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Lets Get Nutty a new house

238 replies

codswallop · 18/01/2004 14:43

the campaign starts here

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nutcracker · 17/02/2004 22:23

Thankyou FF. Just out of interest, what would you do ???? If it meant moving away from family and friends but moving to a better area for your kids i mean ???

Lisa78 · 17/02/2004 22:24

Move

Lisa78 · 17/02/2004 22:24

not that you were asking me, Nutty

stupidgirl · 17/02/2004 22:25

It sounds lovely. Is there any reason for you not to move away?

stupidgirl · 17/02/2004 22:26

Ah, sorry, posts crossed. Moving away from friends and family.

nutcracker · 17/02/2004 22:29

Thankyou Lisa. Your replies are always so to the point. Just what i need, i'm a dithering idiot at the mo

nutcracker · 17/02/2004 22:32

Meant to say to, that i may not be moving as far away from family as first thought, as my dad may be moving to france, and Dover is only 35 minutes away.
It's moving away from my mom and my my elder brother that really bothers me though. My mom lives alone and doesn't drive so i wouldn't see her very often. My brother lives with my dad at the mo, and we see him every saturday. My kids absolutly adore him, and him them. I would feel so guilty. Having said that though, he is 29 and he does drive, so...........

stupidgirl · 17/02/2004 22:33

Nutty, this is one which has been troubling me. I could probably afford to move if I moved somewhere away from here. But it would mean moving away from my parents and sister. I was never close to my grandparents until the end of their lives, and I regret that. I decided that it's more important for me to sustain the relationship between my parents and children, at the moment they are very close.

But it is a very personal decision, and obviously I don't know all the details of your situation. I would just say follow your heart. I would guess you don't have to make a decision right away? And presumably it would be reversable? Give it some time before rushing into a decision, but really, follow your heart.

Festivefly · 17/02/2004 22:37

Nutcracker, i'd move without thinking twice, i am totally not ready to stay where i am for the rest of my life. I have moved lots and lots. You will meet loads of new people and lifes an adventure

Lisa78 · 17/02/2004 22:37

Its amazing how much contact you will have with them Nutty, much more than you are expecting to have - friends and family. Plus you will make new friends
Plus, if you don't like it, you will be able to exchange back to your current area, but with a better home to swap and therefore more choice, yes???
I'd go - I don't think you have anything to lose

nutcracker · 17/02/2004 22:38

Thank you Stupidgirl. You are right, no final desicions have been made yet. My family are very important to me too but at the mo our housing situation is unbearable (overcrowded). It is causing a lot of problems beween me and dp and between me and the kids, as i am always in a foul mood. We haven't been offered anything around here at all, and it looks likely that we won't be offered anything for at least another year. We may be offered something close to here pretty soon, but it is on a bad estate, with not very good schools. I want the best for my kids, but am having trouble deciding wether what is best for them, is to be close to family, or living in a decent area, with a sane mother.

nutcracker · 17/02/2004 22:40

Lisa, exchanging back if we didn't like it had not occured to me, you are so clever , and you are right, we would be in a better exchanging position. Ooooh, i could kiss you, why didn't i think of that.

stupidgirl · 17/02/2004 22:41

Sympathies. I know how difficult these kinds of decisions are. Lots of soul searching. Best of luck with whatever you decide. It does sound lovely and Lisa has a good point.

tanzie · 17/02/2004 23:02

I agree with FF and Lisa, but I am a wanderer - have lived in 6 or 7 countries since early 20s and have lost count of the number of flats/houses.

Go for it. You only get one life (as far as we know...)

HiddenSpirit · 18/02/2004 00:12

NC looks like we may have to go down the transfer road too. Phoned council today and now the nearest to the top we are is 34 for the area we are in just now. In the last 3 years, 7 x 3bed houses have been allocated

Thinking about applying to Exeter council and using the give/receive support to/from family as DP's mum and nan (who is now 100!!!) live there. DP isn't too keen on the idea of moving back to his hometown though

fio2 · 18/02/2004 10:55

If you want to do it nutty do it. What does your husband think and what would he do for work? I bet your kids would love living near to the beach.

nutcracker · 18/02/2004 16:29

Thanks for all of the emails Fio. I have looked on the Holiday website you reccomended and they do have a house available for easter for 255. We are going to see what the pics and video are like on sunday and then if we want to go and look at the house we will book the holiday.
My dp thinks it would be fab down there. Haven't mentioned it to the kids at all yet. I told my mom that we were going to give it some serious consideration, and she didn't say much.
My dp is a pest controller, and would try to get a transfer, but if not then he would have to look for another job. Apparently, the airport near to there has just increased in size and has 400 jobs going.

nutcracker · 18/02/2004 16:31

HiddenSpirit - I know just how you feel. There are only 9 houses left on this whole estate that are not bought now. The lettings rate of 3 beds is 1 every 5 years.
Are you registered on any exchange web sites ????

SHIREENSMOM · 18/02/2004 16:50

whats the latest nutty are you moving . nikkixxx

HiddenSpirit · 18/02/2004 17:11

Not yet NC, I need to phone my housing officer as for some reason he hasn't given me my secure tenancy yet (supposed to get this after a year of tenancy, I've been here over 2)

Meant to do it today, but got caught up in sorting mountain of ironing out. Will defo be doing it tomorrow though.

Wish we could afford to buy

spacemonkey · 18/02/2004 17:30

The place in kent sounds really lovely (great to be so near the beach for the kids!), although i can totally understand your reservations about moving away from mum and brother - Lisa's point about exchanging back is a good one though. Hope things are better with dh too nutty - good luck X

nutcracker · 18/02/2004 21:43

Well i'm geting cold feet already. Am trying to convince myself, that this could be our big chance. Cannot shake the feeling though, that i would be making a big mistake, staying with dp. I'm just so sick of not being able to maker a desicion about my life properly. I feel like i'm living in limbo

fio2 · 19/02/2004 07:59

nutty I think we all worry about if we are doing the right thing or not. What happens if it all goes pearshaped, hey? You will most probably have a better chance of a swap to somewhere you like, thats if you dont decide to live down there because you love it so much. Hope things work out for you. How about just going down in easter, if you can afford it. Have a good Look round and if you like it, good if you dont, well you and the kids have had a holiday and you will know either way what you want to do.

HiddenSpirit · 19/02/2004 13:48

Seems I've had my secure tenancy for a while now NC I thought they would send me some sort of document to say so, but when I phoned she said I've had it for a while and I'm also in credit with my rent

Going to compose a little ad tonight to put on the council exchange forum, but somehow I can't see many people wanting to move from a 3 bed house to a 2 bed flat

nutcracker · 19/02/2004 16:11

Hate to be the bearer of bad news, but i have an add on the council exchange forum, it's been on there for 2 months and no replies. Have you tried the Available homes web site ???
Can't do links, bu it's www.availablehomes.org.uk
You can advertise your property (may have to send for form though) and you can look for exchanges and properties to rent. HTH