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Do you think you're fat?

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ThingsThatGoHumpInTheNight · 08/08/2013 22:22

I do. And I'm wrong. I know rationally I am not fat. I am 5'5 weigh 9st7ish, dress size 8-10, body fat 18-22%, you can see my ribs from behind and my abs in front....so why oh why do I constantly feel crap about myself?

I do eat more crap than I probably should do (chocolate 5 times a week Sad ) and I do carry weight up top (32FF boobs)...but I am not fat. So why do I feel like I am? Constantly worry that I am. People I don't know well (new work colleagues, random people at parties) make offhand comments 'healthy breakfast again eh?' this morning as I ate a croissant and fruit at my desk and it makes me feel awful.

Are other people like this? Why????

Sorry to anyone this offends...I feel for people with weight issues, I really do, but been thinking about this today (sparked by comment this morning) and wondering if I am the only one?

OP posts:
WandaDoff · 09/08/2013 01:00

I'm a little teapot, short & stout Wink

TheBookofRuth · 09/08/2013 01:08

Nope. I'm 5'8", size 14, no idea what I weight.

I think - rightly - that I'm gorgeous.

AHandfulOfDust · 09/08/2013 01:09

Right - have photos

I feel fat.

Because I am fat, around the middle.

deleted203 · 09/08/2013 01:15

Probably. Couldn't give a shit about it.

Spent my entire life up to about 44 weighing the same as I did at about 17 - despite 5 DCs. Was always a size 10 and dead skinny (I'm about 5ft 8") and always asserted that I thought what you weighed and what you looked like was completely trivial. And genuinely believed it. Friends grumbled, 'Yeah - that's easy for you to say because you're thin'.

Now I'm probably a size 16. Gave up smoking a couple of years ago and piled 3 stone on. Couldn't give a shit. Still genuinely think what you weigh is completely trivial. Could probably shift the weight if I cared enough. I don't.

AHandfulOfDust · 09/08/2013 01:25

Sworn as someone that's about to give up smoking, that's the last thing I need to hear.

LucyTheLittlestLioness · 09/08/2013 01:31

I am size 8-10 and I know logically I am not fat.

But I do sometimes feel fat. Usually when I feel a bit out of control of my emotions, and maybe also if I feel I have eaten too much, or just too much crap. I used to be anorexic though, so for me feeling fat merges in with feeling a need to hugely restrict food, to make myself feel a bit more in control. This is only very occasional and low level now though. I have mostly just adapted to living with the feeling of fat, which for me is a good thing.

WhiteandGreen · 09/08/2013 01:37

No. 5'5 and Nine and a half stone on a good day. Size 12.

Would happily loose a stone though!

LeGavrOrf · 09/08/2013 01:42

Realistically I know I am not fat. I am 6 foot and currently 9 stone 3. I am usually around the 10 stone mark but am on medication which had triggered weight loss. What is worrying is that I am quite pleased about this medically induced weight loss. I think I have turned into Wallis Simpson (she of 'one can never be too rich or thin') as I still don't think I am slim enough, and look in the mirror and think my stomach and thighs look fat, even though I am technically (BMI) underweight.

deleted203 · 09/08/2013 01:55

Grin Handful - want to know the best bit?

I started smoking again a year ago - and I haven't lost a fucking pound...

So now I am a fat smoker. I keep vaguely thinking of giving up again - and wondering if that means I will put another 3 stone on.

AHandfulOfDust · 09/08/2013 02:50

Arse

AHandfulOfDust · 09/08/2013 02:52

(On the bright side - you gave up smoking at 42 (ish) & have yet to struck down??)

Chocolatepup · 09/08/2013 07:01

I'm fat just now. I lost 3 stone 4 years ago , got down to size 10 and felt fantastic but now I've put it all back on again because I stopped caring. Had two major bereavements in a very short space of time and just felt shit about everything in general and now I find myself back in this position. I know I can do it because I've done it before and I'm back using MFP this week which is a big help. The thing I'm most pissed off about is not so much my appearance (though I'm not happy about that) but how I feel. I felt brilliant when I lost weight before, loads of energy and didn't get so tired. I felt much more confident too. Now I'm exhausted all the time and just turning into a lazy cow. But I know I'm the only one who can change it.

GeekInThePink · 09/08/2013 07:06

Yes I do think I'm fat and I'm size 8-10.
I will always think I'm fatter than I am.
I have size DD, possibly E boobs I think they are the problem...and my tendency to bloat!

ninjasquirrel · 09/08/2013 07:23

Nope, I don't think I'm fat and I'm 5'1" size 10 (bottom half) and 12 top half. Interesting to read a couple of responses upthread "Yes, I'm fat, 5'4" and size 10/12."
I dropped a dress size a few years back and didn't look good at all round face/arms/chest, was glad to put the weight back on.

