Things that make you go urgghh when visiting other peoples house...

[EvesMama]

my first must be..
there only being thier bath towels in bathroom, so when youve washed your hands after using the loo..you could be wiping them on front bum/back bum/willy parts!!!...bleeergh!

I read a poem once written by a young woman who was dying of cancer. One of the lines in it was that she regretted the times when she had not invited friends round because she was embarassed by the stains on the carpet. How true this is. We miss out on so many things and isolate ourselves and our children when we worry that people will judge us for our lived in homes which are in most cases simply a by-product of the busy lives we lead. To be honest I take it as a compliment that other people are happy for me to enter their less than perfect looking homes.

Can't say that when visting / friends or family anything makes me go urghhh.

BC ( before children ) when I was in the grown up world and working I used to come across some absolutely filthy houses and would make excuses not only not to have a cup of tea but not to sit down.

Now a dead body is not a pleasant and have e thing to find in a house and have come across a couple of those in my time... now that would make you go urghhhhh !

tigermoth, I used to do that, but I've got a bad back and it used to cripple me. So, now I've got a really little ironing board that sits on a fold out table at just the right height for me to sit on the sofa and watch TV (usually CSI) whilst I do it.

Can I just pledge my allegiance to the non neurotic brigade? I should say though that I never invite people to my flat, exactly because of the sort of judgements people have made on here. My home always looks dishevelled, with piles of stuff everywhere. We've got too many people in it for the size. However this also means I don't like accepting invites to other peoples houses, because if they have a tidy, organised home I'd never be able to invite them back All this thread has done is reinforce to me, that this is exactly what I should continue to do!

Oh! Suzy2??? are you __ ? really???

My sis is a housing officer, she once came across a sealed jam jar which upon further enquiry turned out to be a jar full of the collected spunk of the old boy who had lived there, he was raving mad and thought the hospital were going to steal it. She could go on for hours about things that make you go uurrgghh in peoples houses but think the item above takes top spot.

Yes Chubbleigh, I think you may have won this competition.

yes, that would definitely make me go urgggh. There is mess and there is mess.

tigermoth I also wonder about your age theory (though you are years older than me )

do think it's sad that so many years of feminism has brought us full circle to a place where women judge one another on their housework as if it was the 1950s

I have to 'display' my books - there's no other place for them to go but in the living room - on shelves from Argos.

I don't judge, though, unless it is something that if I was at work I would refer someone to SS for- hence my original post, dogs licking the bowls as a substitute for washing them (when there's a child being weaned in the house, SS gets a call....)

Generally I don't mind a mess. After all, I am one half the time!!

When heavily PG with ds2 and ds1 only a year, a 'friend' loudly told her child not to play in the corner as she saw some dust there. A) she was never invited back; 2) it later transpired her life was a complete F up. maybe had she spent some time on her life she'd have less time to be the dust police (And I ahd spent all morning vacuuming too)

Oooooh, dogs washing bowls! Good tip that one! Thanks!

I don't think this thread is particularly about "judging" people on their housewifery skills a la 1950s. After all, everybody still goes and visits their friends with minging habits, they don't boycott their houses because they're not up to their standards. Noticing and judging aren't at all the same thing. I go and visit my domestically challenged friends because their housewifery skills aren't the most important things about them for me. And obviously (and luckily), neither are mine for them!

This thread is starting to smack of Narnia too much for me . . . .

the award go's to yours chubbleigh!thats gross!

exactly caligula.,.im sure many people who've posted their bleurgh things dont have sterile houses, just a funny thread where we can all overcome our problems with skirting board fluuf

narnia?

Narnia?

why?

is there a lion?

I've never checked to see if there are urine stains under the loo seat - apart from the once-weekly clean - because it's only dh who lifts it. If he splashes, he can ruddy well wipe it off himself! Must ask him if he does... Our kitchen surfaces are crowded because we don't have enough storage space but the worktops are always clean. Bathroom windowsill equally crowded and doesn't get wiped regularly - I mean, moving all the bottles off and wiping. But the windowsill is high up so doesn't really bother me. If it was more visible, I suppose I'd make more of an effort!

"It is pristine and never will be."

Huh?

Can't be Narnia can it? Coz in my house, you'd never get to the back of the wardrobe to find out whats in there.

she means it isn't pristine and never will be