenda. Thankfully, she hates it too, and would never have expected us to use it as a name (especially as DS is a boy).

Twiglett I lurve the name madeleine grace - it is exactly what DP and I were talking about last night and he is not as shot on Madeleine as I am (wants Francesca, Claudia, Gabriella, Sophia, Maria, Olivia or anything else vaguely Italian ending in an A!! ) but Grace is a lovely lovely name too and don't do as she is pushing for and change your minds - she will just have to get used to it.

When I was pregnant with DD I told stepmonster what I was going to call her (nice old fashioned but cute uncommon name) and he said - oooohhhh it's not something I would name one of my kids - She did not even have time to breathe before I screamed - my goodness me you named your eldest son after a fucking gay trucker (she didn't but that's what his name conjours up in my mind!!) - Do you know if you are definatly having a girl?? Think you should have a boys name she hates just as much lined up to really piss her off!!

And you could always cutely nickname baby - baby rhino just to really piss her off!!

Stick with it please XXX

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Oh i love picking and arguing with dp over baby names. Or should i say i did. My dd1's name was decided and had been for about 7 mths (middle name too). Then at the very last minute i changed my mind completely (on the way in to thearte). I changed it to a name i knew dp wasn't keen on, but then told all of the staf in the theatre to try and persuade him, and they did. He didn't have a leg to stand on

WHAT - Maddy is a great name. I love it. My friend has just named her little girl exactly that, same spelloing and we all love it.

Tell your mum you were going to give new baby daughter your mums name as her middle name but ewveryone you know hates that name so you've decided agianst it!!!!!!!

Maddy rocks and so do you

Tc, my friend had a baby in October and called her Madeleine Grace too. Wonder if it's the same person. I love the name btw.

I refused to tell anyone what names we were thinking of - dh thought this was OTT but reading this makes me think I was right. MIL kept asking. Successive conversations went like this:

MIL: have you thought of any names yet?
Me: No. Weather's nice, isn't it?

MIL: you must have thought of some names now?
Me: Yes. Weather's nice, isn't it?

MIL: so what names are you considering then?
Me: quite a few. Weather's nice, isn't it?

MIL: I'm dying to know what names you've chosen!
Me: well, we wanted a good Biblical name. So we've chosen Maher-Shalal-Hash-Baz.

Either they don't like the name, or they do like it and then get really upset when you change your mind.

Sympathies Twiglett. Maybe you should pick a fight with her about something completely different, something you don't really care about - to take your mind off it

LOL ThomCat!

We didn't tell ANYONE before DS was born, either. Once the baby is born, the baby is all that matters and everyone is entranced with little Rhino-Brenda-Xesescra-Balal-Bash-Hash!

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Unfortunately everyone started calling our unborn child Hash-Baz and it stuck for a while after she was born... Am concerned for Rhino-Brenda's self-image . How old do babies have to be before they can get a complex?

"I've just decided to ignore her entire existence for a while"

sounds like a good plan to me

Look on the bright side, you've chosen a very beautiful name. DP and I cannot agree on one at all so any boys names would be gratefully received!

And I have no doubt that my Mum will hate whatever we decide on!

if i have a boy libb,(if i get pregnant that is), he will be Elliot, i love Tristen too but MY MAM said,
"He'll grow up to be a right little puff with a name like Tristen, i wouldn't call him that!!!"

(See twiglett, it's not just your mam)

Angeliz - I wanted to call ds Elliot, but dp wouldn't because of Elliot out of E.T. I love E.T so it wouldn't of bothered me one bit.

btw, twiggy, thinking again about mtj's post about initials - she'll be MGB! Brilliant! (Once she gets moving she can be MGBGT!)

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twiglett, are you SURE we weren't separated at birth?!!!! MY mother's birthday is on thursday too!!

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Ah ... very good point

My Mum says that our DD1 has a cat's name, and DD2's name is "just silly and has too many Ls" (2). She wanted them to have one of the family names: Minna (OK), Elsa, Frieda, Aydel (no way!).

And funnily enough, I found my great grandfather's family tree on the internet and DD2's name is in it!

Go with what you want. Maddy is lovely.

When I was pregnant, we called the bump "Fluffy" - then we had Fluffetta and Fluffina when we found out they were girls!