Dontlookbehindyou · 09/08/2013 08:18

I'm 5'1 and my bmi just tipped over 44 I'm pretty sure I'm fat, I've always known I'm fat, when I'm naked I look like Buddha. I've tried every diet going and just get fatter. I've always been fat and always known about it from what people shout from cars etc

BinksToEnlightenment · 09/08/2013 08:32

Guys do definitely worry about their weight. It may not be as socially normal for them to grab their hips in a bar and announce look at this! But they do worry just as much.

EstelleGetty · 09/08/2013 09:39

I'm 5 foot 9, size 12-14, big boobs. I don't feel fat. To some, I might look it but that's their problem.

My mum was anorexic, my sister was anorexic, I was bulimic. I don't have DCs yet but when I do, I am going to do whatever I can to make sure this horrible pattern stops. I don't give a fuck what I weigh, I haven't been on a scale in years. I don't eat like a sparrow or binge, I eat good, healthy food, treats when I want them and I eat with joy.

TheCatIsUpTheDuff · 09/08/2013 09:47

Yes, but I'm 30 weeks pregnant, maternity size 12-14. I've put on a stone and a half since getting pregnant, which rationally I think is ok, but my face looks like a full moon and my arse is the size of a planet.

The times I've felt slim and attractive, I look back on photos now and I look like a lollipop on a stick, so I know my perception is skewed. Once the baby's here I'll go back to the shred and aim for the 9.5 stone size 10 I was when I got married. I didn't feel thin enough at the time but with hindsight looked ok. I'm about 5'5". I thought I was taller until the midwife measured me!

EverybodysGoneSurfing · 09/08/2013 09:51

I am fat, 17 st and have been overweight my whole life. I hate it, but I also love life, and food, and sharing wine with friends etc. I wouldn't say I had low self-esteem. I am not sure the two things are as linked as we assume.

I know you say, OP, that you wouldn't discuss this with someone with a weight problem but as a side note, there is nothing more hurtful than having to sit through conversations with thin people agonising about their weight. I find it very insensitive. No criticism of anyone here, I mean in real life!

specialsubject · 09/08/2013 09:56

Op, you aren't fat.

To be blunt, guilt about food or about weight is not mentally normal behaviour.

Please seek help. Feeling 'crap' about a healthy body is not normal, so please investigate.

PixieBumbles · 09/08/2013 09:57

I am fat. 5 foot 7, dress size around 16 (but varies from 14-18 depending on the garment, where it's from and what fabric it's made from!). Haven't weighed myself in a while but last time I did I was 13 stone 5. I obviously carry it well as people often seem generally surprised at my weight! I am naturally of a fairly hefty build and well proportioned, so that probably goes some way to disguising just how much I weigh. Bra size 32HH - 34H, again depending on brand and style.

I'm not actually too bothered about my current size and shape, but I am flabby. My own fault - my diet's not too bad but I don't exercise enough Blush.

I certainly don't want to get any bigger. My biggest fear in terms of weight is that I'm going to turn into my mother - 5 foot 5, dress size 28 with a myriad of health problems (which are nothing to do with her size as far as she's concerned Hmm). I need to nip any weight gain in the bud!

skylerwhite · 09/08/2013 09:59

EverybodysGoneSurfing I think that's a little unfair. If 'thin people' are unhappy with their body, or have issues around their body image, they have a right to discuss them if they wish.

Wishwehadgoneabroad · 09/08/2013 10:00

I'm 5'4 and was 9 stone. I felt fat. Never felt happy.

Had a baby and unfortunately now I am fat. I"m 10 stone 8, a good stone over where I should be to feel comfortable. I have wobbly arms, a wobbly stomach and my legs just don't look like they belong to my body!

I look at pictures now of me at 9 stone and realise how great I actually looked! But I still know how fat I felt inside, at the time.

It's definitely not a body issue, it's a mind issue. You are clearly not fat. You feel it though. The only way to work round that is to try and look at yourself through another's eyes? (if that makes sense!)

CharlotteBronteSaurus · 09/08/2013 10:07

yes, a little bit. Because I am, a little bit.
5'9", about 11st4
I have a normal BMI (about 24 i think), but given that I have a small frame, with no boobs, I should be about 10st, which would be a BMI of about 21.

I'm not that bothered though. I'm probably not fat enough for it to have a serious impact on my health. Still wear what I want, eat what I want, and run 2 or 3 times a week.

YippeeKiYayMakkaPakka · 09/08/2013 10:08

I'm not fat (9st 3lb at 5'4"), but I'm still carrying an extra few lbs of pregnancy weight around my middle. I'm a size 10 and fairly fit and toned apart from my pot belly and love handles.

I'd like to get under 9st. I exercise lots but what I really need to do is cut out snacks (chocolate and biscuits especially) but being up in the night with a 10mo makes me crave sugar.