if oyu give oyur kids no sugar or sweets ever

[LadyCodofCOdford]

what do you do when they get older?
i mean do you stop them till they are 18 secretly scoffing choc when they are in bed
do you give them vgradual exposure ot it like a drug meanign that the sweets become a sought after object of desire

or what

Bravo, F&Z! But could you please explain the quinoa reward system? I like quinoa and I'm curious...
I think it is absolutely right to give children the healthiest start you can. All too soon the wide world will intervene...remember feeling furious at green lollipop given to dd1 at playgroup!
Sure, my oldest 3 will all eat sweets/chocolate when offered, ds2 especially who seems to have an extremely sweet tooth, but dd1 is starting to find overly sweet/artificial things distasteful and they all eat a good balanced diet and really enjoy fruit. Ds1 gets really excited about things like cabbage and spinach and raw carrot, which makes my day!

Erm, I don't really have a quinoa reward system. I just thought it sounded funny.

I think I would be quite put out too if I came on here asking for ideas for a chocolate free easter hunt and got a load of criticism of my parenting decisions.

However that is the fun of Mumsnet for you :)

When you dont give your kids sugar or sweets they dont care. They get a different kind of taste and crave for other things.

KTeePee- just read the article you linked. Brilliant -loved the bit about the magical puff of icing sugar when Grandad opened the box of Turkish Delight. This is what childhood is all about!

Enid, didn't quite get what you meant - do you think I've got a fear of food, or the people who are binge-eating?

Tbh, if I have a fear of food, the rest of you had better watch out in case I ever get over it, as there is not going to be much left for the rest of you :o

oh God parp
i think that you lot who dont let your kids have sweets are wicked parnts

lol at enid how do you get them oto do anythign
remember htis really annoying friend (!) of mine sayng when she sawy my boiled sweet selection in my bag " oh when i tell ds2 to do somehting i dont ened to bribe him"
oh effoff i thought

LOL

yes I know that, I said that earlier.

Cod you can't start a thread and then parp it because we are still talking about it

ROFL

oh i knwo
grr it brings out the 14 year odl in me
have ou seen wedding crashers?

it seems quite common sense really - a weekly ore even twice weekly exposure to sweets and chocolate arn't going to make your children fat or rot their teeth.

what makes people fat - is eating too much - not sweets and chocolate for gods sake - its pizza and curry and vast quantities of shit food.

fat people also dont excersise as they should

children should excersise and thats a parents role to ensure they get enough excersise which is far more important IMO than obsessing over whether they were given a chocolate drop t a party

I'm with the "food is not comfort" school, quite strongly. I think a lot of weight issues are down to people mistaking food for love. Nothing wrong with a small amount of something nice to cheer you up, but that doesn't seem to be the way it works, for many people.

problem with the "everything in moderation" argument IMO is that the bar has been shifted. So while 50 years ago, kids had sweeties a few times a week, maybe on pocket money day, now its not just daily but often several times a day.

Theres plenty of stuff my kids aren't allowed to do, I don't expect it to become forbidden fruit later. I don't let them play in traffic. I'm still confident they won't feel the need to jaywalk excessively as teenagers. Its about setting standards for them.

didnt mean you are 'afeared' of food franny

just not giving your kids sweets symptomatic of wider food issues that I term 'fear of food'

agree with custardo btw

when i was little we had 2shillings to spend on sweets per week, which bought something for every day and 2oz of jar sweets..one week my sister (6 years older)siad she'd take the money added to her pocket money instead..so I promptly asked for the money instead too..given the choice I'd rather have money than sweets

Haven't read the whole thread but a good friend of mine was completely banned from sweets and sweet foods when she was younger. She used to gorge herself at parties
She ended up severely bulimic

F&Z, I'm disappointed. My imagination was running riot...

But I don't see anyone here obsessed over whether their child has had a chocolate drop at a party. I think it's offensive to say people who try to avoid sweets are obsessed and neurotic and afraid of food because we take a different line to you on what constitutes healthy eating. It's all about where you draw the line - I think if someone came in and said you were all weirdos because you don't take your kids to Mc Donalds 3 times a week you would be a bit narked.

Limit sugar and sweets

I have dd (nearly 7) and ds 8

I now use the sweetie thing to my advantage

They both get 20 lots of 5p's and lose them if the break any rules. On Friday we go to the sweet shop and they spend whatever they have left on whatever they want

As they can only have sweets on that day and need their 5 p's, lets just say their behaviour has improved loads :)

omg, have just had to go out and buy a pack of wine gums after reading this mmmmmm

yep, still craving Rhubarb and Custards....

Cod, as soon as your sons leave home they will hang round chip shops and stuff their faces with chips morning noon and night... :o

Cod, you think I have a plan ?

pmsl.

I think cod's sons will marry women who don't wear makeup, and do all sorts of other things she disapproves of.

Goodness me, imagine having cod as a MIL! I mean, the jerk chicken would be worth it, but the disapproval ...