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Do you consider it morally wrong to...

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emkana · 05/03/2006 21:37

... agree to go on a date with a married man?

My friend went out the other night and ended up kissing a man who confessed to her that he was married. At the end of the evening they exchanged e/mail addresses, now he's been in touch to say he would like to see her again.

Do you consider it morally wrong to agree to meet this man? Personally I feel that I wouldn't want to see him really considering that he's willing to do this to his wife.

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colditz · 05/03/2006 23:36

Women are not nastier to each other than men ever are. Women don't generally beat each other senseless in front of their children, or gangrape other women.

Women being nastier to women than men are is a myth.

lockets · 05/03/2006 23:38

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harpsichordcarrier · 05/03/2006 23:39

yes agreed colditz
a myth that the feminists did their best to dispel

harpsichordcarrier · 05/03/2006 23:40

no lockets, no brothers
weird huh?

Mytwopenceworth · 05/03/2006 23:43

men dont 'generally' do that either colditz - viscious cowardly thugs do that, not the general normal male half of the population.

I was actually thinking of the bitching women do to / about one another. the undermining, hair / clothes / figure competition that goes on. the character assassination, the giggling bitchyness and so on and so forth - i know it's real, i see it every day.

lockets · 05/03/2006 23:43

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AngelaD · 05/03/2006 23:44

Yes it's wrong

colditz · 05/03/2006 23:46

But most of the people who are that nasty to women are men.

harpsichordcarrier · 05/03/2006 23:49

(lockets you are the youngest of five sisters? weirdy weirdy weird.... me too me too)

Mytwopenceworth · 05/03/2006 23:51

I guess i was just not thinking of such an extreme level of - well the word 'nasty' is not even anywhere the right one is it - visciousness.

i was thinking more of unsupportiveness, bitching, nastyness, unpleasantness.

do you see what i mean? i mean, its a whole other topic / area from what i was on about, dont know about anyone else!

nannyme · 05/03/2006 23:52

Couldn't and wouldn't - but easy said when not in that position.

Not sure if it is morally wrong, just not fairplay. It's not the 'other woman's' fault that the marriage is failing, and if it is failing then, it isn't as if the husband has a duty to stay in the marriage so not sure about morally wrong, again. Just a whole lot more considerate to end one relationship before embarking on another - and both the guy and the 'new' woman have a responsibility to make sure that happens first.

Always ten zillion times worse if poor innocent children suffer such deceit. Think it IS morally wrong to lie to or deceive a child.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 05/03/2006 23:54

Nannyme - this evening not going to plan so far Sad - will email you tomorrow.

sorry for hijack everyone!

colditz · 05/03/2006 23:55

I do see what you mean about the bitchiness, but I think a lot of that can be attributed to the fact that women get to hear what women say about women. It is a rare woman who gets to hear what apparently decent men say about women!

It is truer, I think, to say that women are nastier about women than men are about men.

I think also women are judged with higher standards - a comment from a woman's mouth is considered spiteful, whereas the same comment from a man is judged thoughtless or stupid. Society expects less of men.

lockets · 05/03/2006 23:58

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nannyme · 06/03/2006 00:03

Ok vvv - sorry to hear it is not so good in the sleep dept. do i hear richard and jusy beckoning?

Suret hing, catch up with me tomorrow - we could have a random hijacking type correspondence that would amuse!

harpsichordcarrier · 06/03/2006 00:03

honestly, though, does anyone remember when bitching about other women was absolutely not acceptable?
I must say it makes me go all prickly to hear it now...
The Sisterhood - we all support each other, we don;t collude with men and we don't believe all their stupid excuses (my wife doesn't understand me etc tec)
it's an idea worth reviving

nannyme · 06/03/2006 00:03

ha ha ha jusy judy!

VeniVidiVickiQV · 06/03/2006 00:09

LOL NM!

Right, have to go, baby beckons Sad

brimfull · 06/03/2006 00:13

Definately,how would she feel about a woman who dated a partner of hers ?

serenity · 06/03/2006 00:19

If you make a choice to sleep with someone who is married, then you are supporting their decision to commit adultery and that then makes you just as selfish and reprehensible as they are. 50/50 guilt and blame in my book.

SoupDragon · 06/03/2006 09:48

Comp[letely and utterly wrong

hockeymum · 06/03/2006 10:13

Haven't read this thread through but IMO it's stupid to go out with a married man, she's only setting herself (and a whole strong of others) up for heartache)

IMO It is wrong for the married person as they are the one committing adultery, it's not morally wrong for the single person, but it is selfish, rude and b+++y stupid!

batters · 06/03/2006 10:44

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SoupDragon · 06/03/2006 10:48

I think it is morally wrong for the single person. It's like saying that it's not morally wrong to help someone commit a robbery if you're not the one actually doing the stealing.

batters · 06/03/2006 10:51

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